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Old 26.09.2008, 15:50
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3 yr old burned

I just found out that my neighbors daughter has been in the hospital for a week. I can see the mom is upset too. Her mom was cooking in the kitchen, and turned her back on the stove for a moment, her daughter reached up and spilled the frying pan down her side, from her inner arm all the way down to her foot. She is 3 yrs old and you should see her. The doctor has her on some pain killers, but they are the drops you put in water. She looks so drowsy now, and she is so... different. This little girl is always so full of life and energy, now she looks so quiet and is sucking a nuggi again. She has to keep going back to the hospital, which she is afraid of, hence the nuggi, and it looks like they are going to have to do a surgury.

It happens soooooo fast and you can just imagine what it would be like to be that mom. How many close calls have we had in the past.
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Old 26.09.2008, 15:58
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Re: 3 yr old burned

One of the sadest Post have have read, kids are so fast.....

my sister, when she was 3 tried to answer the phone, so she climb onto the cooker, and was playing with the knobs while she was on the phone... so she ended up with the cooker ring on her foot....
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Old 26.09.2008, 15:59
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Re: 3 yr old burned

Oh, the poor little mite. I feel so sorry for her and her family, how awful.

I know it's a bit late for them, but anyone with toddlers should really consider gating off their kitchen. I did this with my son when he was just over 1 yr old, as he'd started this habit of using my legs as support bars whilst I was cooking. I knew it was a question of 'when' rather than 'if' I fell over him and cut or burned us both, so I put a pressure stairgate across the doorway. He was a bit cross about the gate for the first day or so, but soon got used to it, and would just wander off to do something else when I went into the kitchen to cook.

I left it up until he was around 3, as I've met me, and know I'm the sort of person who wouldn't remember to only use the back hobs, push all knives to the back of the worktop, etc. Takes all the worry out of it.

Hope she feels better soon - hopefully she's young enough not to scar too badly, as kids this age heal amazingly well.

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Old 26.09.2008, 15:59
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Re: 3 yr old burned

i'm sorry to hear that. my cousin had boiling water spilled on his head when he tried to reach for the kettle as a kid, n there's a bald patch there now, where the water burned him. that was 25 years ago. kids are curious things, whether it's a stuffed toy just out of reach on a shelf, or pot of boiling water just out of reach on a stove. but they're also very resilient things
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Old 26.09.2008, 16:03
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Re: 3 yr old burned

That is absolutely terrible. I hope that your neighbour's daughter (and your neighbour, for that matter) recover soon.
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Old 26.09.2008, 16:06
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Re: 3 yr old burned

The mom said the burn is white... which means it runs deap. She was just telling me about one of her friends kids that were burned with boiling water, from head to toe. 3 days in the hospital and the child died. Some things dont heal as easily. Expecially the mom. I think it would through me into a full out depression. And I cant think of anything i can do for her. I'm still a bit in shock.
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Old 26.09.2008, 16:43
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I understand exactly - when my son was much smaller, a girl in his playgroup was diagnosed with a brain tumour, and spent a while in hospital (it was happily benign and she is now fine). You SO want to help, but what to do? I took to popping round with easy-to-heat-up meals like shepherd's pie and lasagne, or a batch of home-made cakes and biscuits so they could grab snacks between hospital runs or have something to offer concerned visitors. It seemed very welcome, but I'm not sure it would translate from the UK to CH..? You know your neighbour - do you think it might help?

And obviously if she has other children, she needs people to help out whilst she goes to appointments and takes care of medical things like changing dressings - that's probably not a suitable spectator sport for siblings.

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Re: 3 yr old burned

Hi,

I do hope the little girl recovers well.. I imagine her poor Mum is overwhelmed with guilt but accidents like this happen so fast and happen to anyone of us. My ten year old son, accidently knocked a kettle of boiling water over on his arm in December, he was making me a cup of tea at the time so I felt absolutely terrible. He had a week of daily dressings done and to look at his arm now you wouldn't know it had ever happened,at the time I thought he was going to be horribly scarred and I was upset for weeks and weeks.

The best you can do is just be supportive of your friend. Hopefully the little girl will recover fully. Children's skin heals so much better the younger they are, I am sure in time she will recover from the trauma of the accident too.

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On the subject of cooker safety does anyone know if there are locking devices for the knobs available to buy separately in, say Bau und Hobby or Migros or somewhere?

We have one of those bog standard stoves with the turnable knobs just at toddler height and I have more than once caught wee fella switching them on. So far I have bellowed at him (which I only reserve for life and death situations) hoping that he associates the action with scary psycho-mummy but it is only a matter of time...
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Re: 3 yr old burned

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On the subject of cooker safety does anyone know if there are locking devices for the knobs available to buy separately in, say Bau und Hobby or Migros or somewhere?

We have one of those bog standard stoves with the turnable knobs just at toddler height and I have more than once caught wee fella switching them on. So far I have bellowed at him (which I only reserve for life and death situations) hoping that he associates the action with scary psycho-mummy but it is only a matter of time...

First OP i am very sorry for your friend, and her child it must be awful for them the mum feeling guilty, and the poor child in pain, please tell your friend that she is not to blame, and try and stop feeling guilty (i know this is probably impossible for her right now). I wish the little one a speedy recovery.

Sandgrounder we bought a saftey thing from jumbo that you can either stand up to prevent little hands from grabbing the pans from the stove, it also stops the water, and fat spitting over onto the floor or yourself, or little ones, and you can also clap it down to prevent the little children from turning the knobs bought ours a few years ago because our little one at the time decided she wanted to cook on the stove with her plastic pans and turned the stove on, it melted the pan, and our flat smelt bad for over a week.
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Re: 3 yr old burned

I don't use the front burners at all on my stove. I also make sure I don't carry things accross the kitchen incase my son gets in the way. The doctors in our family gave us a strict talking to about burns when we last went home. 1-3 years is aparently the worst time. It is not just stove accidents either - soup and coffee can also give a small child very bad burns. Irons as well. My brother pulled the iron on his head.

My 2 year son has huge interest in cooking and I let him stand up on a chair to see what's going on. He sees the steam and says "hot" and has never tried to grab at the pots since I showed him what hot meant by really over reacting that it hurt when I touched the pot.
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Re: 3 yr old burned

Accidents happen, you just have to learn from them and take precautions to prevent them, if you can. If your child slips on the stairs and knocks out a tooth, are you to blame? But with a burn, I think a parent has to accept the responsibility for what happened, as it is a parents' role to try and keep their children out of harm's way in their own home, isn't it? But after that, the important thing is to be sure her child is recovering.

I never put a gate on my kitchen when our kids were small. On the other hand, as toddlers our kids were intrigued by the kitchen. I gave them each a low cupboard with "real" kitchen things to play with, a colander, an old pot, plastic stuff, etc and uncooked pasta. That kept them busy for a long time.

A gate is a good idea if you have to leave the kitchen even for a minute, or if you have something on the stove that will be cooking for hours, like stew, or soup. You can't stay glued to the stove. There is such an enormous range of gates on the market today - when our kids were small there was just a stair gate, that's it, and not one with a door.
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I just found out that my neighbors daughter has been in the hospital for a week. I can see the mom is upset too. Her mom was cooking in the kitchen, and turned her back on the stove for a moment, her daughter reached up and spilled the frying pan..
Oh God.. that just brought tears to my eyes it hurt so much to read.

It gave me a flashback to when my daughter did something similar at the same age. She put her hand on an oven door where we were vacationing in the mountains at Christmas time. It was an older style oven where the door on the outside was about the same temperature as on the inside and she really cooked the palm of her hand when she placed it there. Me and a friend were standing at the doorway of the kitchen talking when my daughter just slipped past us, walked straight to the oven and touched it. The guilt I felt afterwards was horrible because I was standing right there watching her as she did it and my reflexes didn't kick in in time. We as parents are suppose to protect our children from these kinds of danger and hurts deeply when we fail.
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Re: 3 yr old burned

Absolutely terrible. I am in constant fear of my 2 1/2 year old twins having an accident. I can understand the mother being so distraught, I guess we all will and blame ourselves no matter what. Let's hope and pray that the little girl recovers fast.
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Re: 3 yr old burned

I had a great idea today, i was soooooo proud of it. While i was at McDonalds with my youngest, i thought "if she (the little girl who got burned) is afraid of the hospital, perhaps a little doctor kit will help her be less afraid." So we went to the toy store and got her a little kit.

Since she had just gotten up from a nap when my youngest gave it to her, we dont yet know if she likes it. We will find out by next Monday. Hopefully that helps cheer her up a little.
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Old 29.09.2008, 18:13
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It worked. The girl liked the kit. She played with the fake bandages and used them like the doctors do on her. Her mom said it has helped her. All the things that she sees the doctors use, she has a red, or yellow toy that looks like it, and she isnt afraid anymore. Sometimes its amazing how a little thing can make such a difference.
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Old 29.09.2008, 18:27
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That's great. I'm so glad it worked for her, it was a lovely idea.

Fingers crossed for a speedy recovery.

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Accidents happen, you just have to learn from them and take precautions to prevent them, .
...and deal with them correctly when they do happen.

I wonder how many mothers and fathers have been on a simple first aid course.

For a fall etc there's not much you can do except stabilise the injury but with burns, seconds count and cold running water needs to be immediately applied - and left on for more than five minutes - whilst medical help is sought (depending on the severity of the burn).

Knowing what to do can make all the difference.
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great news Patricia...
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