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30.06.2011, 16:30
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| | Beautiful People.com Controversy
In light of the recent controversy surrounding the dating-site ''Beautiful People'.com'', I am legitimately curious as to why people get so upset about its existence.
From what I understand, aspiring members post a picture of themselves and the other existing members rate whether they find them attractive or not. If they get rejected, they are allowed to submit another picture and have a ''second shot'' at becoming a member. So, it is not a machine, or a lonely d-bag, or even 'the media' deciding on what is ''beautiful'', but rather, 700,000 other people. This should give a pretty fair chance to all kinds of sizes, skin colors, etc to be accepted, since 700,000 people surely will not have the same ideal ?
Also since it is a group deciding on what is attractive, how is it any different than our collective decision that Audrey Hepburn embodied class, or that Marilyn Monroe was a sex symbol?
Secondly, since they are not offering employment, or working for the government, and so on, there's nothing stating that they cannot be discriminating. I am curious, how do people justify ''plus size only'' or ''over 50'' dating sites; is that not a physical discrimination as well ? Some of the comments on these articles are pretty shocking, along the lines of: '' studies (???) have shown anyway that beautiful people are extremely unhappy and shallow, and we should just let them die miserably alone or with some other horrible person they meet on this website!!!'' ........Right. So now, we shouldn't judge people based on their appearance because true beauty is on the inside, except when it comes to ''beautiful people'', which are all just terrible human beings with nothing to offer...I don't understand why some of these rules only apply to the (perceived) under-privileged.
Lastly, I understand that this hatred of the website is purely emotional and probably cannot be logically justified, but it would really be nice to see people more aware of the motivations behind their emotions. We developed reason for a reason. 
Why is it that we cannot admit that the world isn't how we want it to be, no matter how much we want it; and why do we always consider ourselves above so many of these things? Like my old roommate who venomously criticized this website, yet whenever ''True Blood'' (some show about vampires?) came on she would scream ''Omg, <insert main guy's name> is sooo hot!!!!'' I do not believe for a second that none of the website's critics like beauty (or symmetry at least), or that they do not have an ideal of their own, or that they are so above all these and have only ever made decisions based on other people's ''soul'' and ''inside beauty''.
So, what is so wrong with admitting we like beauty? What is so wrong with a website which tries to be like a nightclub, where social interactions are usually based purely on looks? Why are people so upset about it ??
I welcome all coherent reasons
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30.06.2011, 16:32
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| | Re: Beautiful People.com Controversy | Quote: | |  | | | In light of the recent controversy surrounding the dating-site ''Beautiful People'.com'', I am legitimately curious as to why people get so upset about its existence.
From what I understand, aspiring members post a picture of themselves and the other existing members rate whether they find them attractive or not. If they get rejected, they are allowed to submit another picture and have a ''second shot'' at becoming a member. So, it is not a machine, or a lonely d-bag, or even 'the media' deciding on what is ''beautiful'', but rather, 700,000 other people. This should give a pretty fair chance to all kinds of sizes, skin colors, etc to be accepted, since 700,000 people surely will not have the same ideal ?
Also since it is a group deciding on what is attractive, how is it any different than our collective decision that Audrey Hepburn embodied class, or that Marilyn Monroe was a sex symbol?
Secondly, since they are not offering employment, or working for the government, and so on, there's nothing stating that they cannot be discriminating. I am curious, how do people justify ''plus size only'' or ''over 50'' dating sites; is that not a physical discrimination as well ? Some of the comments on these articles are pretty shocking, along the lines of: ''studies (???) have shown anyway that beautiful people are extremely unhappy and shallow, and we should just let them die miserably alone or with some other horrible person they meet on this website!!!'' ........Right. So now, we shouldn't judge people based on their appearance because true beauty is on the inside, except when it comes to ''beautiful people'', which are all just terrible human beings with nothing to offer...I don't understand why some of these rules only apply to the (perceived) under-privileged.
Lastly, I understand that this hatred of the website is purely emotional and probably cannot be logically justified, but it would really be nice to see people more aware of the motivations behind their emotions. We developed reason for a reason. 
Why is it that we cannot admit that the world isn't how we want it to be, no matter how much we want it; and why do we always consider ourselves above so many of these things? Like my old roommate who venomously criticized this website, yet whenever ''True Blood'' (some show about vampires?) came on she would scream ''Omg, <insert main guy's name> is sooo hot!!!!'' I do not believe for a second that none of the website's critics like beauty (or symmetry at least), or that they do not have an ideal of their own, or that they are so above all these and have only ever made decisions based on other people's ''soul'' and ''inside beauty''.
So, what is so wrong with admitting we like beauty? What is so wrong with a website which tries to be like a nightclub, where social interactions are usually based purely on looks? Why are people so upset about it ??
I welcome all coherent reasons  | | | | | I like the idea....but I'm glad that we don't have this system on the EF...half of the members here wouldn't even make it to the introduction. | 
30.06.2011, 16:32
| | Re: Beautiful People.com Controversy
Who cares?
Didn't most of us leave high school several years ago?
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30.06.2011, 16:42
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| | Re: Beautiful People.com Controversy | Quote: |  | | | Who cares?
Didn't most of us leave high school several years ago? | | | | |
Apparently not though, that's my point; most people's reactions seem just as knee-jerk and poorly-thought out as an insecure high-schooler's.
And, ''who cares'' is not a valid response on the off-topic forum | 
30.06.2011, 16:53
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30.06.2011, 16:55
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| | Re: Beautiful People.com Controversy
Who cares?
I got accepted.
The rejects ain't my problem.
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30.06.2011, 17:04
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| | Re: Beautiful People.com Controversy
I crashed the server with my awesomeness. | 
30.06.2011, 17:10
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| | Re: Beautiful People.com Controversy | Quote: | |  | | | I crashed the server with my awesomeness.  | | | | |
Ah, so that was you !
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30.06.2011, 17:16
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Conversely, I crashed the server with my akwardness
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30.06.2011, 17:19
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| | Re: Beautiful People.com Controversy
They don't look so beautiful to me.
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30.06.2011, 17:22
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| | Re: Beautiful People.com Controversy | Quote: | |  | | | Conversely, I crashed the server with my akwardness | | | | | And poor spelling | 
30.06.2011, 17:31
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If you don't like it then don't go there. Simple
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30.06.2011, 17:34
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| | Re: Beautiful People.com Controversy | Quote: | |  | | | If you don't like it then don't go there. Simple | | | | |
Why don't more people think like you ?
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30.06.2011, 17:42
| | Re: Beautiful People.com Controversy | Quote: | |  | | | Why don't more people think like you ? | | | | | | 
30.06.2011, 19:38
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| | Re: Beautiful People.com Controversy
There are real advantages to not being beautiful and that is, it eliminates the idiots.
Beauty is ephemeral and fugacious. It doesn't last.
I'll admire a beautiful person like I'd contemplate a statue, but that's it.
Beauty is not my criteria to speak or want to know a person.
Thoughts and heart are so much more interesting.
So no I wouldn't dislike a website like BeautifulPeople.com, it would just leave me totally indifferent.
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30.06.2011, 19:48
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| | Re: Beautiful People.com Controversy
After googling beautifulpeople.com, I figured that it's not for me. I think I'll create something more appropriate...like beautifulandawesomepeople.com. | 
30.06.2011, 19:51
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| | Re: Beautiful People.com Controversy | Quote: | |  | | | After googling beautifulpeople.com, I figured that it's not for me. I think I'll create something more appropriate...like beautifulandawesomepeople.com.  | | | | | Oh no, even fewer EFers would make it past the intro stage | 
30.06.2011, 19:51
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| | Re: Beautiful People.com Controversy
What Sky said is basicaly my thoughts. Someone who bases their worth on how they look is setting themselves up for a whole lot of unhappiness when their physical beauty fades. What are they then left with? It would never be too late to discover their inner self & the beauty that lies therein either that or one of the could start a usedtobebeautifulpeople.com and give each other tips on the best face lifts & anti ageing creams. | Quote: | |  | | | There are real advantages to not being beautiful and that is, it eliminates the idiots.
Beauty is ephemeral and fugacious. It doesn't last.
I'll admire a beautiful person like I'd contemplate a statue, but that's it.
Beauty is not my criteria to speak or want to know a person.
Thoughts and heart are so much more interesting.
So no I wouldn't dislike a website like BeautifulPeople.com, it would just leave me totally indifferent. | | | | | | 
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| | Re: Beautiful People.com Controversy
When a punch of idiots start a website on how someone looks, how rich and awesome someone is, you just walk away and sympathize their narrow idiotic minds....they're nothing but punch of clueless idiots | 
30.06.2011, 19:54
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| | Re: Beautiful People.com Controversy | Quote: | |  | | | Oh no, even fewer EFers would make it past the intro stage  | | | | | For you Nicola, I guarantee a free lifetime membership.  |
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