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Re: Prenup expats

23.05.2020, 17:22

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Dear all,
Me and my husband are both bit Swiss (but EU)
We live here and have one child, almost 15y.
Unfortunetly, Our relationship is not good anymore.
I am thinking about a divorce. The problem is following:
- I am not well intergrated here, I wish I can come back to my country.
I guess my husband will mot agree I do it with Our child.
What is the chance that I could bring my almost 15 y old Son with me ?
I want he finishes private school in my country.
I guess his father will disagree.
I cannot stay in CH, no job, no Real friends, no family support.
Is this possible that my son will be obligated to remain here ?

Many thanks for your advice

3 moths later....


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Hello,
My partner and me want to marry but last time he told me that only under one condition- that we make a prenup.
We have a child together and I plan to come back to work soon but not 100%.
He told me he wants to share with me his salary and only 10% of bonus, the rest he takes for himself. Is this normal in Switzerland ?


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Old 01.09.2020, 10:55
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How do people prove what they each had before marriage? We made no record... that said we didn't have anything worth talking about.
When we married, with a contract, we wrote down all we owned and this was noted as part of the notarial act. 25 years later and still together I'm still reminded that what's yours is ours, and what's mine is mine!
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Old 01.09.2020, 10:57
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Re: Marriage contract

Unless one of the two is a multi billionaire a personalized prenup does not make much sense imo.
The other thing, some of the potential husband's ideas for this prenup sound as if they won't be enforceable once the couple stands before the judge. Under this aspect, there's a lot of stuff one could sign without worry.

I strongly suggest to chose one of the standard systems here. "Gütertrennung" for example.

Personally I don't understand why OP even still thinks about marrying this guy. To me the problems lie much deeper.
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Don't bother making sense. People are bat shit crazy!
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Old 01.09.2020, 22:19
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How do people prove what they each had before marriage? We made no record... that said we didn't have anything worth talking about.
They audit their finances.

That being said, once one person takes maternity leave, you can't really separate assets since the mother is doing slave labour at that point. We had a clause to squash the prenup in case of children. Once you're out of the workforce for a few months, your upward mobility and income potential is already suffering. Unless the husband also takes six months off work, it's far too one-sided.
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Personally I don't understand why OP even still thinks about marrying this guy. To me the problems lie much deeper.
OP wants to stay. Apparently despite it all the grass is greener on this side of the fence.
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