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Old 14.06.2011, 21:34
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Re: Help !!!!! heartbreak

There is nothing wrong with having a good cry - it is actually good for you.

Have you tried a course of Acupuncture - you can have treatment for your emotional state - it really helps.

Sending you lots of love n hugs xx
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Old 14.06.2011, 21:53
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Re: Help !!!!! heartbreak

I remember the last time I was really heart-broken, I felt like I was full of so much emotion but had nowhere for it to go.

So I got a cello...

10 years later, and I still play.

I suggest writing poetry or spilling your thoughts in a journal. Or painting. Something creative... and just to have a place where you can focus your emotions.

I wish you much inner peace and happiness!
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Old 14.06.2011, 22:01
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thanks guys.

Was a difficult day. Talked 30 mn with the "boss" that actually saw from the beginning I had some feeling for that woman (that I met there).
Actually the two "bosses" there saw it and I was the last to know....

Made sports this afternoon, some swimming in cold water, loads of talks over the internet with friends in the US and UK.

Actually I'm happy that it has happened. I usually fall in love on the first sight and this time it was very different, a friendship becoming something stronger over the days I spent talking with her, and helping her with the Chiari Project.

Of course, I'm still a bit sad that she's chosen somebody else, but, that's life.

Everything OK by now.

(and sorry for the "I hate you" thingy, that was not me....)

(about crying, that's something absolutely difficult, such a huge blockage (?) to break to be able to cry.)

But it's so, so good when it's done.
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Old 14.06.2011, 23:20
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Re: Help !!!!! heartbreak

A good cry can and often works wonders! Getting rid of pent up emotions via tears is an awesome stress relieving and uplifting mechanism. Best thing of all, it's free...

Soooooo glad you're feeling much better now and that you had an understanding and sympathetic boss to talk to about things. Not everyone faced with your type of situation is that fortunate.

At least now you'll hopefully have learnt - sadly and albeit the hard way - one of the lessons of "love club". This particular one being do not fall for work colleagues. Much easier said than done I'm sure, however.

Arguably, another lesson is do not fall for anyone on an Internet Forum but let's not even go there.
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Old 14.06.2011, 23:29
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Re: Help !!!!! heartbreak

well, heartbreak can hurt and like the others say you cry and then stop and cry again repeat as necessary and it does get better.

i think heartbreak is good in a way, sometimes that kind of pain can be a breath of energy- and it helps you to see how much you can love, which is never a bad thing.

wishing you the best, a glass of wine and some billie holiday helps too...
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Old 14.06.2011, 23:38
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This particular one being do not fall for work colleagues. Much easier said than done I'm sure, however.
It's actually not a place of work as yours could be. We were put there by the insurance to train to work again. At least for me. it's a bit
different for my friend. And she stopped to work, due to her illness, two weeks after we started to speak together.


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Well, I went there too...
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Old 14.06.2011, 23:43
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I can't really say that this song helps. It's very heartbreaking too, otherwise it could be a good soulmate? At least he sings "I think I've forgotten her now" hmmm...

I wish you the best!
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Old 14.06.2011, 23:45
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Well, I went there too...
Ooops! Didn't know that...
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Old 14.06.2011, 23:47
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Ooops! Didn't know that...
lol You should read all of my posts on this forum.



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Old 14.06.2011, 23:51
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Will do in future.

Main thing is you're doing okay right now.
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Old 15.06.2011, 11:36
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Re: Help !!!!! heartbreak

Basic human fault, trying to load up on happiness using other people's energy.

Until you can walk alone in the forest, smell the pine cones, feel the rain in the air, spy a distant deer and feel at one with yourself you aren't ready to love. Those moments when you see the full moon low on the horizon and feel that it's a special moment, when that waft of perfume reminds you of those familiar eyes and your senses tingle with excitement when you hear your name mentioned; these are happy moments. There isn't more. Life is the proverbial roller coaster and only when you learn to love yourself and appreciate the small gifts that you have, that are unique to you, will you be able to open your heart and let others in.
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Old 15.06.2011, 11:40
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Old 15.06.2011, 11:41
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Basic human fault, trying to load up on happiness using other people's energy.

Until you can walk alone in the forest, smell the pine cones, feel the rain in the air, spy a distant deer and feel at one with yourself you aren't ready to love. Those moments when you see the full moon low on the horizon and feel that it's a special moment, when that waft of perfume reminds you of those familiar eyes and your senses tingle with excitement when your hear your name mentioned; these are happy moments. There isn't more. Life is the proverbial roller coaster and only when you learn to love yourself and appreciate the small gifts that you have, that are unique to you, will you be able to open your heart and let others in.
My goodness, that was a fabulous read.
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Old 15.06.2011, 11:47
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Basic human fault, trying to load up on happiness using other people's energy.

Until you can walk alone in the forest, smell the pine cones, feel the rain in the air, spy a distant deer and feel at one with yourself you aren't ready to love. Those moments when you see the full moon low on the horizon and feel that it's a special moment, when that waft of perfume reminds you of those familiar eyes and your senses tingle with excitement when your hear your name mentioned; these are happy moments. There isn't more. Life is the proverbial roller coaster and only when you learn to love yourself and appreciate the small gifts that you have, that are unique to you, will you be able to open your heart and let others in.
Wow! Mr Assassin my view of you is changed 4.E.V.A after reading that!

Simply beautiful...
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Old 15.06.2011, 14:12
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Watch it Mr A. you're letting your guard down
The ladies are gonna have you all figured out.

nb.... I'll second, third etc the opinion.... very lovely text.
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Old 16.06.2011, 08:20
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Re: Help !!!!! heartbreak

Bertrand.. just thinking.... you've taken it really well
Perhaps you and your friend have a true friendship that will last.
Though your feelings have been upset because it didn't turn out as you were hoping, you have not lost.
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Old 16.06.2011, 10:53
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Thanks. I believe it's a true friendship. It started this way.
My spiritual beliefs make me think it was a way to go for me as I would have not started this Chiari Support Group project, which has helped a few people by now and is certainly going to help some more in the future.

I also made some nice meeting on facebook Chiari groups, in the US, UK, Canada, Australia.

Just amazing how those Chiari communities are beautiful and friendly.

I'm glad to have done this experience. I learnt a bit more on my capacity to love....

Yes, I believe In Love. Now and forever.
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Old 16.06.2011, 12:32
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Until you can walk alone in the forest, smell the pine cones, feel the rain in the air, spy a distant deer and feel at one with yourself you aren't ready to love. Those moments when you see the full moon low on the horizon and feel that it's a special moment, when that waft of perfume reminds you of those familiar eyes and your senses tingle with excitement when you hear your name mentioned; these are happy moments. There isn't more. Life is the proverbial roller coaster and only when you learn to love yourself and appreciate the small gifts that you have, that are unique to you, will you be able to open your heart and let others in.
Very true and beautiful words, but I think these experiences are also wonderful when
shared.
Even with a friend........

I hope you will soon feel happy again, Bertrand. You sound like a very caring and honest person. That is worth a lot in itself.
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Basic human fault, trying to load up on happiness using other people's energy.

Until you can walk alone in the forest, smell the pine cones, feel the rain in the air, spy a distant deer and feel at one with yourself you aren't ready to love. Those moments when you see the full moon low on the horizon and feel that it's a special moment, when that waft of perfume reminds you of those familiar eyes and your senses tingle with excitement when you hear your name mentioned; these are happy moments. There isn't more. Life is the proverbial roller coaster and only when you learn to love yourself and appreciate the small gifts that you have, that are unique to you, will you be able to open your heart and let others in.
Marvelous...thanks for sharing
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Old 16.06.2011, 18:49
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I hope you will soon feel happy again, Bertrand. You sound like a very caring and honest person. That is worth a lot in itself.
Thank you very much.
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