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Old 02.05.2011, 22:31
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Re: Kids -To facebook or not to facebook?

All - your feedback is very much appreciated. Thanks very much. (Can't remember how to thank people on here.) It's been interesting to hear the different perspectives and helpful to discuss it with others as I've been going over the topic in my head and trying to justify why he can't have it yet and actually been getting no clearer. He certainly is still at the stage where he listens and talks to me so I don't want to miss the opportunity to get this whole social networking thing off on the right footing.

I agree setting myself up on facebook would also help with the discreet monitoring. Guess I will just have to bite the bullet.
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Old 03.05.2011, 00:40
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Re: Kids -To facebook or not to facebook?

For me personally, Facebook has been a very useful tool to get back in touch with a lot of my friends and family members as none of us are particularly good at staying in touch.

HOWEVER, through my sis & my nephew as well as some of my friends who now have teens, I know that this can be a big issue for them individually (both my friends the parents and the children themselves) but also as a family.

I think it is important for the parent to have access to the FB of their child - or access to ANY online tool they use, whether it is something like FB or MySpace or an online game - so they can have a good idea of what's going on, or at the very least, the child knows that you can have a good idea any time you want to look.

Another thing that I think is important, just from even the "early days" of online stuff (AOL in my family, when I was in my 20s and my youngest siblings were teens), is that any computer that has internet access should be placed in a shared environment, so that no secret doings are taking place. This will help limit the trouble that can be gotten into as most folks won't start talking nasty ("nasty" meaning either way, mean or naughty) to or about others if they think Mom / spouse could walk by any minute. Of course there are exceptions to this but still, I think that the "oh oh, caught!" factor is a strong controller of behavior, perhaps stronger than outright attempts at control.
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Old 03.05.2011, 08:11
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Re: Kids -To facebook or not to facebook?

My soon to be 15 yr old daughter has an FB account since last year. I set it up and used the tightest security settings possible for it and adapt them immediately when i get the news that FB has changed something, like many other parents in here mentioned, I am also her 'buddy' on there,to check nothing untoward goes on .

She has to tell me when she wants to add a new buddy ( who it is and where she knows him/her from etc) as well as if she wants to upload personal pictures i want to see them before she is adding them to her site. So far my experience is really good and she accepts the rules without fuss.

FB is a good tool for me to stay in touch with friends scattered all over the world,for her its a tool to chat and while time away with her friends ....grins....typical teenager....they see each other during the day at school but apparently there is never enough time to talk about everything they want.

Because this experience is a good one for us I am thinking about allowing my soon to be 13yr old daughter the same.
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Re: Kids -To facebook or not to facebook?

I personally think you should let him get online in FB perhaps with a little monitoring of your's if you have concerns. The truth is this is how the next generation is going to communicate and we cant do anything about it.Go with the flow and do let him
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Old 03.05.2011, 09:26
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Re: Kids -To facebook or not to facebook?

I think it also depends how one delivers the "parental control" issue...since internet is such an escape from parents, really, and school, it is a secret platform they are so into, overt control might make them create a secret account, and on a different web, maybe, or spark the craving. I think control is good, but thinking about kids I teach and how they veiw it/use it, I would not overtly micromanage. I think I would invest in education about possible internet dangers instead.
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Old 03.05.2011, 09:31
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Re: Kids -To facebook or not to facebook?

Let him/her join FB with two conditions
  1. that you are friends and
  2. you promise not to write on his/her wall .
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Old 03.05.2011, 09:40
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Re: Kids -To facebook or not to facebook?

http://www.cracked.com/article_18861...hing-kids.html

Here´s a link to a humor site...my favourite actually.

"5 internet life lessons parents need to start teaching kids"
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Re: Kids -To facebook or not to facebook?

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Dont judge me but my 6 year old has a facebook account mostly for games...
Why do you care so much about what other people might think? It makes it sound like you think you're doing the wrong thing and feel bad about it! He/she's your kid, you know what's best, your responsibility! If you screw up, you're the one doing the prison visits.

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Age to have a facebook account is 13.

so, not for your kids now....
That's what I said to my kids. So on their 13th birthdays, they signed up. I don't care what age, to be honest, but I insist that a) I'm on their friend list, b) I set their security profile.
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Re: Kids -To facebook or not to facebook?

I wont need to explain if i was still in the Philippines because almost all the little childrens there use facebook. But obviously the case is different here. Is it not?

"prison visits"---seriously?
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Re: Kids -To facebook or not to facebook?

No, not seriously. Hence the
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