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I have no idea. I miss the company and the intimacy but I don't miss all of the BS like trying to change me and I really don't miss PMS.

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Girls, girls... You are married, not dead!
Yes, please explain this to women. They seem to stop making any serious effort to be sexy or seductive as soon as they have determined "ownership". If you are not really like that in the first place, it is false advertising.
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Try to explain that to the guys....
Yes, men are just as guilty as women.
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I'm sorry to say this, colinwheeler, but you summed up pretty nicely the Neanderthal stereotypes men make of women. Good job! *pat on the back*

We can now proceed to use the same Neanderthal technic to reduce men to a walking prick with no brain.
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Can somebody enlighten me on the above please, thanks.
there's no enlightenment for this ... we will all forever walk in the dark about this... misery, err, mistery ...
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Yes, please explain this to women. They seem to stop making any serious effort to be sexy or seductive as soon as they have determined "ownership". If you are not really like that in the first place, it is false advertising.
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I'm sorry to say this, colinwheeler, but you summed up pretty nicely the Neanderthal stereotypes men make of women. Good job! *pat on the back*

We can now proceed to use the same Neanderthal technic to reduce men to a walking prick with no brain.
You beat me to it, Helm! I was going to say that if a woman fails to be able to maintain her kittenish sexy and seductive demeanour, then the chances are that it was just a facade anyway (used to gain "ownership").

My real belief, however, is that as relationships grow beyond the pure lust stage (for most us, anyway), the above can still manifest themselves, but in more fulfilling and intimate ways.
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I love being married. Less stressful... well, for me anyway
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Well, most of them are, and many of them are proud of it.

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You beat me to it, Helm! I was going to say that if a woman fails to be able to maintain her kittenish sexy and seductive demeanour, then the chances are that it was just a facade anyway (used to gain "ownership").
Yes, which is exactly the behaviour that I would prefer did not exist. If you are not like that, don't make out like you are.

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My real belief, however, is that as relationships grow beyond the pure lust stage (for most us, anyway), the above can still manifest themselves, but in more fulfilling and intimate ways.
Too keep the "lust" (magic or chemistry as some may call it) going or coming back should be helped and encouraged during relationship. It is not a natural thing but rather something that both partners need to work towards.

Of course it is not needed during all of the relationship and sometimes are better spent with more intellectual or emotional intimacy rather than physical, but to throw it aside once the wedding ring is on or the children are born is to destroy a potentially wonderful thing and one cannot be surprised if one's partner starts to look elsewhere to fulfill their needs. (Of course it is a pity most partners don't express this before romping off.)

This sort of physical intimacy should become much better with age and knowledge of the other person with a little bit of of "caught you off gaurd there" to add some spice and variety.
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Too keep the "lust" (magic or chemistry as some may call it) going or coming back should be helped and encouraged during relationship. It is not a natural thing but rather something that both partners need to work towards.
Don't worry, soon there is a pill out for that. you know to keep that stimulus going. serious. they talked about it not too long ago.
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...Yes, please explain this to women. They seem to stop making any serious effort to be sexy or seductive as soon as they have determined "ownership"....
Perhaps it's just the women you meet?

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...My real belief, however, is that as relationships grow beyond the pure lust stage (for most us, anyway), the above can still manifest themselves, but in more fulfilling and intimate ways.
Yes indeed.
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Well, most of them are, and many of them are proud of it.
Well, I don't know which kind of men you surround yourself with. I can tell you, though, that most men I know are intelligent pricks with a usefulness beyond the dildo with no batteries that pays the bills. And most women I know do not spend each breath in this life talking about fashion and wasting their lives making themselves worthy of male attention. Of course those examples exist out there, but against common belief, Men do not come from Mars, nor do Women come from Venus.

And please let us not mix slutty/sexy look with decrease/increase of libido. Each human brain works in different ways (thank heavens) and not everyone is out hunting for the big boobed low cut blondine. Some find intelligent conversations over the Periodic Table or Tolstoy quite a stimulant.

I mean no disrespect, colinwheeler, but stereotypes, specially those coming from a Gray book, disgust disturb me.


We are digressing though. Please do continue on the mythical question from the OP…
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Of course those examples exist out there, but against common belief, Men do not come from Mars, nor do Women come from Venus.
But they are not exactly the same creatures.

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And please let us not mix slutty/sexy look with decrease/increase of libido. Each human brain works in different ways (thank heavens)
Cut it anyway you want my intial point is about making effort.

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and not everyone is out hunting for the big boobed low cut blondine. Some find intelligent conversations over the Periodic Table or Tolstoy quite a stimulant.
, Yes, that is me taking offense that you seem to be implying that I am somebody who finds those sort of women attractive and does not value intellectual stimulation.

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I mean no disrespect, colinwheeler, but stereotypes, specially those coming from a Gray book, disgust disturb me.
Don't stress. Respect is earned, not pre-given so I don't expect that you had any for me in the first place.

"Gray book"??? WTF is that? And no, I am not googling it.
I find stereotypes are very useful due to thier power to abstract the human mind. Without stereotypes we would still be hitting eachother over the heads with sticks going "oook". But just as with any tool that is used, it is important to understand that it can be used for good and for bad. I am sorry that you don't see any use in the tool.

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We are digressing though. Please do continue on the mythical question from the OP…
Yes, I agree we are digressing but it is a General off-topic thread and I don't thing that I would just lie down and let your post be the last word on this.
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definitly married. everyday is new and wonderfull with my wife.
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definitly married. everyday is new and wonderfull with my wife.
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"Gray book"??? WTF is that? And no, I am not googling it.
John Gray is one of the most famous authors of stereotype books. He wrote the "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus", which tries to validate and "explain" the common stereotypes of both men and women, going from why women can't read maps to why men can't read a manual.

There is a whole introduction explaining that these stereoptypes do not define human kind, but through out scientific research (sic) you can fit men and women inside drawers, because you will eventually fit one of those stereotypes. (It's like accusing someone of being American because he fits the stereotype of American people having American dollars inside their pockets)

I have met a couple of (mostly) men that swear on these books. I bet they read them on a book club, while sipping Earl Grey.

Life is not black and white. There is no such thing as a 100% man or 100% woman. Same goes for marriage and being single: has to do with too many variables. You can't come to a fixed answer when there is no fixed data; or the question is absurdly non-objective.

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Don't stress. Respect is earned, not pre-given so I don't expect that you had any for me in the first place.
I'm a romantic naive. To me all men/women deserve respect till proven opposite. Leads to some disappointment, but keeps faith in the human race.
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John Gray is one of the most famous authors of stereotype books. He wrote the "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus"
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I have met a couple of (mostly) men that swear on these books. I bet they read them on a book club, while sipping Earl Grey.
Funny, but smacks of stereotyping...lol. I have not met any on the other hand. I have skimmed the book though and found it ammusing and to have some quite good insights, but science or a bible it is not.

Actually in my work I find some of the stereotypes expressed in the book very powerful. One always has to remember about abstractions is that they are tools that are useful for finding a quick explanation about a peice of behaviour (al la Occam's razor), they are not generally useful for classification which is more of a precise method. I know a lot of people use them in a non-sequitur way though.

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Life is not black and white. There is no such thing as a 100% man or 100% woman. Same goes for marriage and being single: has to do with too many variables. You can't come to a fixed answer when there is no fixed data; or the question is absurdly non-objective.
No, but you can express opionions, discuss them and come to a consensus. There is no absaloute in this universe, even quantum mechanics show us that, but that in no way should reduce one's innate curiosity to attempt to find a useful abstraction that can help improve the lot of one's self or those around.

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I'm a romantic naive. To me all men/women deserve respect till proven opposite. Leads to some disappointment, but keeps faith in the human race.
Ah, for me that is called trust but I hardly want to get into a semantic debate and thus agree.

So, just as the OP I am sure did not really want a direct answer about which is better but wanted to stimulate discussion, it is.
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No, but you can express opionions, discuss them and come to a consensus. There is no absaloute in this universe, even quantum mechanics show us that, but that in no way should reduce one's innate curiosity to attempt to find a useful abstraction that can help improve the lot of one's self or those around.
I have no problem with a discussion of ideas. Conversation is still one of my favourite hobbies

In my mother tongue we say "you can't compare garlic to eyes " (now that I think about it, it sounds kinda bad in English xD).

I don't really think you can make a thesis on whether marriage is better than being single (or the other way around) based on personal experiences. It's like gathering a bunch of dinosaurs and humanoids and ask "Dinosaur Extinction or Life: which one is better?". I believe the latter will agree in majority we are better off without giant lizards trying to bite our heads off... But the lizards might have disagreed...


The fact that most people forget marriage is hard work and not a simple document, sort of messes the statistics too…
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In my mother tongue we say "you can't compare garlic to eyes " (now that I think about it, it sounds kinda bad in English xD).
Wow, that does sound very strange (compared to the English Apples with Pears), but then it does go to show how stupid that sort of constraint is. Surprise yourself and ask how much common genetic code or elements garlic and the human eye share. No problem making a comparison here?

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I don't really think you can make a thesis on whether marriage is better than being single (or the other way around) based on personal experiences.
You will be surprised what sort of crap they let you write those things on these days....sigh, but I do agree.

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It's like gathering a bunch of dinosaurs and humanoids and ask "Dinosaur Extinction or Life: which one is better?".
Said the garlic clove to the human eye.

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... But the lizards might have disagreed...
Yes, they might have but the seem to have forgotten to bring thier ability to abstract to the gun fight.

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The fact that most people forget marriage is hard work and not a simple document, sort of messes the statistics too…
You don't have to tell me that.
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Wow, that does sound very strange (compared to the English Apples with Pears), but then it does go to show how stupid that sort of constraint is. Surprise yourself and ask how much common genetic code or elements garlic and the human eye share. No problem making a comparison here?

AH, I didn't know there was a similar idiomatic expression in English! The things you learn in EF!

I think our garlic/eye comparison is really for the sake of rhyming (alho/bugalho). It's actually not a common word for "eye" and can also mean a special disease on oaks... Popular sayings are just weird...
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I suspect you've either recently married, or your wife is watching what you type
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