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Gift for my 60yo mom

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I'm thinking about paying a travel somewhere with me with a budget of +/-2000chf + local expense. My mom will have 60 years old this year and I want something authentic and great.

How would you proceed to offer a travel? Should I book something and hope both of us will be allowed to take holidays in this period or how would you proceed?

Btw if you have any suggestion for a 60yo mom gift I'm all ears

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Old 25.11.2017, 10:43
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Re: Gift for my 60yo mom

Travelling is a good idea. Decide on a period and tell her to book some holiday, and leave the rest to you
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Re: Gift for my 60yo mom

How well do you know your Mother and her ideas of presents in general and 60th birthday presents in particular? I'm not being facetious or devious but folk vary so much.
I was never one for birthday parties or 'fun'. I dislike surprises intensely. I know what sort of thing I like and, fortunately for me, so does my family.

I don't think I bothered with my 50th at all. Not because the age disturbed me. It was just another day. For my 60th I had intended to work that weekend. Horrified family vetoed it.

So I said that if we were going to celebrate, I'd like a swish restaurant meal, organised by someone else, for just the very close family.

It was brilliant. Lovely setting at an hotel looking down over Luzern. Delicious food and plenty of time to talk. And the family had a surprise gift after all. A bound book, with each page written by old friends and relatives from all over the world. So many memories of so many happy times came flooding back. A book I repeatedly look at and one I shall treasure till I die.

Good luck with arrangements for a wonderful event.
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Re: Gift for my 60yo mom

Great idea, am sure you can both have a good time. Discuss it with her first. What destinations, maybe show her sites on internet or travel brochures.

There are so many types of holidays, what would you like, winter or sunshine, lazing or masses of walking and sightseeing.

I once booked and paid for holiday for me and my mother, reason being I could get time off work at short notice and had the money, wondered who to go with me, my sister suggested my mother. Booked 2 weeks, in the winter sun, flights, hotel, pool, full board. We booked about 3 trips out and took ourselves off on a wander, we were lucky all went well and most people thought my mother was showing me the world.

Present - does your mum already have a jar opener?
sorry I am boring, only a sensible present. As we get older it can be hard to open jar / can tops the first time. (X8 - Heavy-duty Jar Opener Stainless Steel Lid Can Cap Remover Easy Grip - description from ebay in case you wonder what I mean).

Most of us like flowers

Something else a small neck magnifier - they vary in price and fashion quality. Small item hangs around the neck, very handy out shopping to maybe check the price of something discretely or some other wording.l
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Present - does your mum already have a jar opener?
sorry I am boring, only a sensible present. As we get older it can be hard to open jar / can tops the first time. (X8 - Heavy-duty Jar Opener Stainless Steel Lid Can Cap Remover Easy Grip - description from ebay in case you wonder what I mean).

Most of us like flowers

Something else a small neck magnifier - they vary in price and fashion quality. Small item hangs around the neck, very handy out shopping to maybe check the price of something discretely or some other wording.l
Sorry, but 60 isn't old. I am not quite there yet, but I would be rather upset if I was given these kind of old lady presents.
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Hi there,

I'm thinking about paying a travel somewhere with me with a budget of +/-2000chf + local expense. My mom will have 60 years old this year and I want something authentic and great.

How would you proceed to offer a travel? Should I book something and hope both of us will be allowed to take holidays in this period or how would you proceed?

Btw if you have any suggestion for a 60yo mom gift I'm all ears

Thanks
Why would you book something and "hope" that you both are able to take holiday at the same time? Use your brain and find out when she is definitely free (you don't have to tell her why exactly she needs to be free but you can tell her to ensure she has the time available and keep it a mystery), then book your own annual leave accordingly.

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Present - does your mum already have a jar opener?
sorry I am boring, only a sensible present. As we get older it can be hard to open jar / can tops the first time. (X8 - Heavy-duty Jar Opener Stainless Steel Lid Can Cap Remover Easy Grip - description from ebay in case you wonder what I mean).

Most of us like flowers

Something else a small neck magnifier - they vary in price and fashion quality. Small item hangs around the neck, very handy out shopping to maybe check the price of something discretely or some other wording.l
Possibly one of the most depressing posts I have ever read.

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Sorry, but 60 isn't old. I am not quite there yet, but I would be rather upset if I was given these kind of old lady presents.
Amen to that!

I may joke about my impending decrepitude, but woe betide the family young'un who tries to treat it as a foregone conclusion!

To be honest, I would also not want to have someone else plan my holiday.

The freedom to take a holiday is something I do not have, so over years of thinking 'someday, maybe' I have drawn up a pretty detailed idea of exactly what I would wish to do should I ever have the opportunity. As much as I'd not want to be ungrateful or ungracious, I'd be a bit disappointed if a well meaning child took away the planning part of my once-in-a-lifetime adventure, as to me planning would be large part of the fun.

Assuming I had the free time (which I rarely do) and assuming I could organize the services needed to cover my responsibilities in my absence (difficult to do) I'd certainly go along - recognizing that as with any gift it's the thought that counts.

But then I'd feel very guilty for feeling a little bit disappointed. It's complicated.

But that's me and mine. You (hopefully) know how your own mother would feel about such a gift.

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If you are certain that your mother would welcome the gift of a holiday, give the gift as an idea. A nicely wrapped box filled with travel brochures, that kind of thing. Then plan the trip together.
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Our elders are getting younger every year: bear in mind that somebody who turns 60 this year was a young woman when disco, punk and new wave hit the scene. We are not talking about people who listen to Glen Miller and remember butter rationing any more!

In acknowledgement of this, the Rentnerdiskokulturverein of Zurich offers Sunset Raves on the last Thursday of each month. At a specially adapted venue (ramps, defibrilators, heated toilet seats), our esteemed elders are invited to "have it large" from 19:00 till 21:30, the early finish allowing them to go home, get the curtains drawn and get settled.

Whistles and glow sticks are provided, but attendees are invited to bring their own drugs - sometimes ecstasy, but more often a bottle of Riopan and a couple of Sanatogen Vital 50+.

After a night of throbbing riddims and phat bass, the music winds down with Bryan Adams' "Everything I Do" and tea and cocoa are served, along with biscuits for the more reckless. Most, however, prefer not to eat so close to bedtime.

Unfortunately, the Rentnerdiskokulturverein does not have a website, but tickets may be found in any branch of Denner, usually tucked behind a half-empty bottle of sweet sherry.

What do you think? Is this the kind of thing you had in mind?
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To be honest, I would also not want to have someone else plan my holiday.
Maybe I 'm completely weird, but I'm not sure that going on holiday with one of my children is my favourite idea for a 60th birthday present anyway.
The child might have thought it a wonderful present, very generous and all that but it's my birthday and I want something else.

I'll sort out DB some other time!
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Maybe I 'm completely weird, but I'm not sure that going on holiday with one of my children is my favourite idea for a 60th birthday present anyway.
The child might have thought it a wonderful present, very generous and all that but it's my birthday and I want something else.
If you are not close to your own kids or see them as friends then fine and indeed understandable, but I know parents that have a close relationship with their offspring and would value a 60th birthday holiday with them. It's the kind of thoughtful gift and memory that one day you will loth look back on and treasure.

There are plenty of other birthdays to go roaming around on your own.
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Re: Gift for my 60yo mom

Design and print out a "voucher".

Then look for a date and destination that suits both of you.

For my dad's 60th birthday, we printed out a voucher for a pilgrimage (the Santiago de Compostela thing), to be booked later.

Turns out that my dad, while being quite religious, didn't fancy walking for a week or two. Not at all.

So, it was quickly put in the drawer and forgotten.

Next up, we booked seats at the Bregenzer Festspiele for last Summer (you have to book these or you don't get good seats anymore). I think we booked last year.
I think it was a Christmas present or something.

This Summer, come June or July, my mother was in hospital and my dad wasn't very well either (recently out of hospital). So, they couldn't go and the money went down the drain.

I'll never book anything in advance anymore for them
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My parents have occupied themselves pretty much 100% with their garden, the bees and the various non-profit engagements (Church-related).
I get the feeling that my mom would probably like to travel a bit, but my dad just wants to stay home, sleep in his bed.
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Re: Gift for my 60yo mom

I am a 55 year old Mom and if my children bought me a jar opener or a magnifying glass to hang around my neck, I would think it was a gag gift.

Look, at our age, we already have everything we want and if we really need something we go buy it. We are actually in the process of giving stuff away, not buying more stuff.

I have told my kids that the only gift that we want from now until the day we croak is framed photos or photo books of our kids and grandkids.

The joint vacation is a nice thought, but not as a surprise. Plan it together if you ask her and she wants to go.
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Present - does your mum already have a jar opener?
sorry I am boring, only a sensible present. As we get older it can be hard to open jar / can tops the first time. (X8 - Heavy-duty Jar Opener Stainless Steel Lid Can Cap Remover Easy Grip - description from ebay in case you wonder what I mean).

Most of us like flowers

Something else a small neck magnifier - they vary in price and fashion quality. Small item hangs around the neck, very handy out shopping to maybe check the price of something discretely or some other wording.l
Dude - 60 is not that old (im past 60 and need neither reading glasses nor jar openers).

Flowers are ok. A small plant or tree is a cool gift.
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I think it very much depends on you, and your mother. My mom absolutely loves to travel with us, and is perfectly happy to let us (okay, Mr Wishes) do all the planning. She might express a desire to do this activity or that, or visit a particular type of restaurant, but otherwise she simply likes the adventure.

Of course we don't really book surprise trips. We ask if she'd like to travel and roughly when, and work with that. The surprises are in the details of what we do on the trip, and that's fine with her.

I do not recommend booking a trip without any input, particularly if your mother needs to take time off work. That's almost asking for a disaster.

As for "60th birthday" ideas, 60 is a nice round number but it doesn't mean mom is on the downhill side of life already. I'd say splurge a bit more on how much you spend and/or what you do, but keep her likes and wishes at the center of it.
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IMaybe I 'm completely weird, but I'm not sure that going on holiday with one of my children is my favourite idea for a 60th birthday present anyway.
The child might have thought it a wonderful present, very generous and all that but it's my birthday and I want something else.
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If you are not close to your own kids or see them as friends then fine and indeed understandable...
It isn't that at all. I (and Mr. Longbyt too) have an excellent relationship with them and their partners. We are close, do fun things together and generally enjoy each other's company very much indeed. We've had enjoyable holidays together too, but a holiday with ONE of them as a present isn't what I would have wanted for my 60th. Whenever there is a celebration in the family, I love the whole family together as long as it is still possible.
Maybe if Mr. Longbyt were no longer here and I only had one child, I might have thought differently. Mind you, I'd have to take my bike and my piano with me to ensure that I really enjoy it! And I would certainly want to have a (big) say in where to, when, how...
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Hi there,

I'm thinking about paying a travel somewhere with me with a budget of +/-2000chf + local expense. My mom will have 60 years old this year and I want something authentic and great.

How would you proceed to offer a travel? Should I book something and hope both of us will be allowed to take holidays in this period or how would you proceed?

Btw if you have any suggestion for a 60yo mom gift I'm all ears

Thanks
A trip as a gift is a good idea, but it's good to know if she can take days off! For my mom would be an "unpleasant" surprise because she's very busy during that time of the year when it's her birthday. She's an certified accountant with her own company and her clients count on her, even though she can delegate parts of her job to her employees. But she wouldn't be pleased to leave right then.
So make sure your mom is available, she might have projects and deadlines you don't know about.

If I had to buy a gift I would think of something more meaningful for such a rounded age. Organise a dinner, invite friends and family.....and buy flowers. Lots and lots of them. Sometimes I do that even if it's not her birthday, if I happen to be in the country. It's kind of my thing, and she loves flowers too. What do you like to do for her birthdays? What does she enjoy? Only you know.
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Re: Gift for my 60yo mom

-1 for the flowers. Nice, just not too many of them please Id rather have some plants.

Do ask your mom. Mine was absolutely interested in traveling (decided with 73 she had never been to the US and Canada so booked a trip), my MIL would have hated it.

Ask her if she has any plans already and if she has any wishes? You could then work from there
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Sorry, but 60 isn't old. I am not quite there yet, but I would be rather upset if I was given these kind of old lady presents.
Madonna is 59.

I wonder what would happen if someone were to give her a magnifying glass or an easy-grip jar opener on her 60th?
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60 is ancient!

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