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Old 11.06.2011, 10:37
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I was feeling very upset yesterday and this morning. But after receiving some good suggestions from you all and then the help from his teacher, I am very happy
You should be happy. It turned well very quickly, you are not always that lucky to find out a solution for those difficult issues. I hope it will last and your son won´t face any further issue with these guys in future
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Old 11.06.2011, 11:10
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Re: Children hitting each other.

Zyxel, I am thrilled you found a good support and a way to address the issue with that lovely teacher. Jut a word of caution, the fact these kids apologized does not have to mean it is over. The fact one of them dared to attack an adult, without any kind of fear of consequences would put me in higher mode of alert. Hope your son is also aware of the possible dangers, I would advise him not to hang outside alone for a while and boost up his self defence mechanisms, or some emergency techniques, friends/family to call if he happens to be in danger, etc. Hope the bullies got scared enough, sometimes it is all it takes, sometimes it is not. It's great your kid and others feel supported a protected, it is the most important message we can give them. The self defense stuff is just on top of it, just in case, though, it will make him feel reassured. It does not teach him that all people are evil in the world. (Judo is great, but the repetitive falls on my brother's back gave him poorer vision than he could have had).
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Re: Children hitting each other.

I agree with you MC that their apology doesn't mean its over, remember that X had already apologized to us earlier when I warned him about the police. I am concerned that they might take it further and as suggested by you, I will not advise my son to hang outside alone. I am also planning to drop him and pick him up from the school and other activities, so that would give those guys less or no reason to find him alone and trouble him (though I know that I can't be with him 24*7, I hope it will help ease the situation).I already take him to all his activities but just not to the school.Now that I know those guys are not only trouble-makers but also too dangerous (I can't tell all the reasons why I am calling them dangerous here on forum), I am trying my best to find ways to make my son more confident and avoid such situations. I am also planning to speak to a Swiss friend whose mother is a retired teacher and who is now working in police department.

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Old 11.06.2011, 11:57
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Re: Children hitting each other.

if your son doesn't mind you bringing him, i wouldn't worry about what some people think of what you do. i bring my son to all his activities (scattered around lausanne) but he walks to and from school, as it is right around the corner. another idea is find an older boy, maybe a friend's teenager or something, and see if you can have him pick your son up from school and walk with him a bit.

seems funny but it can be good for a few things. first, it'll probably be good for him to have an older boy around him as his dad travels alot, it'd be good for the bigger kids to see him with someone who isn't an adult but is bigger than they are and it won't make your boy feel like mommy is going everywhere with him- especially to school. just an idea- we have a occasional babysitter who is a 17 year old boy and my son is really happy to pass him off as a friend around the neighborhood kids- he definitely gained street cred in having a teen friend and i like that he has a model of a pretty good and calm teen boy around him.
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Re: Children hitting each other.

The son (age 11) of a friend of mine tweaked the ear of a younger girl, who was annoying him, and who he already knew (not that that makes it right!). His friends joined in, and the girl ran home, crying. The girl complained to her mother that A_____ had been bullying her. She didn't know the names of the other boys. The mother called the police, and the boy and his parents had to go to the police station where boy was roundly scolded, and the parents threatened with child services getting involved. The girl is being bullied at her school, but not by A_____! He's actually quite sweet natured most of the time and protective of younger kids. This does seem to have been an unfortunate one-off. The point is that the police might have a role to play if your child is being persistently bullied and you can identify the culprits.
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if your son doesn't mind you bringing him, i wouldn't worry about what some people think of what you do. i bring my son to all his activities (scattered around lausanne) but he walks to and from school, as it is right around the corner. another idea is find an older boy, maybe a friend's teenager or something, and see if you can have him pick your son up from school and walk with him a bit.

seems funny but it can be good for a few things. first, it'll probably be good for him to have an older boy around him as his dad travels alot, it'd be good for the bigger kids to see him with someone who isn't an adult but is bigger than they are and it won't make your boy feel like mommy is going everywhere with him- especially to school. just an idea- we have a occasional babysitter who is a 17 year old boy and my son is really happy to pass him off as a friend around the neighborhood kids- he definitely gained street cred in having a teen friend and i like that he has a model of a pretty good and calm teen boy around him.
Yeah, lacking our extended family now we have something similar with a 19-year-old who sometimes has 'uncle time' with our ten-year-old son. We were lucky - he's the child of one of our employers, so we know the family well, and as the youngest himself he appears to enjoy having a 'younger brother' around at times. As a uni student, he likes the money too ... and has some flexible times in the afternoon for playing in the park.
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