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Selective reduction of multiple pregnancy

Hello

I'm new to Basel. I'm pregnant and had a scan recently and found out it's twins. We already have a 4 year old and not in a position to physically or
Financially take care of twins. I know it's a controversial topic,
And sensitive but we are thinking about selective reduction.
Would appreciate anyone who has gone through this here In Basel or could suggest a doctor with whom we could talk to about this.

Thanks in Advance.
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Old 15.09.2015, 16:23
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Hello

I'm new to Basel. I'm pregnant and had a scan recently and found out it's twins. We already have a 4 year old and not in a position to physically or
Financially take care of twins. I know it's a controversial topic,
And sensitive but we are thinking about selective reduction.
Would appreciate anyone who has gone through this here In Basel or could suggest a doctor with whom we could talk to about this.

Thanks in Advance.
This is really not a topic for a public forum. Personnaly i wouldn't as you'll alwys regret it.
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Re: Selective reduction of multiple pregnancy

As I said I'm new here and have no idea where else to ask and that too in English. If you direct me to which forum I can ask
This question I would highly appreciate.
And as I also mentioned it's something we are thinking
About and would like to talk to someone. Judgement is something I hope
To avoid since no one knows how it is to be In another's shoes!
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Re: Selective reduction of multiple pregnancy

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Hello

I'm new to Basel. I'm pregnant and had a scan recently and found out it's twins. We already have a 4 year old and not in a position to physically or
Financially take care of twins. I know it's a controversial topic,
And sensitive but we are thinking about selective reduction.
Would appreciate anyone who has gone through this here In Basel or could suggest a doctor with whom we could talk to about this.

Thanks in Advance.
i believe the rules for allowing termination require that the health of the baby or the mother are at risk. for a full termination, i suspect the mother's mental health is used as a justification - not sure if that would fly for a selective reduction.

you need to talk to your doctor to understand what your options are.
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As I said I'm new here and have no idea where else to ask and that too in English. If you direct me to which forum I can ask
This question I would highly appreciate.
And as I also mentioned it's something we are thinking
About and would like to talk to someone. Judgement is something I hope
To avoid since no one knows how it is to be In another's shoes!

I really can't imagine any anonymous forum can give you any assistance here, the termination is one thing, the mental aspect is another, probably more important aspect.

Ask your doctor first to recommend a professionaly trained person to talk you through the options AND MORE IMPORTANTLY, the consequences.

Physically i cannot comment, finacially you will be able to recieve assistance from the commune/canton if you fit to certain criteria, health insurance will be reduced or subsidised, subsidised housing is also available.

You didn't say if it was a single egg that split or 2 eggs that got fertilised, if it was 1 egg, then don't do it, the damage later on will be far more.

I've no idea where yopu live, what you do, prospects etc etc, but you'll find people will be willing to help when you need it.
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Re: Selective reduction of multiple pregnancy

Your gynaecologist or doctor will be the person to speak to. The clinic for pregnancy termination in Zurich is called the 'Frauenklinik'... They should be able to provide advice and support. i assume they also have a Frauenklinik at the big hospital in Basel, or elsewhere in the city.

You need to act quickly, as you have a short window before the termination options become much more complex or impossible. If the two embryos share an amniotic sack or placenta it may be highly risky or impossible to terminate just one.

I assume you are less than 16 weeks...
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Re: Selective reduction of multiple pregnancy

i suggest you talk to your doctor about this and he/she can refer you to a specialist if required.

i had no idea such selective operations were even possible.
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Re: Selective reduction of multiple pregnancy

Controversial highly emotive first post. Either an indication of desperation or sockpuppetry.

Assuming the first, yes you're probably in the wrong place, but it's easy to find a more appropriate one.
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Controversial highly emotive first post. Either an indication of desperation or sockpuppetry.

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Sockpuppet - never heard that term before. Thanks for adding the link
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Re: Selective reduction of multiple pregnancy

Let's secure this place for helpful information. Seems like OP has enough destress to confront as it is. Thanks, guys.
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Re: Selective reduction of multiple pregnancy

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Hello

I'm new to Basel. I'm pregnant and had a scan recently and found out it's twins. We already have a 4 year old and not in a position to physically or
Financially take care of twins. I know it's a controversial topic,
And sensitive but we are thinking about selective reduction.
Would appreciate anyone who has gone through this here In Basel or could suggest a doctor with whom we could talk to about this.

Thanks in Advance.
I can't imagine that anyone would do this unless they were in such a desperate situation that even one more child would be unmanageable.

Twins are amazing, and if the child (as he or she gets older) ever finds out you terminated their twin then the psychological repercussions are likely to be very severe.

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As I said I'm new here and have no idea where else to ask and that too in English. If you direct me to which forum I can ask
This question I would highly appreciate.
And as I also mentioned it's something we are thinking
About and would like to talk to someone. Judgement is something I hope
To avoid since no one knows how it is to be In another's shoes!
You must know full well if you have even a shred of common sense that you could go to a local doctor to ask about this without posting it on a public forum, though it is admittedly your right to do so.
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Let's secure this place for helpful information. Seems like OP has enough destress to confront as it is. Thanks, guys.
I fully agree, but wouldn't the gynaecologist be best placed to answer this question?

Being currently pregnant myself I would not imagine googling this sort of information or asking a forum of strangers before 1st talking to a doctor, or consulting the local hospital for information. The impact on her health or that of the baby is serious and should be discussed with a professional 1st.
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Re: Selective reduction of multiple pregnancy

Even though abortion is legal in CH, I do not believe selective reduction is.

From what I read, there is one location in Basel where it is not done for sure.

Agree with the others, discuss this with your care provider, EF is absolutely the wrong, too public and non-medicoprofessional of a place to discuss this. This is between you, your partner and your provider.
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I fully agree, but wouldn't the gynaecologist be best placed to answer this question?

Being currently pregnant myself I would not imagine googling this sort of information or asking a forum of strangers before 1st talking to a doctor, or consulting the local hospital for information. The impact on her health or that of the baby is serious and should be discussed with a professional 1st.
As someone who was pregnant with twins: I googled anything and everything. I also asked doctors, but I also googled.

I was googling specifically for medical literature though, pretty much avoided online forums like the plague.

I guess it's a question of personal style though. There are plenty of people on all those forums so somebody must find them helpful.
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Even though abortion is legal in CH, I do not believe selective reduction is.

Agree with the others, discuss this with your care provider, EF is absolutely the wrong, too public and non-medicoprofessional of a place to discuss this. This is between you, your partner and your provider.
It's legal but ethically controversial (especially the twin-to-singleton case) and rarely performed, so naturally not heavily advertised. I googled "zwillingsreduktion schweiz" for the OP and all I got were horse vets. Agree that their best bet is to ask the gynecologist for a referral to prenatal counseling.
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Re: Selective reduction of multiple pregnancy

If one person can give particular info that would help OP (we don't know how much she knows and how prepared she wants to be before going to a doctor nor how happy she is with the info she has received there so far), her quest is justified.

Let's not assume and under-estimate our membership. I would not want her to face any unnecessary, unsolicited judgment as everyone can probably imagine how painfully difficult the decision making is for her, being a busy mom already and loaded with a potent dose of pregnancy hormones.

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Re: Selective reduction of multiple pregnancy

I can't help with your questions but wanted to express my sincere wishes for you to find the answers you're looking for and to hold on there, it's a tough situation and there are no wrong paths here no matter what anyone tells you.

It takes bravery to ask for help, whatever you choose make sure it's what you want and not pressure from anyone.
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If one person can give particular info that would help OP (we don't know how much she knows and how prepared she wants to be before going to a doctor nor how happy she is with the info she has received there so far), her quest is justified.

Let's not assume and under-estimate our membership. I would not want her to face any unnecessary, unsolicited judgment as everyone can probably imagine how painfully difficult the decision making is for her, being a busy mom already and loaded with a potent dose of pregnancy hormones.

Thanks.
I can't begin to tell you how grateful I'm for your support here . I have Ofcourse spoken to a doctor, not very happy with the answer and I attributed it to language barrier. Was feeling utterly lost and with no family support to speak of since all my family lives too far I was grasping at straws. Yes I know it's a public forum but right now talking to people I know was something I wanted to avoid to escape right now what I received . A lot of judgement and flak. No it's not snow puppetry whatever that is, and this topic isn't one I assume anyone would make light of! In US , it's commonly discussed with suggestions of good docs to consult, I assumed someone would be helpful . This being a very large forum.
Sorry if I hurt anyone's sentiments!!
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Re: Selective reduction of multiple pregnancy

Sorry about your ordeal. Do you need a recommendation for an English speaking, gentle doctor? Ideally someone who takes time in thoroughly discussing all options (e.g. adoption) and puts you in touch with English speaking social workers, counselors and other support systems. I have a few recommendations. Please PM me if you need any help. Wishing you all the best.
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I can't imagine that anyone would do this unless they were in such a desperate situation that even one more child would be unmanageable.

Twins are amazing, and if the child (as he or she gets older) ever finds out you terminated their twin then the psychological repercussions are likely to be very severe.



You must know full well if you have even a shred of common sense that you could go to a local doctor to ask about this without posting it on a public forum, though it is admittedly your right to do so.
If you had a single thought before posting this suggestion, every time you google either the options are based in US or UK. I'm in Switzerland . This is not a easy thing for me. Nor am I stupid. I exhausted all other options first before coming here. Being a little kind and sensitive to a stranger never hurt !
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