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Are beautiful people lonely?

I am thinking about this since a while and I would like to get your opinions, experiences about this.

Do you feel comfortable to talk to a very beautiful person? Would you go to this person to talk to in a bar or a coffee? Let's say you see a beautiful woman and you, as a single man, would like to go to talk to her, would you actually do it?

I had a student which was stunning! Absolutely outstandingly beautiful. On top of that she is intelligent, respectful, friendly and down to earth. That girl is still single... I know so many pretty girls, great girls with great personality and no pretention who still single.

Are they cursed to be that pretty? Do you think a beautiful person can be curse when it comes to meet someone?

I think the majority of people are not enough self-confident to go to a pretty person. They would love to but feel they will never have a chance. So since most of the people think like that, it leaves a very small chance to the pretty person to actually meet someone nice who would have enough confidence to go to him/her.
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Old 25.11.2011, 15:15
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Ahhhh.... so that's why noone talks to me at parties.
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Old 25.11.2011, 15:16
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Re: Are beautiful people lonely?

No, I am not lonely
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I am thinking about this since a while and I would like to get your opinions, experiences about this.

Do you feel comfortable to talk to a very beautiful person? Would you go to this person to talk to in a bar or a coffee? Let's say you see a beautiful woman and you, as a single man, would like to go to talk to her, would you actually do it?

I had a student which was stunning! Absolutely outstandingly beautiful. On top of that she is intelligent, respectful, friendly and down to earth. That girl is still single... I know so many pretty girls, great girls with great personality and no pretention who still single.

Are they cursed to be that pretty? Do you think a beautiful person can be curse when it comes to meet someone?

I think the majority of people are not enough self-confident to go to a pretty person. They would love to but feel they will never have a chance. So since most of the people think like that, it leaves a very small chance to the pretty person to actually meet someone nice who would have enough confidence to go to him/her.
I'm a total stud muffin and chicks talk to me all the time...not sure what you're on about.
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Old 25.11.2011, 15:16
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Re: Are beautiful people lonely?

You profile picture is freaking me out. It looks like arms and waist have been completly distorted...

No I have no problem talking to a very beautiful (or ugly for all that matters) person. Beauty doesn't dazzle me. Being a stiff upper lip dazzling snob is a curse though, because you'll be thought of as a bitch. I met my share of those kind of "dazzling beauties".
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Old 25.11.2011, 15:17
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Re: Are beautiful people lonely?

I don't talk to strangers, beautiful or not.

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Old 25.11.2011, 15:17
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Do you feel comfortable to talk to a very beautiful person?
and I talk to myself all the time.
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Old 25.11.2011, 15:17
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You profile picture is freaking me out. It looks like arms and waist have been completly distorted...
..get some glasses!
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Old 25.11.2011, 15:22
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Re: Are beautiful people lonely?

I think the general conception is that people who are uncommon, meaning beautiful, extremely wealthy, have a reputation of some kind, etc...are no so approachable due to the fact that they know that they are special and that they wont waste time speaking to commoners.

That being said, it also depends on the person who is trying / thinking about approaching this person. There is always the idea in the back of the head that would this person like being seen with me etc...

Personally, I don't really think that external factors make much difference. Beauty, Money, etc...are only temporary. For me what matters is what kind of a person you are, inside.

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Old 25.11.2011, 15:23
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Re: Are beautiful people lonely?

I don't think it's so much beauty as behavior and style that keep beautiful people from easily meeting people. Really pretty, down-to-earth and approachable girls can't stay lonely for a second, the world is their oyster.

But beautiful, well-dressed girls with huge sunglasses appear cold and distant, not someone I could talk to easily and certainly not someone I would approach.
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Old 25.11.2011, 15:25
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Re: Are beautiful people lonely?

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I am thinking about this since a while and I would like to get your opinions, experiences about this.

Do you feel comfortable to talk to a very beautiful person? Would you go to this person to talk to in a bar or a coffee? Let's say you see a beautiful woman and you, as a single man, would like to go to talk to her, would you actually do it?

I had a student which was stunning! Absolutely outstandingly beautiful. On top of that she is intelligent, respectful, friendly and down to earth. That girl is still single... I know so many pretty girls, great girls with great personality and no pretention who still single.

Are they cursed to be that pretty? Do you think a beautiful person can be curse when it comes to meet someone?

I think the majority of people are not enough self-confident to go to a pretty person. They would love to but feel they will never have a chance. So since most of the people think like that, it leaves a very small chance to the pretty person to actually meet someone nice who would have enough confidence to go to him/her.
This only happened to me once. I turned to a friend upon seeing the most beautiful girl I have ever seen. She was an asian mix, with a look of prime Ange Jolie about her. I said that girl is so hot I would marry her now. He said go chat to her, I couldn’t, i lost all confidence and confidence is my second name.

To cut a long story short, she came over to me for a lighter at some point in the night, and we were in bed a couple days later. Best 8 months of my life............
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Old 25.11.2011, 15:27
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This only happened to me once. I turned to a friend upon seeing the most beautiful girl I have ever seen. She was an asian mix, with a look of prime Ange Jolie about her. I said that girl is so hot I would marry her now. He said go chat to her, I couldn’t, i lost all confidence and confidence is my second name.

To cut a long story short, she came over to me for a lighter at some point in the night, and we were in bed a couple days later. Best 8 months of my life............
...and then you woke up and it was all gone.
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Old 25.11.2011, 15:29
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...and then you woke up and it was all gone.
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Old 25.11.2011, 15:34
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Re: Are beautiful people lonely?

Well in many cases (especially with women) beautiful people have gotten special treatment their entire lives and have never had to develop any actual personality.

Many 'non-beautiful' people have not had this preferential treatment and thus develop superior personality, humour, wit and on top of that, the ability to notice these equivalent in others through visual cues and sub-obvious signs.
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Well in many cases (especially with women) beautiful people have gotten special treatment their entire lives and have never had to develop any actual personality.

Many 'non-beautiful' people have not had this preferential treatment and thus develop superior personality, humour, wit and on top of that, the ability to notice these equivalent in others through visual cues and sub-obvious signs.
What a load of crap...who decides what is beautiful or not. Last time I checked, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. On the contrary, ugly people fail to develop personality, humor and wit because they don't get preferential treatment everywhere they go.
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Let's say you see a beautiful woman and you, as a single man, would like to go to talk to her, would you actually do it?

Yes........i dont see the issue, but then again i probably take my 'confidence' for granted sometimes.

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What a load of crap...who decides what is beautiful or not. Last time I checked, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. On the contrary, ugly people fail to develop personality, humor and wit because they don't get preferential treatment everywhere they go.

Well beauty is definitely subjective, but there have been quite a few studies linking aesthetically pleasing appearances and success/preferable treatment, so the cocept can't be entirely disregarded.

And yes, definitely not all ugly people develop the personality et. al. described, and a good majority do develope negative social personalities due to their 'ugly' complex. But these were just some points for insight into why some 'not beautiful' people are easier to approach.
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Yes........i dont see the issue, but then again i probably take my 'confidence' for granted sometimes.

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