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Help my [sister in law's] husband died

I am writing on behalf of my sister in law and the story is sad and kind of complicated. My sister in law is Costa Rican. She met her husband some 8 years ago ,they married and she moved to his place in VAUD (Montereux).
Time went and she got Swiss citizenship. Some time ago her mother got health problems and she went to Costa Rica to take care of her. 3 days ago she got a call from her husbands daughter (from his first marriage) that he had died in the apartment . My sister in law is totally lost and does not know where to start . For one the apartment where he died is sealed from the police. Also she does not want to stay where he died, matter of fact his dead changed her plans completely and she wants to move permanent back to Costa Rica. Now- her husband was already retired and she is wondering how to claim the pension for herself. Also he had savings and a few bankaccounts ,but she does not know how to get access and if she is better off to get a lawyer ? Anyone please , if you have any advise for her that could help her getting through all of this it would be greatly appreciated. I guess what I am looking for is kind of preparation so when she gets to VAUD she has a plan what to do and is prepared . Thank you.
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Re: Help my husband died

If the apartment is still sealed, there is an ongoing investigation? She will need to wait for the investigation to complete firstly.
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Old 18.01.2018, 08:26
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Re: Help my husband died

This may get her started.

https://www.ch.ch/en/death/

https://www.ch.ch/en/inheritance/

Was a will made?
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Re: Help my husband died

There’s also at least one daughter involved, so getting your hands on any money may not be plain sailing...

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Old 18.01.2018, 09:00
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Re: Help my [sister in law's] husband died

If she is the wife, she will have to deal with administrative issues regarding her husband's death. She is the next of kin and the one who needs to do this not the daughter.

Is she not coming back for the funeral?

If my husband had died, I would be on the next plane home.

She can't bury her head in the sand. She needs to take care of things! If it was a rented apartment she will have to give notice, clear it out and she will need to pay rent until that is done. She will owe this money. Not the daughter.

And that's just the start! Your 'sister' needs to get on a plane ASAP.
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If it was a rented apartment she will have to give notice, clear it out and she will need to pay rent until that is done. She will owe this money. Not the daughter.
Actually, neither, the estate pays the funeral and all debts until the estate is divided.

BTDT.

The apartment is typically sealed for three months or so (even if no-one died there), and an inventory must be done.

In MIL's case, we asked the police to un-seal it, and to do so we went with lawyer and the police, they did the inventory, wife and lawyer signed off on it.

BTDT.

Easiest is have a lawyer deal with it all.

BTDT.

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If she is the wife, she will have to deal with administrative issues regarding her husband's death. She is the next of kin and the one who needs to do this not the daughter.

Is she not coming back for the funeral?

If my husband had died, I would be on the next plane home.

She can't bury her head in the sand. She needs to take care of things! If it was a rented apartment she will have to give notice, clear it out and she will need to pay rent until that is done. She will owe this money. Not the daughter.

And that's just the start! Your 'sister' needs to get on a plane ASAP.
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I guess what I am looking for is kind of preparation so when she gets to VAUD she has a plan what to do and is prepared . Thank you.
Started the day too early miniMia?
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if she is better off to get a lawyer ?
Seriously, what do you think? The answer to that question is obvious.
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Interesting tags.
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Re: Help my [sister in law's] husband died



Absolutely! Didn´t notice yet but oh my yes
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I'm assuming this was started on a Thursday to achieve peak trolling on Friday?
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Actually, neither, the estate pays the funeral and all debts until the estate is divided.

BTDT.

The apartment is typically sealed for three months or so (even if no-one died there), and an inventory must be done.

In MIL's case, we asked the police to un-seal it, and to do so we went with lawyer and the police, they did the inventory, wife and lawyer signed off on it.

BTDT.

Easiest is have a lawyer deal with it all.

BTDT.

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The 'estate' is part of her money. The point is she as the wife (who is MIL?) will have to do the paperwork.

And yes, better she gets a lawyer.
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Old 18.01.2018, 10:33
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Started the day too early miniMia?
I find it strange she didn't get on a plane the next day. Her biggest worry is the pension fund???
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Old 18.01.2018, 10:37
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The 'estate' is part of her money.
Only what's left after the bills have been paid. The bills get paid first, then anything left becomes her (and other heirs) money (or debt).

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(who is MIL?)
Mother In Law.

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The apartment is typically sealed for three months or so (even if no-one died there), and an inventory must be done.




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So what happens if there are other people living in the property at the time of death?
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Old 18.01.2018, 11:49
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So what happens if there are other people living in the property at the time of death?
Each one who dies as a result of being entombed within the apartment adds an extra 3 months.
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Re: Help my [sister in law's] husband died

Police can seal while investigating cause of death, tax authority can seal until an inventory is made.

However, unlikely in case of a joint appartment and 3 months would be excessive...
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So what happens if there are other people living in the property at the time of death?
Life goes on. My stepmother was not moved out of the house after my father suddenly died at home.
In my uncle's case his life companion (they didn't live together and he died in hospital) and people from Erbschaftsamt (inheritance office) went in to do the inventory, then it was left to us (nieces and nephew) to empty the flat, cancel the contract, pay the rent, return it, etc. etc..
I guess in this case it's sealed because he died home alone and also because the wife is not in the country.
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Old 18.01.2018, 12:54
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tax authority can seal until an inventory is made
Nothing to do with taxes here, rather the inheritance office.

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