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Swiss Culture and Stay at Home Dads

I am wondering how Swiss culture thinks of fathers who decide to take care of the family over a career. We made this decision and have not regretted it. I'm wondering Judy in case a move to Geneva happens (1:1000 odds).

My wife was in Geneva a couple weeks back. During our conversations, my wife mentioned that a position may be opening up that she would be interested in and wanted to know what I think...

Oy

Since this is merely an academic exercise right now, I am saying yes so long as the job is good, plays enough for us to live at roughly the same standard of living, and we can find a good school for the girls. Everything else is flexible at this point... Semper Gumby.

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Old 28.12.2016, 18:58
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Re: Swiss Culture and Stay at Home Dads

A neighbor of mine does it.

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Old 28.12.2016, 23:08
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Re: Swiss Culture and Stay at Home Dads

A number of men in my office work part time (all Swiss). I know a few ex-pat dads who stay home 100%. I don't think people really care... or rather the Swiss admire men who watch the kids but loath mum's who work.
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Old 28.12.2016, 23:22
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A number of men in my office work part time (all Swiss). I know a few ex-pat dads who stay home 100%. I don't think people really care
Same in my enviroment. Lots of guys wanna be active dads so at least they work part time. Anyway, what do you care (OP) what the Swiss think about it? If your familiy is happy with the decision, that's good enough?

Only if you start moaning about being a stay-at-home-Dad you got a problem. The Swiss don't like moaners, that's why the expats had to build their own forum
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Same in my enviroment. Lots of guys wanna be active dads so at least they work part time. Anyway, what do you care (OP) what the Swiss think about it? If your familiy is happy with the decision, that's good enough?

Only if you start moaning about being a stay-at-home-Dad you got a problem. The Swiss don't like moaners, that's why the expats had to build their own forum
No moaning or regrets here. Just wondering how the Swiss treat families that go this route. I do admit it has been a little hard on the kids with play dates. Some women are not comfortable with men they do not know hanging around. Whatever.
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No moaning or regrets here. Just wondering how the Swiss treat families that go this route. I do admit it has been a little hard on the kids with play dates. Some women are not comfortable with men they do not know hanging around. Whatever.
Make them get to know you. It's easy via kindergarden/school(sport events etc.
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A neighbor of mine does it.

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yap, one of mine does too.
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No moaning or regrets here. Just wondering how the Swiss treat families that go this route. I do admit it has been a little hard on the kids with play dates. Some women are not comfortable with men they do not know hanging around. Whatever.
Hmm I'm not sure the Swiss do play dates that way... usually you just dropped the little dears of at the door or perhaps that is just in our area.
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Hmm I'm not sure the Swiss do play dates that way... usually you just dropped the little dears of at the door or perhaps that is just in our area.
When they are about 5 they tend to be drop off, unless you are meeting for a movie, a bounce place, or other public place. When my oldest was in kindergarden I had a few requests for playdates. "What is your wife's phone number? I want to arrange a play time." Sure", I say... "Here is my number. I'm home with the kids. I'm happy to come over or drop her off."

Oh....

And then they never call. Oh well.

If this ever happens. I might start an English speaking expat dad's group.
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Re: Swiss Culture and Stay at Home Dads

plenty of stay-at-home fathers in the expat community, either by choice or where, like you, the wife's job has induced the move - and also amongst the locals (one local colleague has a stay-at-home husband, and we live near a Kindergarten - I see parents walk the children over the busy road then leave them to do the rest on their own).

Switzerland is a far less suspicious society than US/UK, so you'd probably have less of the "man hanging round kids" nonsense as well.
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Re: Swiss Culture and Stay at Home Dads

I id it for a few years here, culturally it was not an issue but this may vary depending where you live, the school system is built around the expectation that one parent is at home. The bigger issue will be your isolation is multiplied several fold for various reasons, language and the conservative nature of the Swiss to open themselves up to new people (it is a long formal process compared to elsewhere). Search here a bit for "stay at home" spouses/dads to get a feel for others experiences and solutions, there were a lot of days/weeks where the only adult conversations were with my wife, this is not for everyone.
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When they are about 5 they tend to be drop off, unless you are meeting for a movie, a bounce place, or other public place. When my oldest was in kindergarden I had a few requests for playdates. "What is your wife's phone number? I want to arrange a play time." Sure", I say... "Here is my number. I'm home with the kids. I'm happy to come over or drop her off."

Oh....

And then they never call. Oh well.

If this ever happens. I might start an English speaking expat dad's group.
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Re: Swiss Culture and Stay at Home Dads

Hi All

I am a stay at home Dad with my 10 month old son. We live near Etoy. We go to Auntie Jos play group on a Wednesday in Vich. Would love to meet other Dads who also stay at home. Only been here since January so dont know many people.
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Re: Swiss Culture and Stay at Home Dads

My husband is at home full time at our house. My brother-in-law works 60% while my sister works 100%, so he is home more than she is. Men working part time to help with childcare is quite common here, it is less common for men to be home 100%. But there is no stigma attached to this. My husband helps out with our school's snack hut and he is the only guy. Nobody seems to mind. He now has a lot of women friends, and when he is out for coffee with them he gets some weird looks sometimes from people that know him or them, they must think he has multiple affairs. We just laugh about it.
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