I am sure it is. After all, you are still there. Can you please expand on your complete and total opposite? Is this in terms of personality, culture, backround, education or other? Just curious!

Nothing worthwhile comes easy...

Or will the truthasaurus also disspell that myth?

Nope.

Sorry, I just don't do "submissive"!

Tom

Apparently he cooks a mean chili con carne...

No, it's a myth.
Does that make it better?

But that isn't what you said earlier, surely? Now I'm confused.

Or all of the above.
Maybe I'm just having a bad day

Probably. Sometimes it just seems like that, I know only too well. Tomorrow is another day.

Can't thank you on this thread, but thanks.
Maybe the sun will shine tomorrow.....maybe

It's a myth. You should work on your marriage, but it's not the same as marriage being an uphill struggle and constant hard work. So I also believe that opposites might attract, but those differences that are so interesting at first will drive you nuts in a few years.

"Opposites may attract, but a new study casts doubt on the old saying and suggests that like minds have a much better chance of getting married and living happily ever after.

Researchers found newlywed couples were much more similar in terms of attitudes and values than they were different. In addition, the more similar the couples' personalities were, the more likely they were to report being happy and satisfied in their marriage."

or

researcher Pieternel Dijkstra, PhD, professor of psychology at University of Groningen in the Netherlands. “A look inside will, in most cases, reveal that people are looking for someone similar to themselves. This is not boring, but sensible.”
“The explanation is that unconsciously, people look for partners who are reflections of their ideal selves,” Dijkstra says. “This has been called the Michelangelo effect. A partner who looks like one’s ideal self may help one to develop oneself in order to become the ideal self.”
“Although opposites often attract, the chance of opposites becoming involved in a successful, long-term relationship is relatively small,” she says. “The differences that at first seem so exciting and interesting become, after a while, stressful, frustrating, and hard to understand.

My take on this: Yes, opposites do attract and it makes for a lot of hot and heavy fun... but it's short-term.
For something meaningful and long-term, it helps to have common ground. Failing that, it's a lot of hard work.

"Opposites attact" can be a fun way to describe a tumultuous-but-hot initial stage of a relationship. It's a lot less fun when people use it to justify being stuck with a harpie or douchebag years later.

hmmm--so that means I should be attracted to fat, stupid arrogant chicks who treat me like shit...yeah that sounds about right

Or you could try your opposite, for a change

Well, one of the reasons I broke up with my ex was because he was so much like me it turned utterly boring. He could finish my sentences, he knew what I was thinking, we had same taste about books, food, movies, whatever. It was f#cking boring! How can you have a refreshing discussion on, I don't know, good vs. evil when both parties have the same point of view?

My better-half was the complete opposite to me when we met. Meanwhile we changed and started looking more alike (eventually happens after a decade...). But hell, it is still awesome to be able to have a fight over which James Bond was better (though one of us actually didn't like the movies before... oh well...).

So, HELL YEAH! GO FOR IT GIRL! SNATCH THAT ELECTRON FOR YOUR OWN PROTON, BABY!




Worse that can happen is... what?... spending some time with some cold-hearted, rude, static, blond person, right?

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Isn't this all trying to overrationalize something which is inherently ehm "feeling" based?

Besides... what's an opposite? A staunch republican is the opposite of a flaming liberal... on the other hand, both are passionate about politics so have something in common there?

That was my opposite--but I forgot to add hot and rich :P

I like this approach

I like this approach too

The hardest part is keeping the discussion calm and leaving emotions out of it, as much as possible, when both parties are very opinionated and very passionate about things.

It's about choice at the end. I think "my friend" will choose to find common ground and let differences enrich the relationship, rather than kill it. I would say, though, that recently "my friend" was pretty close to getting out of bed, getting dressed, and leave the house in the middle of a rainstorm at 4am when she heard something along the lines of "I refuse to ever travel to Israel because I disagree with their government's political stance".

DISCLAIMER: the above statement is the pure recounting of an anectode which is an example of the situation, I don't wish by any means to start a debate on this hot topic (which has been discussed ad nauseam elsewhere). I will say though that, for "my friend", which has an unconditional, passionate, and everlasting love for the country of Israel, and has lost friends and loved ones as a consequence of terrorist attacks, it was like salt being rubbed against open wounds

At the end, "she" choose not to leave and talk things through, and I think "she" made the right decision. We shall see.