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Re: Why do women always fall for game playing men?

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The only thing a player would cry over is... Why cant I have one more like that!!!
Exactly.

I find it rather rare to find an exact match to have some real good insane steaming hot maddening silly come here go away fun.
I have to admit though it is utterly childish and yes, time to grow up, no?!! yes ... noooooo ....
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Exactly.

I find it rather rare to find an exact match to have some real good insane steaming hot maddening silly come here go away fun.
I have to admit though it is utterly childish and yes, time to grow up, no?!! yes ... noooooo ....
I hear you, I guess we are on the same wavelength

The thing with " some real good insane steaming hot maddening silly come here go away fun" is that, to get the whole thing to that "uplifting" level one (infact 2/both) would need to involve and invest a certain level of emotions and intellect into it.

And the problem with that is not all people can so easily walk away after getting emotionally involved with someone, and thats when someone gets hurt. Players have this natural psychic, whereby they have the "boom and bust" emotional cycle. When they are into someone and whatever stunts they pull, they mean it and sooner when its over, they mean it too. And usually women can understand that about the Alpha male and dont hold much grudge against him.

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Old 12.04.2011, 15:36
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Re: Why do women always fall for game playing men?

So back to the mixed messages - I am at least a very confused blonde

Why show interest, tell a girl she's oh so pretty and all that, ask her out - and then - nothing. I can handle if someone is "just not that into me" thing and realize if he doesn't call back, then... but now to the mixed message part. Then about month later we bumped into each other and again he's all over me and we both agree on wanting to meet again. So it took him 2 weeks to send me an official invitation, containing of course 2 weeks notice (so in total 2 months between dates). That was 3 weeks ago, and again, not a word until today when I "save his day" by talking to him.

Am a wrong not to have the patient for this?
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Old 12.04.2011, 15:39
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Re: Why do women always fall for game playing men?

Don't bother, he's just bookmarking you for future reference without any real interest. Next time he does it, tell him to play his kids' games with someone else...
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Old 12.04.2011, 16:06
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So back to the mixed messages - I am at least a very confused blonde

Why show interest, tell a girl she's oh so pretty and all that, ask her out - and then - nothing. I can handle if someone is "just not that into me" thing and realize if he doesn't call back, then... but now to the mixed message part. Then about month later we bumped into each other and again he's all over me and we both agree on wanting to meet again. So it took him 2 weeks to send me an official invitation, containing of course 2 weeks notice (so in total 2 months between dates). That was 3 weeks ago, and again, not a word until today when I "save his day" by talking to him.

Am a wrong not to have the patient for this?
Is his interest really genuine? You must have felt if it was or not.
Maybe he is with somebody and expect to break up soon, so keeping you as a back up. Or, he might think you expect this from him. He might be flattered that you look interested but doesn't really know what to do with it. Or, he might like you so much he is scared of blowing it. Commitmophobe? What does your radar say?

Play the "it's cool to be friends" game, and share details on having crush on somebody else, hahahaha. Ok, it would propably work and you would have a blast, but honestly...Forget him. Lousy manners.
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Old 12.04.2011, 16:11
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Re: Why do women always fall for game playing men?

Dear Begga,

Drop him like yesterday's lettuce.

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Old 12.04.2011, 16:15
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Re: Why do women always fall for game playing men?

I'd vote for what Kittster said. Wants to keep you hanging on, just in case.
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Old 12.04.2011, 16:17
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I'd vote for what Kittster said. Wants to keep you hanging on, just in case.
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Old 12.04.2011, 16:23
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Is his interest really genuine? You must have felt if it was or not.
Maybe he is with somebody and expect to break up soon, so keeping you as a back up. Or, he might think you expect this from him. He might be flattered that you look interested but doesn't really know what to do with it. Or, he might like you so much he is scared of blowing it. Commitmophobe? What does your radar say?
Well, he doesn't seam to have a problem with showing his interest in public so I didn't think another woman would be it. Before the dates we meet iceskating and since I don't know how to iceskate he skated to me, grabbed my hand and started to teach me. We had a good fun but since my boss was just there I was a bit shy about this whole thing and said I wanted to stop skating before fell on my ass, and then he did this circle around me, threw himself on his stomach right behind me and said he'd be my human pillow before I'd hit the ice. HOW sweet, right? Don't know how many glüchwein he had before that though.
I once joined him and his colleagues for lunch when I want to give 'let's be more spontaneous' message and asked him if he was free for lunch that very same day - so yeah, can't be a gf involved.
For the first time, he kinda surprised me for how shockingly nervous he seamed be, so it might have been slightly awkward for him. But the second time went quite well I think and we talked a lot and had fun. And I was of course very sweet and nice with his colleagues and made them laugh of my silly jokes and all... *sigh* and then back to square one?
He just seamed like a nice guy ya'know.
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Old 12.04.2011, 16:29
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I'd vote for what Kittster said. Wants to keep you hanging on, just in case.

Agree. Forget him. You deserve better
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Old 12.04.2011, 16:31
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Re: Why do women always fall for game playing men?

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Well, he doesn't seam to have a problem with showing his interest in public so I didn't think another woman would be it. Before the dates we meet iceskating and since I don't know how to iceskate he skated to me, grabbed my hand and started to teach me. We had a good fun but since my boss was just there I was a bit shy about this whole thing and said I wanted to stop skating before fell on my ass, and then he did this circle around me, threw himself on his stomach right behind me and said he'd be my human pillow before I'd hit the ice.
Mmmph.. sweet.. were there any other girls around?

HOW sweet, right? Don't know how many glüchwein he had before that though.

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I once joined him and his colleagues for lunch when I want to give 'let's be more spontaneous' message and asked him if he was free for lunch that very same day - so yeah, can't be a gf involved.
For the first time, he kinda surprised me for how shockingly nervous he seamed be, so it might have been slightly awkward for him.
But the second time went quite well I think and we talked a lot and had fun. And I was of course very sweet and nice with his colleagues and made them laugh of my silly jokes and all... *sigh* and then back to square one?
He just seamed like a nice guy ya'know.

Was it exactly the same group both times. Me thinks he is diversifying his portfolio, Spaguetti flying monster knows I've tried (I've always ended up empty handed so not that good of a plan).

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Old 12.04.2011, 16:43
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Re: Why do women always fall for game playing men?

Have you ever met him outside of the work environment? He might be just trying to impress with you, since I am sure you are the cool girl at work.

I think we all have had enough of people in our life who don't know what they want. Why eat yourself over him. You are hot/smart/interesting lady, his lost. Just be the snow queen and send him some pralines in 3 weeks, just to say you appreciated the fun. Then move on. No day dreaming.
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Old 12.04.2011, 16:52
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Re: Why do women always fall for game playing men?

"Drop him"
"You deserve better"

All the good guys are taken!

Meanwhile...

"Dude, she's just not interested, OK?"
"Forget her, man, watch the master- you'll be getting laid tonight!"

Maybe he's a boring douche, maybe he's stellar dude who snuck and read a couple of Cosmo's and doesn't want to drive a woman away by being needy. Are you calling and he's not returning the calls? Some guys (and among them some really good ones) truly have to be hit over the head before they realize they aren't being pests- you actually like them. And fer sure some are crafty bastards out for some prey.
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Don't bother, he's just bookmarking you for future reference without any real interest.
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Is his interest really genuine? You must have felt if it was or not.
What does your radar say?

but honestly...Forget him. Lousy manners.
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Drop him like yesterday's lettuce.

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I'd vote for what Kittster said.


........ or of course, you could re-read the title of this thread and just wait


(..... just reading between the lines)
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Old 12.04.2011, 17:07
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Re: Why do women always fall for game playing men?

I think this reaction absolutely illustrates the original OP. Whereas the chap thinks nothing of a flirt and passing some attention onto a young lady, she is wracked in torment once it stops. It won`t ever change because thats the way we are. The moment that the chap continues his attention, and the young lady understands, thats when she accepts and to quote an old very old saying:_


She offered her honour
He honoured her offer
And all night long, he was on er and off er !!!!
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Old 12.04.2011, 17:08
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"Drop him"
"You deserve better"

All the good guys are taken!

Meanwhile...

"Dude, she's just not interested, OK?"
"Forget her, man, watch the master- you'll be getting laid tonight!"

Maybe he's a boring douche, maybe he's stellar dude who snuck and read a couple of Cosmo's and doesn't want to drive a woman away by being needy. Are you calling and he's not returning the calls? Some guys (and among them some really good ones) truly have to be hit over the head before they realize they aren't being pests- you actually like them. And fer sure some are crafty bastards out for some prey.
Thanks, nice to get a guy's input.
To be fair, I haven't done the callings either being fed with all the rules and don't want to come across too desperat and all that... Just strange that he doesn't get back to me more often because he seams very into me when we meet in person.
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........ or of course, you could re-read the title of this thread and just wait
...yeah, probably right. Doesn't makes it any less disappointing though.
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Old 12.04.2011, 17:10
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Thanks, nice to get a guy's input.
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Doesn't makes it any less disappointing

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Re: Why do women always fall for game playing men?

Begga, in a world where men can buy dates on whatsyourprice and websites like hot or not find thousands of women craving other people's approval, there is no real motivation for men to behave in a decent manner, plenty of cheap, insecure thrills to be had. I simply don't expect a guy to be any other way and am therefore neither surprised nor upset when they turn out to be bar stewards.
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Begga, in a world where men can buy dates on whatsyourprice and websites like hot or not find thousands of women craving other people's approval, there is no real motivation for men to behave in a decent manner, plenty of cheap, insecure thrills to be had. I simply don't expect a guy to be any other way and am therefore neither surprised nor upset when they turn out to be bar stewards.
So... they're just the same as women, then?
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To be fair, I haven't done the callings either
Well, there you go, then.

If you don't ever call him, how is he supposed to know you aren't just playing him a merry dance?
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