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Old 18.03.2008, 21:30
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What is flirting?????????

Just had a discussion about what is considered as being flirty.Lots of women get accused of flirting just by talking to men.

So is it just talking without touching a sign or not?

Btw this discussion was between two nice ladies who have no idea what flirting is.
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Old 18.03.2008, 21:34
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Re: What is flirting?????????

Replying in short one-syllable sentences means the other person is trying to avoid you.

Touching is flirting.

Everything in between is open to interpretation
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Re: What is flirting?????????

You know when someone's being flirtatious, if you don't, and you think you're being flirtatious then you're weird.

It does not have to involve touch. Have you ever had a conversation about food? Food is the most seductive and flirtatious topic. Flirting is a heady business, touching compliments it.
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Old 18.03.2008, 21:45
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Re: What is flirting?????????

O.k i am sure you can flirt about food (being a chef,gooner). So whats with the eye winking?
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Old 18.03.2008, 21:48
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It does not have to involve touch.
Have had this conversation in mixed company before. The result of our discussion was, basically, how the receiving person accepts the situation. In which each person has the right to initiate or break off a flirtatious moment whenever the need/feeling arises .

It has absolutely nothing to do with touch. I touch customers/course participants to acknowledge their correct answers during my course. And I am surely not flirting with another male person!!

Good thread started.
I am interested to see how the masses reply.

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Old 18.03.2008, 21:49
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Re: What is flirting?????????

Flicking your hair, and looking at the other persons lips (for a kiss)
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Old 18.03.2008, 22:10
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Re: What is flirting?????????

I certainly agree with Scott that touching is not flirting - God I hope not otherwise I spend my days flirty
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So is it just talking without touching a sign or not?
you can definitely flirt without touching!
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Old 18.03.2008, 22:13
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Re: What is flirting?????????

Your body language can give you away! Eye contact, looking at lips, touching your hair and if you are leaning towards them and they are spouting rubbish, hanging on every word
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Old 18.03.2008, 22:15
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Your body language can give you away! Eye contact, looking at lips, touching your hair and if you are leaning towards them and they are spouting rubbish, hanging on every word
... and how!

Body language says so much. I have spent some time learning and reading about body language. Extremely interesting to say the least
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Old 18.03.2008, 22:19
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Re: What is flirting?????????

A male friend of mine on the dance floor last weekend had a very pretty girl come up to him twice and squeezed his left nipple.

Is this the new rage in flirting?
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Old 18.03.2008, 22:22
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Re: What is flirting?????????

It's all in the hungry eyes.
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Old 18.03.2008, 22:27
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A male friend of mine on the dance floor last weekend had a very pretty girl come up to him twice and squeezed his left nipple.

Is this the new rage in flirting?
Personally, I am not up on the latest rages in flirting. It has been quite a while since I have had the "need" to flirt.

However, the nipple thing appears to be a game. From what I have noticed and overheard, the general young crowd today plays games without any hidden thoughts (or flirting). Let me CYA here, this is my opinion.

Perhaps your male friend should offer the same thoughts in return . Of course not direct, but another "harmless" body part.

Keep us informed
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Re: What is flirting?????????

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I certainly agree with Scott that touching is not flirting - God I hope not otherwise I spend my days flirty


Not about this thread but the "quote" about things we have... its great, its true. these things we know but forget again n again, so thanks for such a nice reminder
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A male friend of mine on the dance floor last weekend had a very pretty girl come up to him twice and squeezed his left nipple
That's the new handshake.. he was suppose to reciprocate
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Re: What is flirting?????????

I think having "blow" in your user name could not be a hinderance
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Old 19.03.2008, 10:07
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Flicking your hair, and looking at the other persons lips (for a kiss)

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Your body language can give you away! Eye contact, looking at lips, touching your hair and if you are leaning towards them and they are spouting rubbish, hanging on




Oh my god, what are the people thinking of me, I need to lipread and thus stare almost solely on peoples lips when talking to someone
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Old 19.03.2008, 10:13
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Re: What is flirting?????????

Attention without intention!
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Re: What is flirting?????????

I have no idea either. What is it ? There must be a Flirtmeister on this forum somewhere.

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Just had a discussion about what is considered as being flirty.Lots of women get accused of flirting just by talking to men.

So is it just talking without touching a sign or not?

Btw this discussion was between two nice ladies who have no idea what flirting is.
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Old 19.03.2008, 10:33
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Re: What is flirting?????????

It depends on the environment you move.

Normal standard swiss people don't touch each other too much.

Women only touch men when they are together, or as to express or "test" their intentions.

So I was told in Geneva by a swiss girl.

"To test if the girl wants you, First observe if her attitude towards you has changed. Then touch her and see if she lets you touch or rejects the touch."

So under that theory, the girls are normally "not friendly" towards you, If they become friendly then it could signal a flirt interest, then you touch her back or shoulders to test if she rejects you or lets you touch her. If so you can proceed.

But in my latin environment we are normally friendly, kissy and flirty and we touch each other a lot. So this doesn't work.

In my "latin" environment however ( and more and more ) there are more swiss and european people than real latins. And they become touchy-flirty when they are among us but I have noticed they keep their cold distance when not in the latin environment... interesting.

Even more. The girls I dance with are normally very close to me, we touch each other all the time, she enjoys it and smile, arrange her hair, caress you etc etc. But that doesn't indicate she wants something more. That kind of "flirty" signals get blurred on the heat of the moment I guess.
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