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Stress - how do you cope with it?

for various reasons, work, selling house, buying house etc for the passed few months I've been very stressed, with no signs of a let up until at least into next year.

So how do people cope with it?
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Old 02.11.2010, 13:00
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Re: Stress - how do you cope with it?

by just getting on with things and not getting stressed.
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Re: Stress - how do you cope with it?

I believe in laughing a lot so much that by the end I have forgotten why I was so stressed


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Old 02.11.2010, 13:04
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Re: Stress - how do you cope with it?

Uhmmm....have your family work around irregular work hours if that helps you, schedule in family fun time, some fun time just for yourself, some fun time for you and your wife only. I have had a thread about rewards, those are cool when you meet a goal you planned for yourself and family, really. A spa visit, hiking, intense sports. Gigs work for me and yarn, hahaha, cooking, needlecraft, good books, poetry, doing some interesting translation, chitchat with a friend. Just to change scenery is very important, a short train ride somewhere, slow down to the tempo of the local life works wonders. Swimming is good, too, getting a massage. You need to feel like you are heading somewhere, though, if you lose track of that, stress gets you. Your body needs to refuel, too, not just eager planning. Friends rented a challet in Chamonix, now they are the least stressed people I know, I am envious, they mushroom pick and write their theses there, while during the week they slave in Geneva. Art galleries, museums and movies are great for relaxing, it's meaningful, takes your mind of the routine stressful stuff.
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Re: Stress - how do you cope with it?

"funny enough" am excactly in the same position as you - sold house in summer, now buying house, work really hectic with a looooot of travel and in addition a parent becoming cronically ill.. Not an easy year

I guess every one copes differently, and in general I tend to thrive with many balls in the air at the same time. But I also think a lot of these things are harder and more stressful when you are in a different country. - the house thing is under different customs, laws and language and on the family thing, you always feel you are letting them down by not being there enough.

What I have found is that it is super important to talk a lot with your partner or a close friend. Keep it open and don" allow things to boil up inside. Also allow yourself to go out and let your hair down (big time) once in a while.

We have also found that even though we could spend the time on the above, it is acutally important now and then to take a day or even a weekend away where you don't think about any of the above.

We are also lucky that the house we are buying is pretty close to where we live now. So once in a while we drive buy and look at the progress of build and enjoy the view to the lake. That makes the stress worth it.

Good luck - it will be worth it in the end

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PS! Maybe we should sort a p*ss up for the stressed people....
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I eat. But I don't recommend it
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Re: Stress - how do you cope with it?

Having a dog was supposed to be the solution
you do have to do walks that way and hikes
however having the neighbors complain about her changed that around
I recommend Yoga
it is a very ancient way of balancing
i could not survive without it
get a CD or DVD and ommmm
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Re: Stress - how do you cope with it?

I am a stress person. I don't need much to stress me and at the moment I am not in control of situation.... (well, that happen quite often) I stress.

Right now, I am stressing because soon enough we will have a second child that I have no idea in which country I'll give birth to. I am also stressing because I don't know where we go, when we go and if I should give birth before we go or after..........

And move comes with a hell of organisation...
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Re: Stress - how do you cope with it?

I talk weird..

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Re: Stress - how do you cope with it?

Mutt therapy.

Even with the stress of complaining neighbors, the dogs are still the world's best therapists. They get me laughing, get me out and about so I don't focus on my worries, give me a sense of perspective, they put me in a zen frame of mind simply by being, the way dogs do.

A well-stocked wine cellar helps too.


Hope you start to see a light at the end of the tunnel soon.
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Re: Stress - how do you cope with it?

Not very well.
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Re: Stress - how do you cope with it?

I was asked this by an annoying chap in an interview once, for a job clearly not requiring much effort for large sums of money. Coming from advertising, it was chillin' by the pool. Clearly the future boss was a moron so I told him what consitituted stress in my then current role, and said we coped with it by taking loads of coke and ordering pizzas through the night.

It took me two weeks to get 'feedback'.

Eat healthily, go to bed early and laugh with friends / try new things. All pretty middle aged but it works for me.
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for various reasons, work, selling house, buying house etc for the passed few months I've been very stressed, with no signs of a let up until at least into next year.

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Re: Stress - how do you cope with it?

Neurofeedback and Biofeedback i use, excellent tool for de-stressing, also deep breathing
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Re: Stress - how do you cope with it?

A good way to cope with stress (20minutes today): nude cleaners

"Quite often the people asking for our services are busy business people who want to relax. Watching someone clean your house in underwear is a nice way for them to relax"

PS: can be equally applied to men and women.
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Re: Stress - how do you cope with it?

I go running, and when I have time, I go and play pinball on Friday night for a couple of hours. Takes my mind off everything I don't want to think about.
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Re: Stress - how do you cope with it?

A poster on another thread told me that none of this is real on EF.

Well, apart from the fact that I am aware of this aspect of a general forum,
the sentiments, advice and dare I say it - opinions - seem to be very real, even if you don't know the person behind the post.
I think last night both Mowvich and me felt a little better after reading the helpful posts and humour on here.
So thanks to all - real or unreal.
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A poster on another thread told me that none of this is real on EF.

Well, apart from the fact that I am aware of this aspect of a general forum,
the sentiments, advice and dare I say it - opinions - seem to be very real, even if you don't know the person behind the post.
I think last night both Mowvich and me felt a little better after reading the helpful posts and humour on here.
So thanks to all - real or unreal.

Definitely so right, thanks Leni for your kind post
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Re: Stress - how do you cope with it?

Ok, so before we group hug and sing kumbalaya (and book one or two naked cleaners while we are at it), here is sumfin that just landed in my email from a friend. Looks like a good way to destress and keep our (in)sanity:

To Maintain A Healthy Level Of Insanity


1.
At Lunch Time, Sit In Your Parked Car With Sunglasseson and point a Hair Dryer At Passing Cars.
See If They Slow Down.




2.
Page Yourself Over The Intercom. Don't Disguise Your Voice. !

3.
Every Time Someone Asks You To Do Something, ask If They Want Fries with that.

4.
Put Decaf In The Coffee Maker For 3 Weeks . Once Everyone has Gotten Over Their Caffeine Addictions,

Switch to Espresso.

5.
In the Memo Field Of All Your Checks, Write ' For Marijuana'

6.
Skip down the hall Rather Than Walk and see how many looks you get.

7.
Order a Diet Water whenever you go out to eat, with a serious face.

8.
Specify That Your Drive-through Order Is 'To Go'.

9.
Sing Along At The Opera.

10.
Five Days In Advance, Tell Your Friends You Can't Attend Their Party Because You have a headache.

11.
When The Money Comes Out The ATM, Scream 'I Won! I Won!'

12. When Leaving the Zoo, Start Running towards the
Parking lot, Yelling 'Run For Your Lives! They're Loose!'

13.
Tell Your Children Over Dinner, 'Due To The Economy, We Are Going To Have To Let One Of You Go.'


And The Final Way To Keep A Healthy Level Of Insanity


14.
PICK UP A BOX OF CONDOMS AT THE PHARMACY, GO TO THE COUNTER AND ASK WHERE THE FITTING ROOM IS.


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