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bigblue2 02.11.2010 12:54

Stress - how do you cope with it?
 
for various reasons, work, selling house, buying house etc for the passed few months I've been very stressed, with no signs of a let up until at least into next year.

So how do people cope with it?

Phil_MCR 02.11.2010 13:00

Re: Stress - how do you cope with it?
 
by just getting on with things and not getting stressed.

MusicChick 02.11.2010 13:04

Re: Stress - how do you cope with it?
 
Uhmmm....have your family work around irregular work hours if that helps you, schedule in family fun time, some fun time just for yourself, some fun time for you and your wife only. I have had a thread about rewards, those are cool when you meet a goal you planned for yourself and family, really. A spa visit, hiking, intense sports. Gigs work for me and yarn, hahaha, cooking, needlecraft, good books, poetry, doing some interesting translation, chitchat with a friend. Just to change scenery is very important, a short train ride somewhere, slow down to the tempo of the local life works wonders. Swimming is good, too, getting a massage. You need to feel like you are heading somewhere, though, if you lose track of that, stress gets you. Your body needs to refuel, too, not just eager planning. Friends rented a challet in Chamonix, now they are the least stressed people I know, I am envious, they mushroom pick and write their theses there, while during the week they slave in Geneva. Art galleries, museums and movies are great for relaxing, it's meaningful, takes your mind of the routine stressful stuff.

02.11.2010 13:05

Re: Stress - how do you cope with it?
 
I believe in laughing a lot so much that by the end I have forgotten why I was so stressed:confused:



jako 02.11.2010 13:07

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"funny enough" am excactly in the same position as you - sold house in summer, now buying house, work really hectic with a looooot of travel and in addition a parent becoming cronically ill.. Not an easy year :mad:

I guess every one copes differently, and in general I tend to thrive with many balls in the air at the same time. But I also think a lot of these things are harder and more stressful when you are in a different country. - the house thing is under different customs, laws and language and on the family thing, you always feel you are letting them down by not being there enough.

What I have found is that it is super important to talk a lot with your partner or a close friend. Keep it open and don" allow things to boil up inside. Also allow yourself to go out and let your hair down (big time) once in a while.

We have also found that even though we could spend the time on the above, it is acutally important now and then to take a day or even a weekend away where you don't think about any of the above.

We are also lucky that the house we are buying is pretty close to where we live now. So once in a while we drive buy and look at the progress of build and enjoy the view to the lake. That makes the stress worth it.

Good luck - it will be worth it in the end

Jako

PS! Maybe we should sort a p*ss up for the stressed people....

Janite 02.11.2010 13:09

Re: Stress - how do you cope with it?
 
I eat. But I don't recommend it:o

starshine 02.11.2010 13:14

Re: Stress - how do you cope with it?
 
Having a dog was supposed to be the solution
you do have to do walks that way and hikes
however having the neighbors complain about her changed that around
I recommend Yoga
it is a very ancient way of balancing
i could not survive without it
get a CD or DVD and ommmm

Nil 02.11.2010 13:18

Re: Stress - how do you cope with it?
 
I am a stress person. I don't need much to stress me and at the moment I am not in control of situation.... (well, that happen quite often) I stress.

Right now, I am stressing because soon enough we will have a second child that I have no idea in which country I'll give birth to. I am also stressing because I don't know where we go, when we go and if I should give birth before we go or after..........

And move comes with a hell of organisation...:msncrazy:

Uncle Max 02.11.2010 13:20

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I was asked this by an annoying chap in an interview once, for a job clearly not requiring much effort for large sums of money. Coming from advertising, it was chillin' by the pool. Clearly the future boss was a moron so I told him what consitituted stress in my then current role, and said we coped with it by taking loads of coke and ordering pizzas through the night.

It took me two weeks to get 'feedback'.

Eat healthily, go to bed early and laugh with friends / try new things. All pretty middle aged but it works for me.

Ouchboy 02.11.2010 13:21

Re: Stress - how do you cope with it?
 
I talk weird..


meloncollie 02.11.2010 13:23

Re: Stress - how do you cope with it?
 
Mutt therapy.

Even with the stress of complaining neighbors, the dogs are still the world's best therapists. They get me laughing, get me out and about so I don't focus on my worries, give me a sense of perspective, they put me in a zen frame of mind simply by being, the way dogs do.

A well-stocked wine cellar helps too. :D


Hope you start to see a light at the end of the tunnel soon.

Leni 02.11.2010 13:24

Re: Stress - how do you cope with it?
 
Not very well. :(

ullainga 02.11.2010 13:36

Re: Stress - how do you cope with it?
 
I was getting married, organizing the honeymoon involving several exotic locations, moving house and to make it more fun, the new house was also in a different country, all at the same time this summer. Plus the usual work stress, so was a bit busy too, but no bigger stress problems.

What works for me - rationalize. So yes, there are a lot of things to do and organize. So I will have to do them. And if I don't manage, in time or at all? Well, what's the worst that can happen? In most cases, nobody will die and we can manage the rest.

Guest 02.11.2010 13:42

Re: Stress - how do you cope with it?
 
Put on my trainers and run till I can't run anymore. Too knackered to care...

02.11.2010 13:44

Re: Stress - how do you cope with it?
 
Stress ?

I used to meditate and do relaxation or light self-hypnosis ten years ago.

But now, I just don't cope with it... need drugs.... :(

lilith 02.11.2010 13:48

Re: Stress - how do you cope with it?
 
I am with Bertrand...

What meds do you suggest??? :confused:

Adi86 02.11.2010 13:49

Re: Stress - how do you cope with it?
 
Whenever feeling stressed, I take out my headphones and I just listen to Pantera! (high volume is required)
It's kind of hardcore but it makes you feel sooo good!:msncool:

Or buy a nice subwoofer in your car, play some Ying Yang Twins (subwoofer and amplifier is a must!).

Even though it sound "stressfull" this is my method relief from all the daily stuff...

02.11.2010 13:50

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Quote:

Originally Posted by lilith (Post 999763)
What meds do you suggest??? :confused:

mine are from my psychiatrist.....

02.11.2010 13:52

Re: Stress - how do you cope with it?
 
I sit in the middle of the room, cross my legs and meditate to the sun god....:cool:


wtf is stress anyway? :confused:

summerrain 02.11.2010 13:58

Re: Stress - how do you cope with it?
 
"There must be quite a few things that a hot bath won't cure, but I don't know many of them." - Sylvia Plath, The Bell Jar

:D

I am a huge believer of that. A hot bath - takes time out from the madness of it all and slows the world down. One of the best piece of advice that I've learnt from my husband who is one of the calmest and least "stressy" people I know is to only stress about the things within your control, and let go of those that you cant.

His litmus test is always: "Can you do anything about it at the moment?" Yes? Do it.

No? No problem. Wait till you can do something about it, or do something in order to move things along. In the meantime, have a drink whilst waiting. ;)

ErnieH 02.11.2010 14:00

Re: Stress - how do you cope with it?
 
Stress? I come to the EF forums, and see some of the complaints people post, or some of the people that get banned for idiocy.. and it makes me feel better :)

Castro 02.11.2010 14:01

Re: Stress - how do you cope with it?
 
I have a hookah pipe which I keep on the balcony for whenever I fancy a stress busting smoke. Nothing naughty, just regular apple, peach, mint, zaglool tobacco that you can buy from any Swiss tobacconist. As I'm a non-smoker, the nicotine hit is usually quite intense and I find that my stresses float away in large puffy clouds of smoke.

PlantHead 02.11.2010 14:02

Re: Stress - how do you cope with it?
 
Whisky or beer...the world is a less stressful place when it is shiney.

grynch 02.11.2010 14:02

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http://images.free-extras.com/pics/a..._vodka-947.jpg

Gastro Gnome 02.11.2010 14:03

Re: Stress - how do you cope with it?
 
- A friend, a chat, a pint
- Cooking
- Doing some exercise
- Getting an early night
- Reading
- Going for a walk

Ouchboy 02.11.2010 14:05

Re: Stress - how do you cope with it?
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by summerrain (Post 999783)

:D

I am a huge believer of that. A hot bath - takes time out from the madness of it all and slows the world down.

http://www.27bslash6.com/images/macbookpro_bath.jpg

:confused:

summerrain 02.11.2010 14:08

Re: Stress - how do you cope with it?
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by Ouchboy (Post 999801)

Obviously you need to know which sites to go in order to "relieve" the stress. :D

PlantHead 02.11.2010 14:09

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Quote:

Originally Posted by summerrain (Post 999804)
Obviously you need to know which sites to go in order to "relieve" the stress. :D

Judging by the names on the folders I think he has found a few.

openid 02.11.2010 14:14

Re: Stress - how do you cope with it?
 
1. Going out in the middle of night to find some ghosts.
2. Little bit of flirting.
3. Power training

In short, finding the way to get some adrenaline :)

akb 02.11.2010 14:19

Re: Stress - how do you cope with it?
 
I know something called 'Yoga Nidra'....thats a very practical and easy meditation technique...you can feel the result in 30 mins:msngrin:
You can PM me for more details

NicM 02.11.2010 14:33

Re: Stress - how do you cope with it?
 
i know all about stress as the moment. I am trying to do the following, maybe these might work for you?

1. compartmentalise each problem and try to focus on one problem at a time (even if you still need to think about 10 completely different areas each day)

2. learn to push-back. if you are being overloaded, take the time to divert some of the load before it lands on your desk or ask for some work to be re-allocated.

3. get organised, get an App (for your iPhone etc. in my case I use Things for Mac)

4. take time out. you may feel like you don't have time for this, but a little bit of down time will improve efficiency when you return to a task and might help new ideas/solutions to surface

5. spend time with good people.

bnallama 02.11.2010 14:38

Re: Stress - how do you cope with it?
 
Sports always helps... I used run a lot and play badminton...

Now I do yoga and pranayama (ancient indian breathing technique)...

And i have to admit the pranayama is very efficient in my case and a lot of people I know... For the practice I am doing, normally you attend 2-3 days course and then it is mostly self practice with weekly follow-up.... Let me know if you want to read more about the course....

cyrus 02.11.2010 14:44

Re: Stress - how do you cope with it?
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by summerrain (Post 999783)
"There must be quite a few things that a hot bath won't cure, but I don't know many of them." - Sylvia Plath, The Bell Jar

Didn't she end up commiting suicide? She obviously found one problem it couldn't cure.

MusicChick 02.11.2010 14:47

Re: Stress - how do you cope with it?
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by cyrus (Post 999855)
Didn't she end up commiting suicide? She obviously found one problem it couldn't cure.

Aw, :o she did..her poetry is still quite a great way to de-stress, though.

cricketer 02.11.2010 15:04

Re: Stress - how do you cope with it?
 
Some one already mentioned dogs....


Quote:

Originally Posted by Adi86 (Post 999766)
Whenever feeling stressed, I take out my headphones and I just listen to Pantera! (high volume is required)
It's kind of hardcore but it makes you feel sooo good!:msncool:

Or buy a nice subwoofer in your car, play some Ying Yang Twins (subwoofer and amplifier is a must!).

Even though it sound "stressfull" this is my method relief from all the daily stuff...


Nik87755 02.11.2010 15:17

Re: Stress - how do you cope with it?
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by bigblue2 (Post 999692)
for various reasons, work, selling house, buying house etc for the passed few months I've been very stressed, with no signs of a let up until at least into next year.

So how do people cope with it?

swimming in lake at night.. no not like this http://foolstown.com/sm/shrk.gif

jako 02.11.2010 15:18

Re: Stress - how do you cope with it?
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by cyrus (Post 999855)
Didn't she end up commiting suicide? She obviously found one problem it couldn't cure.

Well arguably she also found a solution that worked for her :confused:

Gastro Gnome 02.11.2010 15:26

Re: Stress - how do you cope with it?
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by jako (Post 999920)
Well arguably she also found a solution that worked for her :confused:

It was a cold oven rather than a warm bath though . . . :(

wattsli1 02.11.2010 15:40

Re: Stress - how do you cope with it?
 
Exercise does wonders for stressed out me - I have a kickboxing/aerobic routine that's just brilliant - imagine the people / things that annoy you are standing there in front of you and kick the hell out of them :msncrazy:

An occasional rant is good for me too - I have very understanding work colleagues who know that every now and then I have to blow a fuse in order to maintain overall sanity.

A truly funny film that will make you laugh out loud (like Sean of the Dead) will certainly relieve some tension too.

Assassin 02.11.2010 15:42

Re: Stress - how do you cope with it?
 
Get onto EF and blast the living organs out of people's egos and idiotic opinions. Easy peeps innit?


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