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Old 01.09.2011, 22:26
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hey guys,

sorry bit of a self indulgent one, feeling really low today, cant really explain it, but it happens periodically where I feel despite everything being seemingly ok in my life that I am sinking.

I know its not the place for it to talk about depression but it has hit me really hard and I dont want to burden my fiance with it or family as I am always the go to person when they are low.

Anyway, probably just need a big dose of Man Up but cant help feeling shit

Hope I havent brought a downer on anyones day but advice is very welcome...

cheers

J
I do hope you feel better soon. I've not had time to read through your thread so I apologize if some or all of my response has already been covered by others.

Feeling down at times is perfectly natural. We all experience this. Normally, within a relatively short time span, be it hours or days, we are back to our normal self.

It's when these periods of being down become increasingly prolonged and intense and all attempts to remedy it fail, that it might be time to seek professional help. From your post, thankfully, it appears you are nowhere near this stage.

What struck me most about your post is the mighty responsibility you and / or others place on you as being their "go to person" when they are down. I am sorry to say this but it simply is not right or fair to be put in such a position on a consistent basis. I know someone who unfortunately ended up crashing and burning quite spectacularly as a result of the exact same thing.

There's absolutely nothing wrong with you letting your fiance and family know how you yourself can and do feel low at times and need their support when you do. I bet you'll be very pleasantly surprized how understanding and willing they will be to be there for you. Sometimes we - you, me, everyone - can be too adept at masking how we truly feel, such as putting on a brave face when all we want to do is cry, and which can ultimately have a detrimental effect on us over the longer term.
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Thanks Isha,

I am feeling a little more perky today, though haad a strange evening where I kept having moments where I was happy and troughs again, I have generally been light hearted about life even though several experiences when I was younger do occasionally pop up to haunt me...I usually like to quote Winston Churchill "if you are going through hell...keep going" it helps me to try and be stoic but you are right it can build up and backfire....thanks again to everyone for the support...good too let it out
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Old 02.09.2011, 10:40
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Thanks Isha,

I am feeling a little more perky today, though haad a strange evening where I kept having moments where I was happy and troughs again, I have generally been light hearted about life even though several experiences when I was younger do occasionally pop up to haunt me...I usually like to quote Winston Churchill "if you are going through hell...keep going" it helps me to try and be stoic but you are right it can build up and backfire....thanks again to everyone for the support...good too let it out
@Rugbylad - You're welcome.

Glad you are feeling a little brighter today.

It's okay to have highs and lows - just go with the flow of your feelings and don't worry about whether it's right or wrong and just embrace them.

I like the Winston Churchill quote. Some of the nicest, caring and compassionate people I have ever met have been to hell and back and used their experiences to help others - whether it be through the written word, counselling or other means. In doing so, they've also benefitted in multiple ways.

Hugs to you.
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Having a much better week guys so thanks for the help when I was moaning away last week, I took up plenty of advice, watched Inbetweeners on Youtube, very funny, had a good weekend with my fiance - hiked and nice dinner Sunday, I guess it just catches you sometimes!

Thanks Again

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Old 07.09.2011, 20:52
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COOL I'm glad you're feeling better!
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Thanks Isha,

I am feeling a little more perky today, though haad a strange evening where I kept having moments where I was happy and troughs again, I have generally been light hearted about life even though several experiences when I was younger do occasionally pop up to haunt me...I usually like to quote Winston Churchill "if you are going through hell...keep going" it helps me to try and be stoic but you are right it can build up and backfire....thanks again to everyone for the support...good too let it out
Hmm....sounds familiar.
And yes, it is good to let it out - even virtually.

And at least you don't live in the Outback........
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