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That's just it. We don't know what kind of person you really are. Your story may be your version of the truth or it may be a tall tale used to help you find ways to contact your daughter again, which somebody is clearly trying to stop you from.

We just don't know what's the truth so if I'm saying your post sounded creepy, it's because some motherly instinct raised an alarm at reading your words.
Please read the full thread before jumping to conclusions, thank you
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Old 04.05.2020, 14:08
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Please read the full thread before jumping to conclusions, thank you
I did and it makes me none the wiser.

Wishing you and your family peace in all of this.
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Old 04.05.2020, 16:21
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From the man who rushed to the wrong conclusion that OP had been accused of sexual abuse of his own daughter and posted that online for everyone who had not even thought of that to consider!
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This isn't about me.

The fact remains that it's impossible to prove a negative. You simply can't.
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As I have said repeatedly, this man and his ex-wife are strangers to us all and we have no way of deciphering what is fact, what is fiction and what is convenient half truths.
No shit, Sherlock. Next thing you're going to say that applies the other way round, too.
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Apparently he was accused by a child, his own daughter. Yes, I will grant that the wife could have coerced her and put words in the daughter's mouth.
A child aged 10 years.
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I did and it makes me none the wiser.
Perhaps I may take the liberty of enlightening you. Wiser.....that’s up to you, not me.

I started a thread and asked for advice or pearls of wisdom, right? Clue: was what you posted either of those?

Perhaps the general idea of the forum thread might just be exactly that: that you reply with advice, pearls of wisdom, maybe both. Do you think I could be correct?

Now, if you think I make creepy posts and you say so (again: that’s not what I asked for by the way), there is by default another negative assumption/insinuation that is made to a wider audience. Fact, right?. Think about that. Thank you so much.

Matters like mine are somewhat delicate, certainly very personal. When OP’s ask, I take the view that before I post any reply, I read carefully what I wish to contribute then give some consideration of time. Then guess what? I read it again and try to get the right tone before pressing the post button. Because I am conscious that whatever I write may indeed be wholly truthful and valid from my perspective but may be read by the recipient as blasé, unrequested and perhaps even inappropriate. It could just possibly cause hurt. And in my case, I don’t need any more of that. That’s my free and unrequested pearl of wisdom to you, Okidoki?

Second: may I ask, you referred to a “we” as in “we don’t know who you are”. Question: Who is or who are“We”? I thought that this is a forum. Does “we” refer to all the wider forum members, on behalf of whom you were making that statement? Or is “we” the moderators? Or were you talking just for yourself, and assuming that you spoke for the whole? What’s it to be?

So, now I can hit the post button. It’s a tempered and considered response to the one you wrote. I took the time to reflect on it and write it appropriately. My original version, you’d have loved it. It would have deeply offended you and made your day, that’s for sure.

I wish you flowers, clouds, happiness running through the meadows, pretty bows and endless joie de vivre.

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Could a mod perhaps consider closing this thread, please, to protect the minor daughter, and other parties to this situation? Thank you.
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