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I recently got a new job in Basel. I moved from London! I get depressed because I want a girlfriend and friends but I sit here on weekends all alone cause I’m in this country all by myself. I find myself feeling really isolated and don’t know what to do. I don't speak the local language. Tomorrow is my birthday and I haven’t got anything planned lol!
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Re: Depression

Follow the link here that I linked to it in response to your first post. Ask there if anyone wants to meet with you and help you celebrate your birthday. Or here. Have you not made contact with anyone in your workplace?

Go to Flannagan's, Paddy Riley's or Pickwick's. Full of people who speak English. That's what I did when I arrived here on my own back in 2002.
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Re: Depression

Hi Justin,
Why not do try something different?
McTavge is organizing / or is part of a Ceilidh Scottish Dancing evening tomorrow in Geneva
https://www.englishforum.ch/entertai...-november.html
You could enjoy a night out 😊
Don’t stay home on your birthday !
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Re: Depression

Happy birthday for tomorrow. Just have fun by yourself then and spoil yourself rotten in the local pub with both the strangers and locals. Then you will surely make some friends. Things will fall into place then!
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Re: Depression

You aren't going to make friends when sitting home

First - sign up for a language course. That's a GREAT way to integrate and to get known people. I'd suggest Migros Klubschule, but pretty much any program will be better than nothing.

Second - depending on your company, there might be a lot of events/programs to attend, mostly sports - great to get known your coworkers and to find friends within the work environment. If there isn't much at work, check your local community centers, often there are sport activities offered there. Or just head for some swimming, or literally anything that makes you "moving" out of your comfort zone.

Third - as a "quick fix", head for local pubs (as others said already) for a drink is never wrong.

Fourth - take a trip to Zürich, much more international than Basel and easier to make friends here I'll happily have a beer with you tomorrow. On a more serious note, if you like travelling, worth to get a Half Fare card or even a GA (all travel included) - depends what public transport fare you already use, this won't even be THAT more expensive and allows you to travel the whole country. There is LOT to be explored.
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Re: Depression

I know someone who took dance lessons and went boxing and seems pretty comfortable here within a short time.
Thinking about this, it's the perfect way to meet many people casually as both these sports demand a regular partner change in order to learn it properly. teamsports of course do the trick as well.

However, let me wish you a happy birthday, as it has already started.
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Hi everyone.

I recently got a new job in Basel. I moved from London! I get depressed because I want a girlfriend and friends but I sit here on weekends all alone cause I’m in this country all by myself. I find myself feeling really isolated and don’t know what to do. I don't speak the local language. Tomorrow is my birthday and I haven’t got anything planned lol!
Good luck in the social winderness of Switzerland. And happy birthday!
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Re: Depression

Happy birthday mate.
Get out for the day, blow some cash, enjoy the weekend.

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Re: Depression

I know the feeling, but personally I find it strange to use lol with the word "depression" or are you more feeling "down" and "fed up"? Not quite the same.
Having had to deal with living suddenly by myself, I know how you feel on a day like your birthday especially, Xmas being another tough one for lonely people.


Daytime (today): dress to kill, go to a shop and buy yourself something nice, treat yourself to a nice brunch, don't forget to take your favourite book or go to an international newsagent and get a newspaper from back home.


Depending on what you like, visit a museum, a library, check what's on through your local expats links... Tell "Gruezi/Bonjour" to as many people you see, you'll feel good.


Evening: go and listen to some live music, treat yourself to a nice restaurant (not a top range, fussy, formal one where no one will talk to you but one buzzing with locals...even without the language, look at people, smile, someone will react and engage the conversation with you).
In November, we Scots celebrate St Andrew with a ceilidh (big Scottish dance party,, great fun!). There's bound to be some around your way, check it out and get back to me to praise Scottish hospitality and sense of partying! If all fails, come to ours in Geneva, but that's a bit far from Basel.


Most importantly, Happy Birthday!
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Re: Depression

Happy Birthday!

And as others have said, don't stay at home. There's plenty of clubs, evening classes and groups you can join up with. Check out Meet-up, there's also a FB group for internationals in Basel, just post an intro and see what's going on today.

Or come to Zürich (it's only an hour on the train). I run a small bar and Saturday afternoon there's always a big bunch of international people, some couples, many single (including lots of nice girls!). I'll buy you a beer for your birthday!
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Re: Depression

Use meet-up www.meetup.com and enter your city. This has been a life saver for me. There are events every night of the week and most of the attendees are young single types who have moved to CH and are looking to make friends/meet people. It's not all boozing either and they also do things like hikes and excursions. Failing that, you can always get yourself a "lady of the night" haha.
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Re: Depression

Justin, Happy Birthday !!!!! 😊
Something about your words makes me believe you are in your 20s ?
If so, may I kindly suggest you check the social events at Basel uni ?
There are always lots of student get-togethers and evenings.
Sign up to audit/follow an evening English literature course and as a native speaker you’ll soon be involved and meeting other young people.

I loved the thoughts on this thread and will borrow a few.
Life can be so lonely sometimes 🌸
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Happy Birthday!

And as others have said, don't stay at home. There's plenty of clubs, evening classes and groups you can join up with. Check out Meet-up, there's also a FB group for internationals in Basel, just post an intro and see what's going on today.

Or come to Zürich (it's only an hour on the train). I run a small bar and Saturday afternoon there's always a big bunch of international people, some couples, many single (including lots of nice girls!). I'll buy you a beer for your birthday!
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Re: Depression

Not sure how close or convenient it is but I think there is a big restaurant exhibition in Basel this weekend. From my experience, that is an industry with many open and friendly people. Maybe they have an evening program with some social events. You could probably find some English speaking folks to hangout with just from overheard conversation.

Happy Birthday, too. 😊
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Re: Depression

As others have mentioned:
Join a club
Do a language course
Do sport and keep yourself fit
Join a few online dating websites and go on a few dates
Test the water and see if you can invite a few work colleagues to go out and meet socially
DON’T stay at home on your own
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Re: Depression

All of this advice is solid--but you might want to consider talking to someone as well. There are several english speaking therapists around the city and if what you're struggling with is depression the best thing to do (and likely the thing yo least want to do) is talk about it with someone. Just my two cents! Good luck Justin, I hope your birthday was a good day!
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