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Re: Divorce in Switzerland

A heartwarming read... just make sure you keep it up (not pun intended)!
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Old 07.09.2009, 10:45
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Re: Divorce in Switzerland

Rene I,

Although I have not commented on your post before, I have been following the saga and hoping for the best. I could empathize with all the anguish and disappointment you expressed in your previous posts and really felt bad for your family.

Thanks so much for sharing your happy ending with us. It really made my day.
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Re: Divorce in Switzerland

That post totally made my morning, three cheers for love!
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Re: Divorce in Switzerland

I deleted my post as i did not read you have made up...hope it works out well for you!
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Re: Divorce in Switzerland

congrats to you and your family
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Re: Divorce in Switzerland

Congrats and have a blissful life ahead

can you pls ask moderator to change thread name to some constructive title such as "From Divorce to unity, from hell to heaven"

just a suggestion
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Old 09.09.2009, 00:23
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Re: Divorce in Switzerland



Really nice news.
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Old 09.09.2009, 09:16
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can you pls ask moderator to change thread name to some constructive title such as "From Divorce to unity, from hell to heaven"
Yes, and please provide sick buckets to counter the result.

The title is fine, and reminds us all what he's been through. Besides, it's early days yet... he's only just made up with her, things can change quickly if the initial "must change and make things better" effect wears off.
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Old 09.09.2009, 09:29
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Re: Divorce in Switzerland

great news.

I can see where your wife is coming from. I have had periods of feeling worthless, useless, unloved etc etc. It was all from me though and dealing with my new role as mum and housekeeper rather than the career and status I had in my former life.
I snipe and bitch and blame hubby for pathetic stupid things until he gets so fed up with have a big blow up. I recognise this now and also that we need to spend more time as a couple as well as a family. We try and make weekends family time and do trips together but also try and find time to go out together and managed a few nights away this summer thanks to grandparents.
That whole lack of responsibilities and behaving like a courting couple again was really refreshing - we ate icecreams on the beach at 11pm in the big storm and got soaked - sounds daft but it made us laugh.
We have been married 8 yrs, together 12 and have two kids and it needs help every now and then but we are solid.

It sounds like you are well on the way to working things out but remember each other as well as the kids.

all the best to you and well done for not just giving up
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Re: Divorce in Switzerland

I agree divorce is awful for you and the children, but if you have any chance you will have to get a little tougher. She will be worse off - be sure to tell her, and you will have someone very quickly. If you seem not to care too much, it may work. It sounds like playing games, but games can work. Women want a man to be strong.
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Re: Divorce in Switzerland

Considerable time has again passed since my last post on this thread, and we are still happy like newlyweds. I think we really had to go through what we went through, because only now we really feel like a true "couple". We are no longer each others enemies, we are an item, a team, we belong together.

However, at the same time I feel extremely guilty and sad, looking at our kids. I mean, the change that happened in them over the past month is just... it just leaves me speechless. I had no idea how they were feeling, I thought they were ok and didn't realise our constant fights. But they did.

More or less all of their lives they have been acting a certain way, always being very active, even somewhat disturbed, lots of yelling and crying, waking up at night, but I always thought that it's normal, all kids are like that. Only now I can see it wasn't.

As every day goes by, the kids are becoming more and more calm, happy, smiling, playing more, being more quiet, they want to be held, they go to sleep without a fight like little angels, they have a healthy appetite, they want to go out and play football. They no longer wake up in the middle of the night several times. They just sleep until the morning, then wake up fresh, and join us for breakfast all joyful, peaceful and full of (positive)energy.

I've heard many times how bad it is for kids to be stuck in an unhappy relationship, but never thought it would be "that serious". From what I'm seeing now, it would have been better if we had divorced rather than kept on living the old way of life, continuously fighting. Because the kids really suffered, more than I could have ever imagined.

So just as a word of warning to anyone with mis-behaving kids, pay close attention to the atmosphere at home. I'd say that's where it comes from. I would apologise to my kids on my knees if they would only understand what I'm talking about. I will make sure, that they will never ever again have to face the same situation.

In the end, all is well and getting better by the day. But only now I'm starting to realise how bad it was.
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Re: From Divorce to unity, from hell to heaven

A small bump for anyone who missed this thread. you might want to get a mug of hot chocolate and some hankies before reading
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