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Re: Gay couple & adopted kids moving to Basel

Thanks for that. The kids have just turned 8 and 9 so I think that at that age they still have time to thoroughly learn the language and integrate. We are definitely leaning more towards Basel than France.
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We are definitely leaning more towards Basel than France.
Alsace is Alsace....
Another point here: Alsace outside Basel is country side, Basel is urban (it is in Swiss context). That makes a difference independently of the fact that it is not the same country.
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Old 18.11.2013, 16:49
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Re: Gay couple & adopted kids moving to Basel

Do you speak French and/or German? I live in France and while it's otherwise lovely, if neither of you speaks the language, it can be quite challenging to deal with the administration.
While it's rural, due to lower living costs, the small villages around the border are full of immigrants working in Basel, so you wouldn't be the only foreigner in the village.
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Thanks for that. The kids have just turned 8 and 9 so I think that at that age they still have time to thoroughly learn the language and integrate. We are definitely leaning more towards Basel than France.
I would agree. However, you may want to prepare them that the first year is going to be tough, wherever you go. New language, new culture, new house, new friends, new teachers, it all just takes a lot of time to get into a new rhythm. Don't let it stop you, just manage it well by preparing for the move together. Involve them in your decisions (without letting them make the decisions), and ask their opinions. Show them the maps of the various places, where schools are, where the library is, how to get to school, etc....

Especially if you can come for a visit before the actual move, take the kids with you and show them everything. Good preparation makes a substantial difference.
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Old 19.11.2013, 13:40
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Thanks for that. The kids have just turned 8 and 9 so I think that at that age they still have time to thoroughly learn the language and integrate...
My eldest was 10 when we arrived. He integrated without any problem.
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I would agree. However, you may want to prepare them that the first year is going to be tough, wherever you go. New language, new culture, new house, new friends, new teachers, it all just takes a lot of time to get into a new rhythm. Don't let it stop you, just manage it well by preparing for the move together. Involve them in your decisions (without letting them make the decisions), and ask their opinions. Show them the maps of the various places, where schools are, where the library is, how to get to school, etc....

Especially if you can come for a visit before the actual move, take the kids with you and show them everything. Good preparation makes a substantial difference.
Thanks. I totally agree with you. We have already bought them some age appropriate books about Switzwerland, installed a 'learn German' app on their tablets and have asked them what will be important to them when looking for a new flat. My partner will make the move at the beginning of Jan and will hopefully have time to sort quite a lot of stuff out before we make a long weekend visit. The kids and I will follow when our house here is sold. Any other specific tips on what to show them, how to prepare them would be most welcome. Thanks again.
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Re: Gay couple & adopted kids moving to Basel

It sounds like you're doing everything you can to make the move as smoothly as possible for your kids and yourselves. It'll take time, but surely work out nicely.
Can you send the kids to some German classes while you wrap things up?
Unfortunately not in English, but perhaps this will be useful: http://www.regenbogenfamilien.ch/
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Do you speak French and/or German? I live in France and while it's otherwise lovely, if neither of you speaks the language, it can be quite challenging to deal with the administration.
While it's rural, due to lower living costs, the small villages around the border are full of immigrants working in Basel, so you wouldn't be the only foreigner in the village.
Hi Ullainga, we speak French and German, and are tempted to live in france (currently in UK). Our daughters are 3, 6 and 9. Would you have any recommendations? Any thoughts on schools? Thanks!
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Hi Ullainga, we speak French and German, and are tempted to live in france (currently in UK). Our daughters are 3, 6 and 9. Would you have any recommendations? Any thoughts on schools? Thanks!
As said, there are many small villages around the border, so if you can come over before the move, I would take some time to drive around the area. Also take a look at the real estate sites to see what's available - we didn't have our hearts set on a particular village, but moved there because we found the perfect house (were previously living in Switzerland). Are planning to buy or rent?

Can't say much about schools yet, as my son is just a baby, but he will go to the village primary - other parents seem to be happy with it and it will be great for him to have lots of local friends.
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Re: Gay couple & adopted kids moving to Basel

Thanks Ullainga. We are planning to come for a few days in April, to do just that, drive around Basel and the bordering villages in France and Germany. We would ideally love to buy (we currently own our house in the UK). However this seems quite difficult in Switzerland given the prices and what we would be looking for...

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We would ideally love to buy (we currently own our house in the UK). However this seems quite difficult in Switzerland given the prices and what we would be looking for...

Thanks again.
Exactly the reason why we moved to France. You can PM me when you're here in April, happy to show you around and share my experiences.
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Re: Gay couple & adopted kids moving to Basel

I think it's absolutely disgusting and a complete disgrace!











Why would anyone want to move to Basel, when Zürich rocks?
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Re: Gay couple & adopted kids moving to Basel

We are a gay couple and an interracial family (twin girls 6 years old), we will be moving to the Geneva area in May - not sure exactly where yet. I am wondering how you are doing if you are actually now living in Basel? Like you we are worried about the lack of racial diversity in State/public schools, and the level of acceptance we will face as a family. What wisdom can you share with us?

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We are a gay couple and an interracial family (twin girls 6 years old), we will be moving to the Geneva area in May - not sure exactly where yet. I am wondering how you are doing if you are actually now living in Basel? Like you we are worried about the lack of racial diversity in the schools, and the level of acceptance we will face as a family. What wisdom can you share with us?

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I think you'll be hard pressed to find a school in Switzerland that doesn't have a huge racial diversity.
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Re: Gay couple & adopted kids moving to Basel

As said above, about any region of Switzerland - You will love it.

Geneva, we don't bat an eyelid about the colour of parents or children.

Or their chosen partners. As long as everyone is happy and ... why does that song roll around my head...!!!?
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We are a gay couple and an interracial family (twin girls 6 years old), we will be moving to the Geneva area in May

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Don't worry for Geneva The place is so mixed, the city has seen it all. You'll have some communities of all origines where people are very much "inward centred" but you don't have to hang around with those poeple.
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I think you'll be hard pressed to find a school in Switzerland that doesn't have a huge racial diversity.
Wonderful news - does this diversity extend to Swiss schools too? Or is most of the diversity in international schools?

Thanks for the responses, very encouraging!

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We are a gay couple and an interracial family (twin girls 6 years old), we will be moving to the Geneva area in May - not sure exactly where yet. I am wondering how you are doing if you are actually now living in Basel? Like you we are worried about the lack of racial diversity in State/public schools, and the level of acceptance we will face as a family. What wisdom can you share with us?

Thank you,

Joey
Hi Joey,

My partner is now in Basel and the children and I will be heading over next month. The children are going to go a local Swiss school. My partner has visited the school to discuss the children starting there, he was pleased and encouraged by the positive response he received. The school were not aware of any other gay parents or adopted children at the school (which is very different to where we are in Manchester) however, they were very positive about the idea and encouraged openness. We are pleased about this as we have always been very open about our family structure and believe that this is important for the children's sense of identity. When will you be moving over to Switzerland?
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Re: Gay couple & adopted kids moving to Basel

I see you will be here in May. Should read posts more carefully before asking questions you have already answered
Best of luck with the preparations and the move.
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Re: Gay couple & adopted kids moving to Basel

Thanks so much for your response! I wish you all luck in your move. Maybe we will get the chance to cross paths!

Joey
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