I'm at my office and I'm struggling to not start crying.

Need to know how you deal with this kind of situation.


(Actually felt in love of my chiari friend and that's not something possible.)


Please help me

It seems that if you're a chick you spend a significant number of hours talking about it with friends, if you're a dude you HTFU and carry on.

Some chicks are manly and some men are chick-y. Don't know what to tell you, but good luck.

Love yourself, forgive yourself and move on. Be happy that you can feel love and want to give it. Many can't even do that.

Be patient, my friend. And take your vitamins.

Reading EF should do the trick

thanks to olygirl.

the others, I hate you.

If you go back and delete that last sentence, I promise life will be easier on you.

Hey Betrand. You've got to get over it in the best way you can. If you want to cry then take yourself off somewhere quiet and have a bit of a weep.

Get horrendously drunk and pull some bint in a seedy nightclub. Worked for me back in the day.

Make sure youre cashed up and wrapped up.........

good point, it was during the Winter after all

And I always thought Johnny Cash was a C&W singer.

I didn't understand this:
"(Actually felt in love of my chiari friend and that's not something possible.)"

I hope the day gets better for you.

Follow the link...

@ Bertrand - you really think EF is the right place for this? I think the thread'll be locked down by lunch...

Bertrand, you have issues, get proper help

Go excuse yourself and weep, as advised for 10, 20 seconds? Then decide to grow a pair.

I'm going to be very practical because practical is what I know how to do: don't mistake this for lack of sympathy.

(0) Go somewhere you won't be disturbed or asked for explanations. A toilet cubicle will do if there's nowhere else.
(1) Take contact lenses out if you wear them.
(2) Cry until you start to feel better. Not that the pain is all gone but that you feel able to deal with it again.
(3) Wash your face with really cold water. Eye area too.
(4) Use eyedrops to reduce redness. Put them in your eyes, but also a couple drops on your nose and lips.
(5) If you have bags under your eyes take an ibuprofen, it helps with the swelling.
(6) Put contacts back in / glasses back on, and go back to work.
(7) Repeat as necessary.

The trick is not to make a fuss about it. People may see you heading to the washroom several times in one afternoon, but they will assume you ate something that didn't agree with you. If you don't comment on it, they won't.

Oh, and if you can get away with it, wear sunglasses the rest of the day.

Sorry you're hurting. I hope it gets easier soon.

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I am not totally understanding what is going on here...

Are you heart broken because you fell in love with the colleague who has Chiari, and she refused to be more than friends?

I have to say, falling in love with a work colleague is a no-no: if something goes wrong, it is very difficult to deal with all the rags left behind when you have to deal with the person on a daily base.

I would advise you to go outside and breath some fresh air once and a while to cheer up. It's sunny and might help.

Go see a comedy in the evening and eat some chocolate. Should make up for a couple of peaceful moments.

Bertrand,

Cry it all out, until you can't cry anymore.

When you are done, think about all the wonderful people, places, situations and experiences that are awaiting for you around the corner, and will "meet you" when you least expect it.

You simply cannot afford to miss out on all this "awesomeness" because of one person, one situation, one heartbreak. Don't let this stand in your way.

If all else fails and you're not convinced, you can always make your way to Zurich for one of the social events and I am sure many EF buddies will cheer you up!

Be happy,

Ok.

So.

Sorry you are down. I am not sure about how you deal with drama/sorrow/sadness, people will give you all sorts of recipes. I, for one, will tell you to try to cry, if that does not work, go to cave12, get drunk and lost in some great noise. Dance wild with all the funky people there and laugh.

Then read this poem.

I Walked a Mile with Pleasure


I walked a mile with Pleasure;
She chatted all the way;
But left me none the wiser
For all she had to say.


I walked a mile with Sorrow,
And ne’er a word said she;
But, oh! The things I learned from her,
When sorrow walked with me.


-Robert Browning Hamilton






Then realize, nobody is dead. Things hurt sometimes. I don't want to put down tragedies of heart, but we are alive. The one you fell for is alive. If you love her, you will be happy for her being alive, despite the possible not return of affection.

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I'm really sorry you are hurting