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Old 24.02.2011, 15:49
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Re: Sex education...when should it begin?

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I had some sort of wake-up call when I found my then 9-year old son had looked at webpages that showed naked women/prostitutes (he was old enough to surf but too young to know how you delete your surf history)

The strangest thing was he kept denying it, even though it was obvious that it must have been him.
I believe that sometimes as a parent you have to keep certain things to yourself. For example if you find innappropraite items in their rooms such as porn pictures etc then you shouldn't confiscate them as a matter of principle but judge on a case by case basis whether to turn a blind eye and when things are going too far. And then when addressing the issue, rather than saying "I found a porn mag in your room", say "I know that you are now of the age where some of your friends might be interested in porn mags and I want to discuss that with you". That way the child won't feel caught or cornered and won't be on its back foot defending itself but will be more likely to speak openly about what it may be feeling.
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Old 24.02.2011, 16:47
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I believe that sometimes as a parent you have to keep certain things to yourself. For example if you find innappropraite items in their rooms such as porn pictures etc then you shouldn't confiscate them as a matter of principle but judge on a case by case basis whether to turn a blind eye and when things are going too far. And then when addressing the issue, rather than saying "I found a porn mag in your room", say "I know that you are now of the age where some of your friends might be interested in porn mags and I want to discuss that with you". That way the child won't feel caught or cornered and won't be on its back foot defending itself but will be more likely to speak openly about what it may be feeling.
Basically I agree. I just thought that 9 years was a little young - at 14 or 15 I probably would not have mentioned it. Besides, I was not angry with him, I simply asked him about it. Some time later he told me he had seen those websites at an older friend's computer and then he took a look when he was back home.
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(...) say "I know that you are now of the age where some of your friends might be interested in porn mags and I want to discuss that with you".
My mum said exactly that when I was 14. It was in the 80ies (if you wondered).
I answered: yes mum, what do you want to know?
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Re: Sex education...when should it begin?

I am around kindergarten kids and believe me they start asking questions that imply sexual curiosity. I studied psychology and my personal opinion is that is should start *of course adapted to their age* in the toddler years. There are some amazing books out there and after searching for a good one, I found this one: "It is not the Stork!". It is an on-going talk that will increase in depth as they grow older however always using the correct names.

I hope this information helps and good luck !


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