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Old 14.02.2011, 12:04
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Re: Women: why you are not married

I was somewhere between 4 and 5 - a combination of the two. I wanted a chance to be my own person and things AND kept telling myself that casual relationship were not only enough but exactly what I wanted - and then falling "in love" with the person I was with at the time and thinking I wanted more, but not with that guy "of course, not really".

Stopped looking, started devoting time to my mother and was "found" by my sweetie doing something completely different than what I'd devoted the first 13'ish years of my "adult" life to doing.
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Old 14.02.2011, 12:27
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Re: Women: why you are not married

The bottom line is that marriage is just a long-term opportunity to practice loving someone even when they don't deserve it. Because most of the time, your messy, farting, macaroni-and-cheese eating man will not be doing what you want him to. But as you give him love anyway -- because you have made up your mind transform yourself into a person who is practicing being kind, deep, virtuous, truthful, giving, and most of all, accepting of your own dear self -you will find that you will experience the very thing you wanted all along

Can't agree more!! thanx for sharing! I am glad I am married
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Old 14.02.2011, 12:45
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Re: Women: why you are not married

there are many rich, good looking and nice single men in Zürich, I reckon it is fairly easy to get hitched in CH
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Old 14.02.2011, 12:47
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Re: Women: why you are not married

I think I fell down to 2,4 & 6... hey that's 3 in 6 reasons!!! No wonder I've been single for years haha

Oh well, I'm not planning to get married in a next few years anyway...
So I could keep being selfish and dreamy for now


Thanks for sharing the great article! At least now I know why
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there are many rich, good looking and nice single men in Zürich, I reckon it is fairly easy to get hitched in CH
But are they TALL?
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Old 14.02.2011, 13:11
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But are they TALL?
even if they are now, they will be shorter when they are 50 years older....
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Old 14.02.2011, 13:37
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When it comes to choosing a husband, only one thing really, truly matters: character. So it stands to reason that a man's character should be at the top of the list of things you are looking for, right? But if you're not married, I already know it isn't. Because if you were looking for a man of character, you would have found one by now. Men of character are, by definition, willing to commit. Instead, you are looking for someone tall. Or rich. Or someone who knows what an Eames chair is. Unfortunately, this is not the thinking of a wife. This is the thinking of a teenaged girl. And men of character do not want to marry teenaged girls. Because teenage girls are never happy. And they never feel like cooking, either.
nice article. surprisingly self-aware. i'd say points 2 and 5 are the ones i come across the most.

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If you're not married, chances are you think a lot about you. You think about your thighs, your outfits, your naso-labial folds. You think about your career, or if you don't have one, you think about doing yoga teacher training. Sometimes you think about how marrying a wealthy guy -- or at least a guy with a really, really good job -- would solve all your problems.

However, a good wife, even a halfway decent one, does not spend most of her day thinking about herself. She has too much s**t to do, especially after having kids.
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i'd say this is true for man or woman: "When it comes to choosing a partner, only one thing really, truly matters: character."
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Old 14.02.2011, 14:06
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i'd say this is true for man or woman: "When it comes to choosing a partner, only one thing really, truly matters: character."
I'd agree with that 110% ...
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Re: Women: why you are not married

Fantastic article it's been forwarded to my significant other..
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even if they are now, they will be shorter when they are 50 years older....
So will I. My gran was 1.74 as a young lass, now she's about 10 cm shorter. But then I think that she's not hunting men in her little Fiat Punto. And if she is, good on her... This character you speak of, dies that include being loyal and aware of the consequences of your actions? Because this seems to be quite rare...
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Old 14.02.2011, 15:43
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Re: Women: why you are not married

I wonder if there is a woman, married or unmarried, that doesn't fall into one of these bullets?
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The best advice I ever heard was "if you want to get married... stop looking." Be content with yourself, make yourself happy, decide that if it happens it happens and become self sufficient. This makes you more attractive (and a much happier person).
That's my policy, but then again, it puts me under category #5, now doesn't?
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Old 14.02.2011, 15:55
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Re: Women: why you are not married

I've been guilty of no 4. What do you mean, not interested in a relationship (with me)? Pff, sure I can change that!

And guess what?

Never happened.
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Old 14.02.2011, 15:58
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Fantastic article it's been forwarded to my significant other..
ditto. just got the response: "is there something you're trying to tell me?"

i don't dare write back "see the numbered points in bold"
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Old 14.02.2011, 16:09
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I wonder if there is a woman, married or unmarried, that doesn't fall into one of these bullets?

That's my policy, but then again, it puts me under category #5, now doesn't?
I don't think that being content being yourself and making yourself happy is mutually exclusive of also showing generosity and kindness.
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ditto. just got the response: "is there something you're trying to tell me?"

i don't dare write back "see the numbered points in bold"
You're either very brave or insane
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Old 14.02.2011, 16:58
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there are many rich, good looking and nice single men in Zürich, I reckon it is fairly easy to get hitched in CH

you reckon I should take my pension money and buy some hot Afghan stocks too?
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You're either very brave or insane
and did you mean him? or her??
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Old 14.02.2011, 17:16
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Re: Women: why you are not married

Im not married because he hasnt asked me yet. We started preparing everything anyway but in the way it goes i think he will propose on the wedding day!
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Old 14.02.2011, 18:24
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...to get married one has to compromise and maybe that's tough for some ladies (and men)
Agreed. Too often it's all about the "me, myself and I" on both sides and never about the "we, us and our" ... and yes, I have been married .
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Old 14.02.2011, 18:40
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So being not married and not wanting to.........I'm all of them?
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