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View Poll Results: Is EF Too Cliquey
It's not at all cliquey. 0 0%
Well, it is a bit cliquey, but not too cliquey. 18 22.50%
It's too cliquey, but I don't mind. 13 16.25%
It's too cliquey. It's intimidating to new members. 20 25.00%
I really don't care. I don't notice these things. 12 15.00%
I really don't care. I'm popular me. 9 11.25%
What.s a clique? 8 10.00%
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Old 20.09.2011, 20:43
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Is EF too cliquey?

I've noticed that I tend to thank and reply to certain people much more frequently than others. And conversely lots of my thanks come from a cre group of people.

My theory behind this is that people with similar senses of humour or opinions will tend to attract each other and that it's sometimes easier to understand and empathise with someone you've spent time with in real life.

It must seem a bit cliquey though. How did newer members feel about this? Is it intimidating? Does it encourage you to contribute more to become one of the "in crowd"? Did you actually not notice and couldn't care less?
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Re: Is EF too cliquey?

Always was, always will be.

Like any large group of people.

Unlike many clubs and social groups, though, anyone can join in the fun if they have the right attitude.

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Old 20.09.2011, 20:57
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Re: Is EF too cliquey?

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Like any large group of people.

Unlike many clubs and social groups, though, anyone can join in the fun if they have the right attitude.

Left to right: Mirfield, SwissAstrid, Angela-74, Odile, Yours Truly (tom tulpe), Dougal's Breakfast, MusicChick, Ittigen.

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Re: Is EF too cliquey?

I think the cliques change over time. I remember there was a core of regulars from when I first started visiting EF but didn't really feel intimidated. It's easier than joining a pub clique because you can silently lurk online and get some background to the "in" jokes by looking through past posts to avoid looking like a twonk when you post a reply.

There will always be a band of people with whose opinions and humour you can relate and people who rub you up the wrong way.

I've still never been able to find an appropriate lolcat ahead of Ouchboy, though...

It's life, but with a kind of cyber twist to it.
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Old 20.09.2011, 20:59
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Re: Is EF too cliquey?

Of course it is easier if you know the person outside of the forum.
I have not met that many EF members as I travel a lot and when in Switzerland are not resident in a city or big town - but up in the sticks.
It does take a while to get to know someone online by the way they post and there are certain members who when I see posts from them, I tend to read them first. But having said that there are plenty of newish posters who soon become "well known"as they post intersting and informative answers!
So just go for it - I don't feel it is cliquey - it is a forum open to all who have an interest in Switzerland -whether a resident or not....
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Old 20.09.2011, 21:03
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Re: Is EF too cliquey?

I think it is important to set the tone of the "norm" for any group......the things that make the group (as a group) angry or happy are clear and if you step out of line, you know it. I don't think there is anything wrong with that.

And I also think that it is important to impress the grandees and those who seem to be held in high esteem by the group.

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Like any large group of people.

Unlike many clubs and social groups, though, anyone can join in the fun if they have the right attitude.

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Re: Is EF too cliquey?

My reply got eaten by the server!

I feel at home on all forums that I choose to visit. They are all similar as people are people. I just dive in and start swimming.
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Old 20.09.2011, 21:21
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Re: Is EF too cliquey?

I really appreciate that you asked this question, and are making space for people to talk about their experiences.

For me, the answer is both yes and no.

Yes, at times I have felt on the outside as people banter back and forth with inside jokes. Moreso, I have been shocked, and a bit put off by some of the snarky and disrespectful comments made (not towards me, but in general). To me there is a clear line between disagreeing (or groaning) and personally attacking someone. Sometimes it feels like "an old boys club" for lack of a better description, when new people are mocked or jumped on for asking very natural questions at a time when they feel vulnerable. I think this forum has room to grow in terms of making this a place where people communicate respectfully. That said, it's the internet - maybe my expectations are too high.

At the same time, no, I have felt very warmly supported by people I haven't even met yet. I have had questions answered, received encouraging PMs, and had my day brightened by others' insights, senses of humour, and ponderings. I feel thankful to have a place like this and am looking forward to meeting some EF people in real life.
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Old 20.09.2011, 21:25
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Re: Is EF too cliquey?

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I feel at home on all forums that I choose to visit. They are all similar as people are people. I just dive in and start swimming.
Very nicely said

Feel the same.. and I don't belong to any cliques.

Nevertheless, I do tend to thank the same people as I enjoy their humour. I definitely have favorites that I'll search for and read, especially when I need a laugh.

So I agree with what Mirfield wrote:

"My theory behind this is that people with similar senses of humour or opinions will tend to attract each other"

but I rarely have the occasion in real life to meet them, even though we share a lot.

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Old 20.09.2011, 21:26
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Re: Is EF too cliquey?

Maybe Mirfield would like to add a suitable poll.
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Old 20.09.2011, 21:33
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Re: Is EF too cliquey?

I used to feel that EF was very cliquey and, thinking back, it was when I was a relative newbie. I guess, as with a lot of things, familiarity breeds ... what was it again??
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Re: Is EF too cliquey?

It's not cliquey enough! Nobody helps me against the harrasment I am the victime of those days. (*insert crying smiley holding a glas of champagne here*)
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Re: Is EF too cliquey?

Nah.

Even though I've been in Basel long enough that I now associate a clique with piccolos and funny hats.

I still don't understand a good two-thirds of the Mulhouse KFC thread though.
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Poll added.
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I've noticed that I tend to thank and reply to certain people much more frequently than others. And conversely lots of my thanks come from a cre group of people.

My theory behind this is that people with similar senses of humour or opinions will tend to attract each other and that it's sometimes easier to understand and empathise with someone you've spent time with in real life.

It must seem a bit cliquey though. How did newer members feel about this? Is it intimidating? Does it encourage you to contribute more to become one of the "in crowd"? Did you actually not notice and couldn't care less?
Your observation only appeals to certain people, primarily those in your clique, and therefore I must groan you since I am not in your clique.
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Re: Is EF too cliquey?

I don't know how you define "too cliquey" but yes, it is cliquey. I think it does lead to some bias and gives the forum the feel of an "Old Boy's Club" to newcomers. And having the "right attitude", or lack thereof, is often the excuse given for why women experience a glass ceiling in many professions. Those on the inside see it as just the way things are, those who don't like it move on. Not sure about the validity of the poll, it's a self selecting population.
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Re: Is EF too cliquey?

I don't feel like there is some kind of contest about who is gonna be the most famous here or anything of that sort. It's like any other group of people! Personally I like the forum a lot and it's actually the first and only forum I've ever joined. There is lots of useful stuff to learn and talk about and people make you feel welcome!

However, not being a native English speaker, sometimes I can't really follow the sense of humour (or demonstrate mine ) or the whole mentality that lies beneath a comment and that can be awkward . But, all in all I am very happy I came across EF!! I really feel I could make some friends here!
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Re: Is EF too cliquey?

What an interesting thread. (just trying to ingratiate myself with the clique…)

I didn’t feel intimidated at first, just shy. I had been a long-time lurker, but what tipped things for me was the thread dedicated to Begga’s memory. I was so moved that I just couldn’t keep quiet any longer.

Now I am on the EF every day and I follow some of my favourite posters like a young duckling…
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Not sure about the validity of the poll, it's a self selecting population.
I agree. The poll wasn't my idea

Though, I suppose it allows people to say it's intimidating without feeling intimidated.
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