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Old 01.09.2011, 14:28
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Re: Feeling low

Hi - definitely try to get out and do some kind of activity. I have felt pretty frustrated and low recently at work and it has definitely helped me. This week I went for a bike ride with local mountain biking group - I am pretty new to mountain biking and all the others had much better looking equipment so I was a bit nervous I wouldn't fit in but I made the effort to give it a try and I had a great time. During the ride I was far too excited, terrified and exhausted to worry about anything else other than keeping up with the others and not crashing and I felt great at the end. Beers with the other riders afterwards helped too of course. It doesn't have to be biking, but running or hiking in the beautiful Swiss countryside always makes me feel happier and if you're lucky you'll meet some pretty cool people too. Give it a try! Good luck.
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Old 01.09.2011, 14:45
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Re: Feeling low

Hey, just wanted to say you are not alone, and it is pretty normal to feel this way sometimes, whether you are in a new place or not.

Personally, I consider my emotions information about the present. This week I learned that I am tired of feeling vulnerable, and it helped that I was able to respond by taking control of some areas in my life (and thus felt less vulnerable).

What do you think your emotions are telling you at them moment?
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Re: Feeling low

Hey I am having a stinker today too, had no sleep for the last two weeks due to hungry 3 month old and we have huge roadworks outside our apartment with diggers permanently making ridiculously loud noise, starting at 7am (love it) and my little girl has decided today is the day she is grumpiest too so constant screaming.

I think I may join her.

Things can only get better. Wish I was in Geneva so I could join you all for beer. That sounds so appealing right now.
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Old 01.09.2011, 15:11
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Things can only get better. Wish I was in Geneva so I could join you all for beer. That sounds so appealing right now.
create an event up there?.. I'm fairly sure there are EF'ers in Basel that enjoy a beer time to time.
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create an event up there?.. I'm fairly sure there are EF'ers in Basel that enjoy a beer time to time.
I guess it's not so much the location that's the problem actually, more the fact my baby daughter is permanently attached to me. If you get my meaning. Not been out since she was born. 8 weeks to go before she starts weaning. I will celebrate then.
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Old 01.09.2011, 15:20
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Re: Feeling low

Cheers Guys, and Grynch we will definitely do that beer soon...

I do get the blues sometimes and usually when it comes on it can be pretty grim, I am very good at hiding it but eventually it comes out...

I am really grateful for all I have in terms of a job, great fiance and friends and shouldnt be so whingy about it when there are people with much worse stories to tell but it just happens.

I will be back to my old self in a few days I am sure but struggling to keep a handle on it right now

Cheers for the support though!
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Old 01.09.2011, 15:23
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Cheers Guys, and Grynch we will definitely do that beer soon...
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I've created a "burger and beer" event.. check the calendar page... if you can make it there will be a few like minded drunks individuals.
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Old 01.09.2011, 15:26
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I've created a "burger or fish and chips and beer" event.. check the calendar page... if you can make it there will be a few like minded drunks individuals.
fixed it for youse
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Old 01.09.2011, 15:29
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ok ok... burger and beer an fish n chips n maybe a curry

sheesh
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Old 01.09.2011, 15:30
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ok ok... burger and beer an fish n chips n maybe a curry

sheesh
what about the mojito?
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Old 01.09.2011, 15:33
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no mojito's

the girls from Olten can't make it.
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Old 01.09.2011, 15:38
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Re: Feeling low

to cheer myself up..I think of something funny like the first time I made love to someone....she knew I was a virgin even though I lied....actually my wife of 16 years is still laughing....well..I like to be consistent...
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Old 01.09.2011, 15:56
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to cheer myself up..I think of something funny like the first time I made love to someone....she knew I was a virgin even though I lied....actually my wife of 16 years is still laughing....well..I like to be consistent...
umm... thanks for sharing.



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Old 01.09.2011, 15:59
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Re: Feeling low

Cheers again, I am not entirely sure I dont have PMS, I have heard its possible in men!
I cant wait to get home and curl up in a ball on the sofa!

I will check out the event grynch!
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Old 01.09.2011, 16:03
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hey guys,

sorry bit of a self indulgent one, feeling really low today, cant really explain it, but it happens periodically where I feel despite everything being seemingly ok in my life that I am sinking.

I know its not the place for it to talk about depression but it has hit me really hard and I dont want to burden my fiance with it or family as I am always the go to person when they are low.

Anyway, probably just need a big dose of Man Up but cant help feeling shit

Hope I havent brought a downer on anyones day but advice is very welcome...

cheers

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Hey, I've been feeling low the past few days too so don't feel alone. Last night while I was reading bedtime stories to my three year old, I had a sudden and fleeting moment of peace and happiness.. but it disappeared and I feel miseries again today. The unfortunate thing as well is that it seems as though the gods are aware of this and are sending people my way just to pee on my battery.

I also don't usually tell my husband when I'm feeling down as he has a pretty hectic job and I don't want to burden him with my bottom lip that's dragging on the ground. I did last night though and he was his usual understanding and caring self.. It doesn't help how I feel though.

Although, I think mine might be hormonal so I'm lucky in that I have something I can blame.

Good luck bro, I hope you feel better soon!

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Old 01.09.2011, 16:07
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Re: Feeling low

You're not alone, mate. I've been feeling like crap myself for the last 2 or 3 days. It'll pass.

Tonight I'm gonna play some squash, have a couple of beers with my pals and hope it gets better by tomorrow.

Chin up, RWC starts in 7 days, 18 hours and 22 minutes.
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Re: Feeling low

Hi,

I'm reading (perhaps a better phrase would be 'ploughing through') a book on Mindfulness at the moment (here).

I don't agree with everything it says, and I'm not very good at actually practising mindfulness...

But one thing I found really interesting was the section on mood and memory. Basically, the theory is that just as being in a particular physical location can trigger memories, so can being in a particular mood bring back memories of when you've experienced that mood before. What then happens is that the past emotions (which are often very powerful ones) get 'mixed up' with the present emotions (which might have been light and fleeting) so that you suddenly find yourself, for example, feeling very down and sad, and not really understanding what has happened to make you feel that way. You then search for a reason for your low mood, and when you can't find it, feel confused, worried etc.

There's a whole lot of additional theory on how to deal with this, which involves moving from the 'doing' mode of mind (problem solving, e.g. 'Why do I feel bad? What can I do to make myself feel better? Why isn't it working? What's wrong with me?), to the 'being' mode of mind (living in the present, noting your emotions without judging, or trying to change them, just accepting them as passing emotions).

I found it very helpful, because it made so much sense. For example, yesterday on the train I was thinking about an interview I have tomorrow (for a stage as a first step in getting back to work). I felt slightly nervous. Then suddenly that nervousness turned into a huge rush of anxiety, panic, negative thoughts... but because of what I'd been reading, I recognised that these emotions were tied up with previous bad experiences in going back to work after an extended absence.

As I said, I'm not very good at mindfulness, so I couldn't apply the techniques, but what I did do is say to myself 'These emotions don't come from the meeting tomorrow. They come from the past.', and even that small recognition helped. It also helped break the cycle - because I knew these feelings were 'old' feelings, I was able to sort of put them to one side, as something I can't change but also as something that isn't connected to my life right now. As soon as I stopped struggling against them and just let them be, they diminished.

I'll stop now before I bore everyone to death...

I just saw your post and thought 'That's what I've been reading about and experienced!'.
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Re: Feeling low

cheers guys, just another hour at work and I can go home and cry it out! Its funny because my fiance was really homesick recently, and I spent days telling her how great everything really is and inside I feel just as terrible now, it annoys me feeling like this , and there is no rhyme or reason to it I guess I just follow some of the advice above and keep on keeping on...its complicated being a big tough rugby playing softie!lol
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cheers guys, just another hour at work and I can go home and cry it out! Its funny because my fiance was really homesick recently, and I spent days telling her how great everything really is and inside I feel just as terrible now, it annoys me feeling like this , and there is no rhyme or reason to it I guess I just follow some of the advice above and keep on keeping on...its complicated being a big tough rugby playing softie!lol
Come on dude you'll be fine.
- get your lady and go out for a nice meal
- tell her how important she is to you
- start planning your wedding and who you'd like to invite
- pick your best man
- plan a holiday
- find Grynch et al. for a beer
- oh and...... if nothing else works....

call your mother
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