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What is with some women? No self respect!!!!

What is with women who keep going back to guys who are no good for them, I am currently observing 4 acquaintances whose partners have repeatedly cheated and made clear that they are not truly interested, but these ladies keep opening their legs each time the guy winks at them. One even stopped taking the pill secretly to get pregnant, to trap the guy!!! He still left Maybe it is a biological thing?

They keep thinking that they can somehow change the man and get him to start a happy family together How many times does an individual have to be fooled before they smell the coffee? I am sure there are men like that with no self-respect too, but I notice that men tend to smell the coffee faster!

My respect to ladies who genuinely have self-respect and don't allow themselves to be used as a doormat. Anyone can make a mistake, but making the same mistake repeatedly?

Ok that would be all, groan away
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What is with women who keep going back to guys who are no good for them, I am currently observing 4 acquaintances whose partners have repeatedly cheated and made clear that they are not truly interested, but these ladies keep opening their legs each time the guy winks at them. One even stopped taking the pill secretly to get pregnant, to trap the guy!!! He still left Maybe it is a biological thing?

They keep thinking that they can somehow change the man and get him to start a happy family together How many times does an individual have to be fooled before they smell the coffee? I am sure there are men like that with no self-respect too, but I notice that men tend to smell the coffee faster!

My respect to ladies who genuinely have self-respect and don't allow themselves to be used as a doormat. Anyone can make a mistake, but making the same mistakes repeatedly?

Ok that would be all, groan away
I think that it's really obvious from your posts that you have no success with the ladies.
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Old 20.05.2021, 09:35
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Re: What is with some women? No self respect!!!!

Sometimes it is a lack of self confidence that causes women to keep coming back to the "bad boys" - maybe they've had really shitty partners before, so having your fella cheat on you isn't as bad as getting your teeth knocked out. Or fear that they may not be able to attract another man, so better to live with/tolerate what they've got now. Or it may be that those women believe this "bad boy" behaviour is normal - it is what they've grown up with in observing other male "role models", and just don't know any other way.

Other times it's a misguided view that "if I just be patient he'll realise how good I am", and will come back to me and settle down; or "if I just be patient I'll have the chance to change him". And in some instances, there are women who find elusive and non commital men to be a "challenge" they need to overcome (sometimes for the sport, other times due to deeper rooted issues)...

If you're genuinely curious on why some women behave this way in these circumstances, do some quality research on why women subject to domestic violence continue to stay with abusive partners - not the same situation as a cheating or unloving git, but there's plenty of psychology in common. I've heard many people over the years, automatically label and dismiss these kinds of women as having no self respect or as foolish, or even as being stupid and weak, BUT I can assure you, the matter isn't that simple...

Finally, not all people are wired for "conventional" relationships - what you think is normal and loving might not be as sexy or appealling to someone else.

And for what it is worth, I've seen no shortage of men with "no self respect" either - tolerating partners/wives who are verbally abusive and take every opportunity to belittle their blokes, and/or who are shrill and nasty shrews - the kind of women who make me want to bop them in the nose, but still their fellas stick by them, for whatever misguided reasons.

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Old 20.05.2021, 09:42
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I think that it's really obvious from your posts that you have no success with the ladies.
Says the incel.

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Old 20.05.2021, 09:45
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Re: What is with some women? No self respect!!!!

We were discussing this last Saturday at the de-facto Stammtisch (benches and table in front of the local grocery), and the women agreed!

Apparently, nice guys are BORING!

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Old 20.05.2021, 09:52
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It's really obvious from your posts that you have no success with the ladies.
You worked all that out from my post? What a klugscheisser! Not everyone can be a b̶e̶d̶-̶w̶e̶t̶t̶i̶n̶g̶ bodily fluid releasing ladies man like you

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I think that it's really obvious from your posts that you have no success with the ladies.
And how do you get on calling them ladies to their faces? Or maybe you don’t
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What is with women who keep going back to guys who are no good for them, I am currently observing 4 acquaintances whose partners have repeatedly cheated and made clear that they are not truly interested, but these ladies keep opening their legs each time the guy winks at them. One even stopped taking the pill secretly to get pregnant, to trap the guy!!! He still left Maybe it is a biological thing?

They keep thinking that they can somehow change the man and get him to start a happy family together How many times does an individual have to be fooled before they smell the coffee? I am sure there are men like that with no self-respect too, but I notice that men tend to smell the coffee faster!

My respect to ladies who genuinely have self-respect and don't allow themselves to be used as a doormat. Anyone can make a mistake, but making the same mistake repeatedly?

Ok that would be all, groan away
If you‘re talking about women here I think you have no idea, you would never really know these kinds of details and also if those women were also not faithful themselves.

If I‘m wrong please explain.
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Old 20.05.2021, 10:09
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What is with women who keep going back to guys who are no good for them, I am currently observing 4 acquaintances whose partners have repeatedly cheated and made clear that they are not truly interested, but these ladies keep opening their legs each time the guy winks at them. One even stopped taking the pill secretly to get pregnant, to trap the guy!!! He still left Maybe it is a biological thing?

They keep thinking that they can somehow change the man and get him to start a happy family together How many times does an individual have to be fooled before they smell the coffee? I am sure there are men like that with no self-respect too, but I notice that men tend to smell the coffee faster!

My respect to ladies who genuinely have self-respect and don't allow themselves to be used as a doormat. Anyone can make a mistake, but making the same mistake repeatedly?

Ok that would be all, groan away
so these 4 acquaintances, you got their numbers?...
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If I‘m wrong please explain.
My wife regularly makes the same complaint about her daughter!

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And for what it is worth, I've seen no shortage of men with "no self respect" either - tolerating partners/wives who are verbally abusive and take every opportunity to belittle their blokes, and/or who are shrill and nasty shrews - the kind of women who make me want to bop them in the nose, but still their fellas stick by them, for whatever misguided reasons.
Ouch! One chance would be one chance too many for a woman like that! My self-respect/worth is everything to me!!!! My self-worth compass was always good, maybe I need to thank my parents or just my common sense.

Btw I have also seen women from broken bad families growing up to be wonderful and strong while women from good stable homes turning out to be batshit crazy!

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Finally, not all people are wired for "conventional" relationships - what you think is normal and loving might not be as sexy or appealling to someone else.
Yes true, but in the above examples they desperately want/wanted the happy loving family thing.
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Ouch! One chance would be one chance too many for a woman like that! My self-respect/worth is everything to me!!!! My self-worth compass was always good, maybe I need to thank my parents or just my common sense.

Btw I have also seen women from broken bad families growing up to be wonderful and strong while women from good stable homes turning out to be batshit crazy!

Yes true, but in the above examples they desperately want/wanted the happy loving family thing.
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so these 4 acquaintances, you got their numbers?...

Yes sure. I would not wish them on you, unless you want to play dad to someone else's kids
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What is with women who keep going back to guys who are no good for them, I am currently observing 4 acquaintances whose partners have repeatedly cheated and made clear that they are not truly interested, but these ladies keep opening their legs each time the guy winks at them. One even stopped taking the pill secretly to get pregnant, to trap the guy!!! He still left Maybe it is a biological thing?

They keep thinking that they can somehow change the man and get him to start a happy family together How many times does an individual have to be fooled before they smell the coffee? I am sure there are men like that with no self-respect too, but I notice that men tend to smell the coffee faster!

My respect to ladies who genuinely have self-respect and don't allow themselves to be used as a doormat. Anyone can make a mistake, but making the same mistake repeatedly?

Ok that would be all, groan away

Why is it your business?
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Old 20.05.2021, 10:23
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Re: What is with some women? No self respect!!!!

What I find interesting is that generally (note: I am generalizing here, so of course not everyone) women tend to "forgive" and stay with their men who have cheated, than the other way around. I personally know of a few female friends who did. (and no, they did not stay for the money) But when the woman cheats, the man is usually done with her.

Also, people "tend to" repeat their parents' marriage / partnership patterns. It's all psychological family history, which can be broken once you realize things and become very aware of them.
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Old 20.05.2021, 10:28
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Why is it your business?

It is not, but they make it my business by constantly telling me and expecting sympathy, when it is clearly selberschuld!

I started the thread as I feel sorry that I am sharing the planet with so many crazy people
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Old 20.05.2021, 10:29
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I am fascinated by your take here.

You're irritated by women who repeatedly forgive, and tolerate poor behaviour.

It doesn't irritate you at all that your own gender are the ones repeatedly exhibiting the poor behaviour, and treating women like crap?
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We were discussing this last Saturday at the de-facto Stammtisch (benches and table in front of the local grocery), and the women agreed!

Apparently, nice guys are BORING!

Tom

Well 2 of the ladies in the opening post are with fat slobs! All 4 men are boring and not nice! Actually all the 4 ladies are boring themselves too, so maybe they are all well-matched for each other
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