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MusicChick 05.04.2011 15:55

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I think if kids have parents who actually talk with them, the verbal abuse can be minmal, despite having rude vulgar crownies around and swear fests.

Little kids get off by swearing, since they let go off steam. It's good to make anyone, really, verbalize their state of mind, rather then your usual f..., sh...., f..h..., etc. Provided you don't do it at home, either. I remember when small really looking down at kids who had to swear to make themselves feel big. It was not never a huge issue, I think it is because folks do not swear.

Now I have a 4yr old who repeats Jesus Feck, instead of Jesus Christ (that would be me) and Feck (she must have heard that somewhere:mad:). I don't want to point it out too much, but when you have a house full of JF really loud on Sunday when everyone's home and listening...ick. To say Feck is a bad word does not cut it, somehow. Bad means it is biting, hurting or physically harming, the little ones do not really get the abstract harm.

I actually have no swearing policy at school with teens, since it generates too much distracting noise and I want them to realize normal folks in normal, every day situation where one is expected to behave, swearing does not exist. It's challenging, since often they do not know this, nobody tells them at home and seeing stuff written down on FB and other evil pages just formalizes the ill habit.

Sbrinz 09.11.2011 10:29

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Originally Posted by Nil (Post 1157252)
Do you have one of those at home? Always moaning, never happy, bitching around, never satisfied.

I persuaded my son aged 19 to leave home, as we never agreed on anything.

He went to a commune with 4 student doctors. After 4 months he came back as they were not clean enough for his liking!

Chemmie 09.11.2011 10:51

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I still have nightmares of the arguments I had with my parents when I was a teenager....that being said, I'm developementally still a teenager, so I moved as far away as possible and avoid contact

Ouchboy 09.11.2011 11:00

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My teenage years where difficult.

Get them to commit to activities. The jocks that we all hate in movies are the result of bad parenting, not sports. :)

Rangatiranui 12.01.2015 07:37

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Aaagghhhh!

I have created a monster!

My eldest child has re-entered the toddler tantrum stage, albeit she is as big as me so carrying her away is not an option.

It is now such that it is even my fault that her shoes are dirty!

Luckily I can still laugh about it.

Who else is lucky enough to enjoy those teenage years again - payback for all those times you were hard on your parents....?

Mélusine 12.01.2015 07:40

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My theory is that babies are so cute so that you grow too attached to them to throw them out the window when they become teenagers :D

Belgianmum 12.01.2015 08:12

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Originally Posted by Rangatiranui (Post 2316876)
Aaagghhhh!

I have created a monster!

My eldest child has re-entered the toddler tantrum stage, albeit she is as big as me so carrying her away is not an option.

It is now such that it is even my fault that her shoes are dirty!

Luckily I can still laugh about it.

Who else is lucky enough to enjoy those teenage years again - payback for all those times you were hard on your parents....?

If you couldn't laugh about it you'd probably be in prison for manslaughter by now.;)

Lucky for me boys are easier than girls. 'Allegedly'.

Pancakes 12.01.2015 08:16

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Originally Posted by Nil (Post 1157328)
Are you welcoming them in your underwear? :D

I initially interpreted that as "Are you welcoming them into your underwear?" and wondered what you meant. :msnshock:

Yeah, I really need more coffee... :p

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Originally Posted by Nil (Post 1157377)
Oh She does.... Looks at me with the : no no no mama, it is meeeee!

Do you want some milk? No no no noooooooo. Ok no milk for mini-me.

Nooooooooo I want milk! :confused:

Honestly, this is really close to how it is in the teenage years....

Well, I guess that teenagers haven't yet grown out of that desperate-need-for-attention phase that many toddlers go through. I guess this is why many teenagers are so addicted to social media, constantly posting "selfies" etc. I think social media is breeding ground for extroversion in the extreme -- feeding a constant need for external validation, etc.

Oh, wait. I'm on an Internet forum... :msncrazy:

st2lemans 12.01.2015 08:37

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Originally Posted by Rangatiranui (Post 2316876)
I have created a monster!

Don't worry, it will pass in 8-10 years or so. ;)

Tom

PaddyG 12.01.2015 09:38

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Oh the joys of two teenage girls who don't get particularly along, but are constantly "borrowing" clothes off each other, with or without grudging consent. Not to mention 20 min showers, hairdryer/straightener/curler sharing issues etc etc....

TiMow 12.01.2015 09:42

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I have the female equivalent of 'Kevin' ...... the change happened almost as quickly.

She's really nice with friends and family, but is a real mong, at home - just like Kevin.



SOBEIT 12.01.2015 10:11

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Eldest son's fashion sense is a cross between MC Hammer and Madonna' s eighties skirts with the obligatory cap.

Rangatiranui 12.01.2015 16:37

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Sighs....

Its so nice to hear that I am not the only "worst mother in the world" because i make them wash/do homework/remove decaying rubbish from their room etc...

Wabma 12.01.2015 20:00

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Teenagers ... Quite similar to toddlers in many ways but larger!:) love mine ... Most of the time ha ha!

SOBEIT 12.01.2015 20:01

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Toddlers are easier to manage, they don't answer back as much!

bearbadger 13.01.2015 11:02

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Quote:

Originally Posted by Mélusine (Post 2316877)
My theory is that babies are so cute so that you grow too attached to them to throw them out the window when they become teenagers :D

I so agree! I find myself looking at his baby pictures frequently these days - must be why!

Maybe I could just tangle him for a few minutes?

MacGregor's Daughter 13.01.2015 16:40

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Originally Posted by Belgianmum (Post 2316884)

Lucky for me boys are easier than girls. 'Allegedly'.

Nope. That is an urban myth. Or mysoginist propaganda.

SOBEIT 13.01.2015 16:55

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Agreed, teenage boys wrapped up with 'Call of Duty', mobile phone, Twitter, FB, You Tube and they think they will become millionaires playing games.

Boring!!!

Yes, I know there are a few that have achieved this goal, not personally I might add.

MusicChick 13.01.2015 17:20

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We have been practising for the teenage angst and rebellion...it makes me and my girl laugh in the middle of a spectaculous dramalama session. I think prevention is the key, tbh..And loads of tlc before they start pulling away.

Adults behaving teen way are in fact intolerable. At least teenagers have a legit excuse.

Guest 13.01.2015 18:39

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LOL to be fair, there is a huge difference between teaching teenagers, and being their mother. Done both- teaching is a doddle :p - we often laugh about it now, as a family.


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