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My mental health is really bad I want to meet people here in Switzerland I’ve been here for years but have no friends.
I don’t have much hobbies apart from going down the pub and watching the footballl or just sitting outside and drinking.

Unfortunately when I was younger I was raped for years and years so I’m not good when it comes to getting to know people as I suffer really bad trauma especially around new people.

Not having many friends has really got me down I’m lonely all I do is work and sleep.

Does anyone know any good websites for meeting new people / sites
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Old 16.06.2021, 21:41
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Have a look here https://www.meetup.com/fr-FR/topics/...ate=&radius=25

Lots of groups to choose from, hopefully you can find one or several that interest you
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Give it up Justin!
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Old 16.06.2021, 21:47
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You've mentioned your plight multiple times on the board. I just don't know if this is the real thing or some troll.
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Old 16.06.2021, 22:14
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I‘m confused, you feel isolated etc and uncomfortable meeting people but went to pubs?

Do some courses, go to Migros Klubschule and meet people.
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Re: Isolated

Check out Justintheexpat's posts with these posts. Island Monkey is right....it's the same person/troll.
https://www.englishforum.ch/members/...ntheexpat.html
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Check out Justintheexpat's posts with these posts. Island Monkey is right....it's the same person/troll.
https://www.englishforum.ch/members/...ntheexpat.html
Oh, I'm so glad you posted that link. Thank you! I had wondered, too, whether Justintheexpat and Maire are the same poster. Probably, since their posts do sound very similar. Either way, good to have access to all those threads of Justintheexpat. Maire, I suggest you work your way through them all, because they contain a great deal of goodwill and practical advice from many people.

Sometimes I, too, think this is just a troll. Yet at other times I think that this person is, indeed, in need of psychological help, just as he/she has written. If the traumatic experiences were as mentioned, then that is terrible, and such a background could explain the odd way in which the posts seem to be contradictory, in content and emotion. Please, everyone, just in case this is a genuine person, feeling desperate and lost and in pain, and needing real help, please don't come down on them like a ton of bricks.

Whether or not we can help... I don't know. After all, Maire, for you to receive help, it would involve going beyond just collecting suggestions. It can be scary, but being helped will involve your actually taking some first steps towards the [many places you could get] help, and accepting some help, and then working together with those who've offered help.

These threads may be just a game, or they may be a serious cry for help. Please, folks, in case there is any possibility that this is an instable, severely traumatised person, in real need, then at the very least, we should cause no harm. Just in case. Please.

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Re: Isolated

Troll or not, the advice on this type of threads still benefits others who might be genuine, so one should still give advice freely

I recommend doing sports regularly. Get a gym membership if you want to be near people? Embrace your inner self, meeting people is highly overrated anyway. Get a pet? Meow meow, woof woof?
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Troll or not, the advice on this type of threads still benefits others who might be genuine, so one should still give advice freely

I recommend doing sports regularly. Get a gym membership if you want to be near people? Embrace your inner self, meeting people is highly overrated anyway. Get a pet? Meow meow, woof woof?
Justin can't afford a gym membership or a pet; remember.... he never has enough money for food and rent and health insurance (but enough for regular trips to the UK)
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Old 17.06.2021, 09:19
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Re: Isolated

it seems the OP has some issue no matter the topic of the thread.

if the rape claims are just trolling then that's a disgrace. Justin, Maire, whatever your name is and sex is - it is absolutely not OK to make light of such things to grab attention. If you have been through such a situation in real life, please do not belittle it (or the suffering others will have experienced in similar situations) by posting mocking threads on an Internet forum.

please go and see a doctor as your first step. You have issues that they can support you with by getting you the help you need, whatever your issues.
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Old 17.06.2021, 09:38
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This thread again... with the OP writing "I was rap.ed for years" as though it is the first time they have posted it? Obvious troll is obvious.
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Old 17.06.2021, 10:02
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I also call troll. Thank you Sean Connery for your post. This is the same troll as we’ve had over the past months. Pls close this thread. It’s really not on to make light of or exploit others actual experiences.
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Old 17.06.2021, 10:07
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Re: Isolated

What if it's not a troll and we're potentially making the whole situation worse?

Maybe give the OP a little time and let them talk about it.

In many cases calling a troll a troll is proper order, in this case if you think it's a troll maybe just try not engage "Don't feed the trolls"is a better idea.
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Maybe give the OP a little time and let them talk about it.
They very rarely come back and interact with the responses. They had lots of good advice on previous posts if they were legit!
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Did not realise that it was the same person who had started that other rape thread
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Old 18.06.2021, 13:39
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Yes, let's hope they can take up some of that, and actually approach one of the many institutions. If I recall correctly, the first thread was for someine living in Basel, and the second is for Zurich. Even so, OP, Maire, whether or not you are Justin, all the same sorts of help will be available in Zurich, so you can use the terms from the Justin-thread to look things up in Zurich.

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They very rarely come back and interact with the responses.
Yes, you're right. That makes it kinda weird, posting to try to address the need (in case it is not just trolling but the truth), not knowing whether any part of it is reaching OP, or not.

I agree with Sean Connery, above, that if OP is just using the claim of rape mockingly, just to demand attention, and if that claim is untrue, then that is wholly unacceptable and disrespectful to rape victims.

On the other hand, OP's appearing and re-appearing, asking for help but then not interacting with the responses, might fit the behaviour of a severely traumatised person. It is known that precisely those victims whose abuse was extended and repeated, often struggle to get themselves together enough, to scrape together the courage, and then to dare to actually go out and approach someone, whether for professional help or just for human interaction. Asking, yet again, can represent the first step, once again, of trying to take that deep breath and actually put something into action.
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Re: Isolated

In Zurich, there's Nordliecht, a meeting-point where anyone can drop in, just to have a chat, or not to chat at all but to be quiet alone but not so lonely.
https://www.promentesana.ch/selbstbe...ten/nordliecht
Das Nordliecht bringt Abwechslung in den Alltag. Besucherinnen und Besucher können im Aufenthaltsraum des Treffpunkts Gesprächspartner*innen finden und neue Kontakte knüpfen. Sie können Kaffee trinken, fürs Kino abmachen, einfach nur da sein, lesen oder den Gedanken nachhängen, miteinander essen, zuhören, spielen und vieles mehr. Daneben gibt es ein Büro mit einem PC-Arbeitsplatz.

Auch für das leibliche Wohl der Besucher*innen wird gesorgt. Mittag-, Abendessen und Sonntagsbrunch gibt es zum Selbstkostenpreis. Kaffee, Tee, Mineralwasser, Früchte und Guetzli ergänzen das Verpflegungsangebot zu allen Öffnungszeiten. Kreative Kochideen und Mithilfe sind erwünscht.
The Nordliecht brings variety into everyday life. Visitors can find people to talk to and make new contacts in the common room of the meeting place. They can drink coffee, make arrangements for the cinema, just be there, read or think, eat together, listen, play and much more. There is also an office with a PC workstation.

The visitors' physical well-being is also taken care of. Lunch, dinner and Sunday brunch are available at cost price. Coffee, tea, mineral water, fruit and biscuits complete the catering offer at all opening hours. Creative cooking ideas and help are welcome.
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If I recall correctly, the first thread was for someine living in Basel, and the second is for Zurich. Even so, OP, Maire, whether or not you are Justin, all the same sorts of help will be available in Zurich, so you can use the terms from the Justin-thread to look things up in Zurich.
Well Maire was asking about cheap WiFi in Basel the other week - take from that what you will.
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Regardless this kind of information is never in vain. Like TTYL mentioned it could always benefit someone else.
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Well Maire was asking about cheap WiFi in Basel the other week - take from that what you will.
OP was price-conscious last week?
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