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Old 21.02.2011, 10:42
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Freindship Detox

I recently read an Article on Oprah's website - The Friendship Detox: How to Say Goodbye and Good Riddance
http://www.oprah.com/relationships/F...Pessimists_3/2

And I remembered Porsche1909 thread,
Sometimes I really hate people :mad:

and smiled!
why?? because, I did manage to grow some balls, last autumn and ended a toxic relationship
Although the friendship seemed great, same cultural backgrounds, kids got on well, living in the same town, but she was high maintenance, and for a year, I was tolerant, kind, patient, and then my fuse blew.

and (and it is an 'and, not a 'but'), I feel liberated, well once I got over feeling really guilty bit. Even my spouse agrees I'm not so highly strung.

So, this is to all the nice, tolerant, patient, people out there, it pays off to be nasty sometimes.....like the old cliché - sometimes, you have to be cruel to be kind!!

Last edited by Panther; 21.02.2011 at 10:43. Reason: I cant edit the title??? Friendship Detox
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Old 21.02.2011, 16:22
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Re: Freindship Detox

Yes yes yes....Same background, culture, kids' schools does not in any way guarantee a person who would reciprocate, who would genuinely care for you. When I think about my real friends, most of them live so far, yet we still see eye to eye to things and are pretty much there for eachother. It is nice to have kind souls nearby, but sometimes, looking so hard to find somebody near, you tolerate too much. I found some great friends here, outside of my regular culture or mindset, it's fun.

Thinking of which, I am not sure why we always end up fixing stuff for other people. Hubby gets asked millions of times to fix a toy, car, engine, etc as if he had to do it, due to nature of his work. I end up mending people's clothes at night, fixing baby blankets, knitting went wrong projects. People, learn how to do it yourself, or, pitch it. Friends aren't here to baby you. Nor are serving as your back ups when Yummy Mummies blow you off and you need a shoulder to cry on. There, I said it.

Good for you, Pather, it is good to be self sufficient, making space for friends who are worth the effort.
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