Learning from others' mistakes?

Hmm-hmm, sure sure...

I won't go in to detail over what people have confided in me over the years.

Let's keep it on topic, huh?

I frankly think that you should spice up your own life before you spice up your marriage. Please don't get me wrong, you are probably a wonderful woman with great friends etc etc. I am talking about taking out time to pursue things you always wanted to but you could not. Women are often overbombarded with several duties and end up forgetting about themselves.
If you want my 2 cents on spicing up your sex life I would suggest you try raunchy hotel sex with your SO. Surprise him and be spontaneous.

Just this weekend I told my husband that we should stop bringing technology into the bedroom. Several years ago, we took the TV out of the bedroom because we noticed that it was unhealthy for us. We would crawl in bed and someone would watch something until they were tired and the other half would either watch too or go to bed. No real interaction otherwise (sex or conversation).

However, we both got smartphones for the first time after moving to Switzerland. We started using them as our alarm clocks. And then you get in bed and set your alarm...which then somehow leads to checking facebook, which turns into checking out some link or video and then next thing you know it's late and you better go to bed NOW before you have a shitty day for sure tomorrow. It's no better than having a TV in the bedroom. Again, no real interaction.

I'm hopeful the tech-free bedroom policy increases the amount of interaction for us.

We have candles beside our bed. Its our go signal/mood setter. When someone lights it up, everything else should be off within minutes. If we both got too busy to light it up, another option is to set the alarm at least half an hour earlier.

Would that also exclude BOB technology being employed in the slumber chamber?




BOB = Battery Operated Boyfriend

That's so true, lifeisabuffet. I do know that and have been trying to get back to doing stuff for me. It's hard!

That's a damn good idea with the hotel thing. That will be my Xmas present to us this year. We'll be with his family and little one will be asleep at Omi's, so I can surprise my man with a steamy night out and in a hotel.
We've also planned to go to some 'novelty shops' together.

Good idea Fortunately we don't have that problem in the bedroom, but the OH tends to glue himself to the computer in the office until late.

We have candles too, but never really used them as a 'signal'... Good idea.

Last night we watched a live concert on big-screen DVD and got down to business there

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