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Old 24.10.2011, 09:58
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Trusting a babysitter?

Good Morning all,

We are considering to get a babysitter but we are kind of holding it back in the same time.

Since my daughter was born (3 years ago!!!) We never had a babysitter beside our parents when we see them once or twice a year.

I would love to have some nights out with my sexy hubby and enjoy a nice dinner without having the kids around. Going to a match of FCBarcelona, or seeing a movie, walking in the streets!!!

But we are feeling very insecure to hire someone to be at home with our kids. When the kids are sleeping, not a problem but still. But what about security, responsabilities and trust?

I used to babysit a lot when I was young. The difference was that I was known in the neighbourhood and/or the knew my parents. Here when I ask people, they don't have babysitters, they have their parents.

And last one, would you trust equally a boy than a girl?

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Old 24.10.2011, 13:03
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Re: Trusting a babysitter?

Do you have another (expat) friend you could swap babysitting with? That's what we do here at the moment.

I wouldn't trust a boy as much, generally speaking (I would trust certain specific boys who I know however). Also boys tend to mature later than girls so where I would happily let a 13 or 14-year old girl babysit, I wouldn't leave a boy that age on his own in charge. I know that's kind of sexist. Sorry fellas.

When I was a kid there was a national organisation in charge of babysitters. It was called the babysitters club, and all the young people involved received training. Maybe you have something similar in Spain?

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Re: Trusting a babysitter?

Bring this thread up again because I am sure I can get good tips and opinions for all the Moms & Dads of this forum!

Hadi up!
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Re: Trusting a babysitter?

Nil, i am in a similar situation to you.

I have only left my daughter with my parents and her god mother.

Then one time a close female family member was visiting us, a lady with 4 grown up children of her own, and i had to leave her in charge of my daughter for 40 mins to run an essential errand. She did a terrible job. I returned home early and my daughter was crying, begging for a drink (it was a hot day) and sitting in a smelly nappy. She-in-charge was lazing on the couch watching tv with the volume very high, no doubt to drown out the crying. The experience left me thinking, if i can't trust family then who can i trust.

Then the other day i met a neighbour for the first time. She offered the Babysitting services of her teenage daughter. I politely thanked her but in my own mind though, no way. Then we met again and she invited me around for a coffee, to get to know her and her family. I am starting to warm to the idea now. Plus knowing that the girl's mother is literally just around the corner in case of an emergency or problem is quite reassuring.

So with our wedding anniversary a month away i am mulling over the idea of employing our local teenage babysitter. Still rather nervous though...
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Old 30.10.2011, 12:16
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Re: Trusting a babysitter?

In the village I live i asked around as I had to attend several work functions which were essential. I was very nervous about leaving my kids one cause there are 3 of the little monsters and also cause one is still a bubba. I did make sure they were all put down for bed before we went out so for me they didnt even notice we had gone out the babysitter just had to check on them regularily. I arranged to meet her and her parents before the day so she felt more comfortable and i thought was nice for her parents to see us too before they send there daughter here. She was from our local village and recommended by neighbours as many here in the village do not have family local.

The girl had a current red cross first aid certificate which i believe many do have here. I also asked a neighbour who used the local daycare for her children as many of the girls there did babysitting as an extra and obviously they are working with children all day. Also at work some of the other expats had recommedations as are in similar situations.

It is very hard decision for us but as we have no family close by then if we use a babysitter then we would not have any quality time together and sometimes my husband has work functions which we are expected to both attend.

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Re: Trusting a babysitter?

it is always difficult to have the trust put in someone with something that is so important to you.

knowing the person helps but how about start the right candiate with tea and see how they interact with their charge! I think that is more important if your daughter do not take to the sitter then it is going to be tricky. This is not like parking a car at a parking lot and thus complicate issue.

Starting with someone you know and with short period of time (like half an hour) then lengthen it, hopefully you will find the right person!

Good luck, let us know how you get on!
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Re: Trusting a babysitter?

HA! We just did this for the first time on Friday! I have a daughter (who is 3) and a son (1 year). We happen to live next door to a 13 (almost 14) year old who is a registered babysitter with the Gemeinde. Apparently they have to take a course to be registered. We've never left our children with anyone except family (who happen to live in the UK and USA). It was hard, but we were only gone for a couple hours, and honestly, my daughter had a lovely time! My son was asleep basically the whole time, and while I was nervous, it was so wonderful to be able to go out with my husband! We do plan on using her again in the future. Although, to be fair, it is nice knowing she's a neighbor as I've spoken to her mother (albeit in my bestest german which is "almost" non-existant), and it was agreed that if she needed ANY help, her mother was more than welcome to come over at anytime. But my advice..take the plunge...for your own sanity!!
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Re: Trusting a babysitter?

We were so lucky to always have great neighbours with teenage daughters who doted on our kids. Sally was 15 when she started to babysit- but her mum was just next door to help if ever a crisis arose.

Shayslou. If your neighbour has offered her daughter's services- I'd first of all ask her to help our a few times whilst you are there - and talk to her mum to ask if she would be there to help out just in case of a crisis of any kind (one of our daughters woke up and was sick as a dog once when we were out). Nil do you have any neighbours with a pleasant teenager you could befriend and ask to help a few times after school - to see how she handles the kids, and tell her what you think is right/wrong, acceptable or not.
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Old 30.10.2011, 21:14
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Re: Trusting a babysitter?

Kind of easier in Basel, since you could stick with babysitters who've done the official course, like my daughter. Having said that, my son babysat for a friend's two kids when he was 16 - including nappy changing and cooking the some lunch, while they went skiing. I think he's probably changed more nappies than I have.

Best bet is kids of friends.
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Re: Trusting a babysitter?

If you do find someone you trust...what is the going rate?
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Re: Trusting a babysitter?

Here or in Barca? Like most things, location, location, location - and depends on age and experience of babysitter. A University student in Zurich will be more expensive than the girl next door in a rural area.
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Re: Trusting a babysitter?

We've used a few people to babysit our kids over here, other than visiting family & close friends of course.

One thing we've done with each of our babysitters is actually pay them to come over once to "babysit" while we're still around - so the kids get to know the babysitter, and we can demonstrate how we handle things and what normal routines look like ... it also gave us a good opportunity to show the babysitter where things were, and explain to the kids (two are older - 12 & 10 now) who this 'new' person was and how things would work. One of them is almost 20, earning extra money to get through uni, while the other is 18 and the son of a lady we've known well for the last two years.
The other babysitter we've found is a new work colleague of my wife. We've also 'swapped' babysitting with them to look after their daughter (especially in their early days of settling in, receiving deliveries, assembling furniture ...).

Hope this helps!
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Re: Trusting a babysitter?

Here we have a babysitter service by the gemeinde and they even do babysitting courses. I guess they are quite trustworthy. When my kids were young I always had my colleague's daughters to babysit and that worked out fine.

There should be a babysitter agency in Barcelona, no? Try through them.
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Re: Trusting a babysitter?

You're in Barcelona right? So there must be quite a few international schools, I would put an add and ask for an IB student or the local schools with students who are 18/19 if you don't need an English speaker.

I've never had problems with feeling unsecure when hiring a babysitter, the problem in Bern is that I just could not find any. But i have to say that I would rather have a girl and that I would not ask somene under 16.
I got the baby list from my Gemeinde in Muri Bei Bern and only try to contact the few boys who were on it last. But even then , no none was available.

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Old 31.10.2011, 08:36
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Re: Trusting a babysitter?

Thanks guys for the tips.

I didn't see any teenagers in our blocks yet, I'll have to find out. I can have someone from an agency, that is also a possibility.

I heard so many scary stories about babysitters and the way they handle kids but also about them stealing, etc...

Just on the forum, look at the kind of story and troubles people have with Aupairs!
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Re: Trusting a babysitter?

It's true we hear horrible stories. But if you don't relax when you have found somebody , your romantic evening will be ruined! The alternative would be to buy a camera . some families do that as these kind of devices are more and more available but I don't know if 1) it is legal in Spain and 2) having to do this and not trust the babysitter is really not good.

Maybe you will have to wait to know people and be recommanded some babysitter.

You can always do it the English way and asks for references once you have found someone..
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Re: Trusting a babysitter?

We found an occasional babysitter through a recommendation of two other families who have used her. She has baby-sat for my son a few occasions and my son loves her.

I had my reservations at first because she was just 14 when she started babysitting my son but she is very mature for her age and her mum is nearby if something happens plus she had two glowing recommendations.

I would definitely get a recommendation or try to go through an agency near to you.
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