Go Back   English Forum Switzerland > Off-Topic > Off-Topic > General off-topic  
Reply
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
  #41  
Old 19.09.2011, 22:43
NSchulzi's Avatar
Forum Veteran
 
Join Date: May 2009
Location: Zug
Posts: 2,422
Groaned at 52 Times in 33 Posts
Thanked 2,523 Times in 1,215 Posts
NSchulzi has a reputation beyond reputeNSchulzi has a reputation beyond reputeNSchulzi has a reputation beyond reputeNSchulzi has a reputation beyond reputeNSchulzi has a reputation beyond reputeNSchulzi has a reputation beyond repute
Re: Opposites attract…or not?

Quote:
View Post
I too am married to my complete and total opposite and have been for many many years.
It can work...but it is work.....and I frequently wonder if it's worth all the work
I am sure it is. After all, you are still there. Can you please expand on your complete and total opposite? Is this in terms of personality, culture, backround, education or other? Just curious!
Reply With Quote
  #42  
Old 19.09.2011, 22:45
desperate's Avatar
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Aug 2011
Location: Deutschland
Posts: 270
Groaned at 6 Times in 6 Posts
Thanked 155 Times in 101 Posts
desperate has annoyed a few people around heredesperate has annoyed a few people around here
Re: Opposites attract…or not?

Quote:
View Post
I too am married to my complete and total opposite and have been for many many years.
It can work...but it is work.....and I frequently wonder if it's worth all the work
Nothing worthwhile comes easy...

Or will the truthasaurus also disspell that myth?
Reply With Quote
  #43  
Old 19.09.2011, 22:46
st2lemans's Avatar
Forum Legend
 
Join Date: Dec 2010
Location: Lugano
Posts: 32,516
Groaned at 2,578 Times in 1,840 Posts
Thanked 39,650 Times in 18,688 Posts
st2lemans has a reputation beyond reputest2lemans has a reputation beyond reputest2lemans has a reputation beyond reputest2lemans has a reputation beyond reputest2lemans has a reputation beyond reputest2lemans has a reputation beyond repute
Re: Opposites attract…or not?

Quote:
See, you're not an English gentleman, are you?
Nope.

Sorry, I just don't do "submissive"!

Tom
Reply With Quote
  #44  
Old 19.09.2011, 22:48
Guest
 
Posts: n/a
Re: Opposites attract…or not?

Quote:
View Post
I am sure it is. After all, you are still there. Can you please expand on your complete and total opposite? Is this in terms of personality, culture, backround, education or other? Just curious!


Apparently he cooks a mean chili con carne...
Reply With Quote
  #45  
Old 19.09.2011, 22:49
Forum Veteran
 
Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Lausanne
Posts: 1,191
Groaned at 11 Times in 7 Posts
Thanked 1,781 Times in 704 Posts
ceppych has a reputation beyond reputeceppych has a reputation beyond reputeceppych has a reputation beyond reputeceppych has a reputation beyond reputeceppych has a reputation beyond reputeceppych has a reputation beyond repute
Re: Opposites attract…or not?

Quote:
View Post
Nothing worthwhile comes easy...

Or will the truthasaurus also disspell that myth?
No, it's a myth.
Does that make it better?
Reply With Quote
  #46  
Old 19.09.2011, 22:53
NSchulzi's Avatar
Forum Veteran
 
Join Date: May 2009
Location: Zug
Posts: 2,422
Groaned at 52 Times in 33 Posts
Thanked 2,523 Times in 1,215 Posts
NSchulzi has a reputation beyond reputeNSchulzi has a reputation beyond reputeNSchulzi has a reputation beyond reputeNSchulzi has a reputation beyond reputeNSchulzi has a reputation beyond reputeNSchulzi has a reputation beyond repute
Re: Opposites attract…or not?

Quote:
View Post
Yes, it's a myth.
But that isn't what you said earlier, surely? Now I'm confused.
Reply With Quote
  #47  
Old 19.09.2011, 22:55
Forum Veteran
 
Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Lausanne
Posts: 1,191
Groaned at 11 Times in 7 Posts
Thanked 1,781 Times in 704 Posts
ceppych has a reputation beyond reputeceppych has a reputation beyond reputeceppych has a reputation beyond reputeceppych has a reputation beyond reputeceppych has a reputation beyond reputeceppych has a reputation beyond repute
Re: Opposites attract…or not?

Quote:
View Post
I am sure it is. After all, you are still there. Can you please expand on your complete and total opposite? Is this in terms of personality, culture, backround, education or other? Just curious!
Or all of the above.
Maybe I'm just having a bad day
Reply With Quote
  #48  
Old 19.09.2011, 22:57
NSchulzi's Avatar
Forum Veteran
 
Join Date: May 2009
Location: Zug
Posts: 2,422
Groaned at 52 Times in 33 Posts
Thanked 2,523 Times in 1,215 Posts
NSchulzi has a reputation beyond reputeNSchulzi has a reputation beyond reputeNSchulzi has a reputation beyond reputeNSchulzi has a reputation beyond reputeNSchulzi has a reputation beyond reputeNSchulzi has a reputation beyond repute
Re: Opposites attract…or not?

Quote:
View Post
Or all of the above.
Maybe I'm just having a bad day
Probably. Sometimes it just seems like that, I know only too well. Tomorrow is another day.
Reply With Quote
  #49  
Old 19.09.2011, 23:02
Forum Veteran
 
Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Lausanne
Posts: 1,191
Groaned at 11 Times in 7 Posts
Thanked 1,781 Times in 704 Posts
ceppych has a reputation beyond reputeceppych has a reputation beyond reputeceppych has a reputation beyond reputeceppych has a reputation beyond reputeceppych has a reputation beyond reputeceppych has a reputation beyond repute
Re: Opposites attract…or not?

Quote:
View Post
Probably. Sometimes it just seems like that, I know only too well. Tomorrow is another day.
Can't thank you on this thread, but thanks.
Maybe the sun will shine tomorrow.....maybe
Reply With Quote
  #50  
Old 20.09.2011, 10:20
ullainga's Avatar
Forum Veteran
 
Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: around Basel
Posts: 1,579
Groaned at 12 Times in 11 Posts
Thanked 2,189 Times in 911 Posts
ullainga has a reputation beyond reputeullainga has a reputation beyond reputeullainga has a reputation beyond reputeullainga has a reputation beyond reputeullainga has a reputation beyond reputeullainga has a reputation beyond repute
Re: Opposites attract…or not?

Quote:
View Post
Nothing worthwhile comes easy...

Or will the truthasaurus also disspell that myth?

It's a myth. You should work on your marriage, but it's not the same as marriage being an uphill struggle and constant hard work. So I also believe that opposites might attract, but those differences that are so interesting at first will drive you nuts in a few years.

"Opposites may attract, but a new study casts doubt on the old saying and suggests that like minds have a much better chance of getting married and living happily ever after.

Researchers found newlywed couples were much more similar in terms of attitudes and values than they were different. In addition, the more similar the couples' personalities were, the more likely they were to report being happy and satisfied in their marriage."

or

researcher Pieternel Dijkstra, PhD, professor of psychology at University of Groningen in the Netherlands. “A look inside will, in most cases, reveal that people are looking for someone similar to themselves. This is not boring, but sensible.”
“The explanation is that unconsciously, people look for partners who are reflections of their ideal selves,” Dijkstra says. “This has been called the Michelangelo effect. A partner who looks like one’s ideal self may help one to develop oneself in order to become the ideal self.”
“Although opposites often attract, the chance of opposites becoming involved in a successful, long-term relationship is relatively small,” she says. “The differences that at first seem so exciting and interesting become, after a while, stressful, frustrating, and hard to understand.
Reply With Quote
  #51  
Old 20.09.2011, 10:26
BHBT's Avatar
Forum Veteran
 
Join Date: May 2005
Location: was Züri
Posts: 947
Groaned at 19 Times in 16 Posts
Thanked 901 Times in 415 Posts
BHBT has a reputation beyond reputeBHBT has a reputation beyond reputeBHBT has a reputation beyond reputeBHBT has a reputation beyond reputeBHBT has a reputation beyond repute
Re: Opposites attract…or not?

My take on this: Yes, opposites do attract and it makes for a lot of hot and heavy fun... but it's short-term.
For something meaningful and long-term, it helps to have common ground. Failing that, it's a lot of hard work.
Reply With Quote
  #52  
Old 20.09.2011, 11:40
Forum Veteran
 
Join Date: Jul 2008
Location: -
Posts: 1,640
Groaned at 26 Times in 22 Posts
Thanked 2,932 Times in 1,202 Posts
Russkov has a reputation beyond reputeRusskov has a reputation beyond reputeRusskov has a reputation beyond reputeRusskov has a reputation beyond reputeRusskov has a reputation beyond reputeRusskov has a reputation beyond repute
Re: Opposites attract…or not?

"Opposites attact" can be a fun way to describe a tumultuous-but-hot initial stage of a relationship. It's a lot less fun when people use it to justify being stuck with a harpie or douchebag years later.
Reply With Quote
  #53  
Old 20.09.2011, 11:47
Chemmie's Avatar
Forum Legend
 
Join Date: Sep 2009
Location: Zurich
Posts: 4,150
Groaned at 33 Times in 29 Posts
Thanked 4,955 Times in 2,235 Posts
Chemmie has a reputation beyond reputeChemmie has a reputation beyond reputeChemmie has a reputation beyond reputeChemmie has a reputation beyond reputeChemmie has a reputation beyond reputeChemmie has a reputation beyond repute
Re: Opposites attract…or not?

hmmm--so that means I should be attracted to fat, stupid arrogant chicks who treat me like shit...yeah that sounds about right
Reply With Quote
  #54  
Old 20.09.2011, 11:49
NSchulzi's Avatar
Forum Veteran
 
Join Date: May 2009
Location: Zug
Posts: 2,422
Groaned at 52 Times in 33 Posts
Thanked 2,523 Times in 1,215 Posts
NSchulzi has a reputation beyond reputeNSchulzi has a reputation beyond reputeNSchulzi has a reputation beyond reputeNSchulzi has a reputation beyond reputeNSchulzi has a reputation beyond reputeNSchulzi has a reputation beyond repute
Re: Opposites attract…or not?

Quote:
View Post
hmmm--so that means I should be attracted to fat, stupid arrogant chicks who treat me like shit...yeah that sounds about right
Or you could try your opposite, for a change
Reply With Quote
  #55  
Old 20.09.2011, 11:59
Helm's Avatar
Forum Veteran
 
Join Date: May 2011
Location: Zürich<->St.Gallen
Posts: 2,209
Groaned at 13 Times in 13 Posts
Thanked 4,136 Times in 1,371 Posts
Helm has a reputation beyond reputeHelm has a reputation beyond reputeHelm has a reputation beyond reputeHelm has a reputation beyond reputeHelm has a reputation beyond reputeHelm has a reputation beyond repute
Re: Opposites attract…or not?

Well, one of the reasons I broke up with my ex was because he was so much like me it turned utterly boring. He could finish my sentences, he knew what I was thinking, we had same taste about books, food, movies, whatever. It was f#cking boring! How can you have a refreshing discussion on, I don't know, good vs. evil when both parties have the same point of view?

My better-half was the complete opposite to me when we met. Meanwhile we changed and started looking more alike (eventually happens after a decade...). But hell, it is still awesome to be able to have a fight over which James Bond was better (though one of us actually didn't like the movies before... oh well...).

So, HELL YEAH! GO FOR IT GIRL! SNATCH THAT ELECTRON FOR YOUR OWN PROTON, BABY!




Worse that can happen is... what?... spending some time with some cold-hearted, rude, static, blond person, right?
__________________

Fighting for Pluto's liberation from the Dwarf League since 2006 @(°.°)=@)x.X)' ' '
Reply With Quote
  #56  
Old 20.09.2011, 12:17
desperate's Avatar
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Aug 2011
Location: Deutschland
Posts: 270
Groaned at 6 Times in 6 Posts
Thanked 155 Times in 101 Posts
desperate has annoyed a few people around heredesperate has annoyed a few people around here
Re: Opposites attract…or not?

Quote:
View Post
My take on this: Yes, opposites do attract and it makes for a lot of hot and heavy fun... but it's short-term.
For something meaningful and long-term, it helps to have common ground. Failing that, it's a lot of hard work.
Isn't this all trying to overrationalize something which is inherently ehm "feeling" based?

Besides... what's an opposite? A staunch republican is the opposite of a flaming liberal... on the other hand, both are passionate about politics so have something in common there?
Reply With Quote
  #57  
Old 20.09.2011, 12:56
Chemmie's Avatar
Forum Legend
 
Join Date: Sep 2009
Location: Zurich
Posts: 4,150
Groaned at 33 Times in 29 Posts
Thanked 4,955 Times in 2,235 Posts
Chemmie has a reputation beyond reputeChemmie has a reputation beyond reputeChemmie has a reputation beyond reputeChemmie has a reputation beyond reputeChemmie has a reputation beyond reputeChemmie has a reputation beyond repute
Re: Opposites attract…or not?

Quote:
View Post
Or you could try your opposite, for a change

That was my opposite--but I forgot to add hot and rich :P
Reply With Quote
  #58  
Old 20.09.2011, 13:00
Banned
 
Join Date: Jul 2010
Location: USA, former Zurich
Posts: 2,041
Groaned at 14 Times in 14 Posts
Thanked 4,811 Times in 1,660 Posts
BokerTov has a reputation beyond reputeBokerTov has a reputation beyond reputeBokerTov has a reputation beyond reputeBokerTov has a reputation beyond reputeBokerTov has a reputation beyond reputeBokerTov has a reputation beyond repute
Re: Opposites attract…or not?

Quote:
View Post
So, HELL YEAH! GO FOR IT GIRL! SNATCH THAT ELECTRON FOR YOUR OWN PROTON, BABY!

Worse that can happen is... what?... spending some time with some cold-hearted, rude, static, blond person, right?
I like this approach

Quote:
View Post
Besides... what's an opposite? A staunch republican is the opposite of a flaming liberal... on the other hand, both are passionate about politics so have something in common there?
I like this approach too

The hardest part is keeping the discussion calm and leaving emotions out of it, as much as possible, when both parties are very opinionated and very passionate about things.

It's about choice at the end. I think "my friend" will choose to find common ground and let differences enrich the relationship, rather than kill it. I would say, though, that recently "my friend" was pretty close to getting out of bed, getting dressed, and leave the house in the middle of a rainstorm at 4am when she heard something along the lines of "I refuse to ever travel to Israel because I disagree with their government's political stance".

DISCLAIMER: the above statement is the pure recounting of an anectode which is an example of the situation, I don't wish by any means to start a debate on this hot topic (which has been discussed ad nauseam elsewhere). I will say though that, for "my friend", which has an unconditional, passionate, and everlasting love for the country of Israel, and has lost friends and loved ones as a consequence of terrorist attacks, it was like salt being rubbed against open wounds

At the end, "she" choose not to leave and talk things through, and I think "she" made the right decision. We shall see.
Reply With Quote
Reply




Currently Active Users Viewing This Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
 
Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off


Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
illusion.....or not absami General off-topic 1 13.05.2011 18:28
not NOT buying a bus ticket or abonnement, being smart? Evita is here Transportation/driving 97 30.10.2010 18:14
How to attract squirrels CheesyKiwi Pet corner 20 23.04.2010 11:45


All times are GMT +2. The time now is 13:39.


Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.4
Copyright ©2000 - 2022, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
LinkBacks Enabled by vBSEO 3.1.0