My ex-mother in law died this morning. If it wasn't for her I wouldn't have had such an easy introduction to the strangeness of Swiss rules and regulations.

For all those people who think the Swiss are cold and precise, most aren't you just have to get to know them.

I'm glad I had a good mentor and I'm only sad because all good things have an end.

28 years and the lessons and love will live on.

I am very sorry to hear this and hope everything will turn out OK soon.

Oh sweetie i am so sorry if you want to chat you can ring me anytime.

Sad news but a lovely sentiment. I'm sorry for your loss.

A big hug to you.

J.

What a fabulous obituary to someone who sounds like a wonderful, giving and kind soul. I am sure her wisdom and knowledge will be put to good use, as you pick up the mantle and pass it on to others.
Im sorry for your loss.
All the best, Gal xx

Been a while since I posted on here but wanted to wish you well, Oldhand, and hope you'll all be ok

Mikey

I'm overwhelmed by the the response. I thought you'd all think I'm mad being sad about a woman who's son I used to be married to. Thanks for the response she was a really special woman and like I said some of her lessons in life for me are indispensable.

4 of the 5 siblings would like me to attend the funeral but I'd be more comfortable going after the fact and meeting with those who haven't got a grudge. I'm just sitting here in a teary blur thinking about the little northern Lass who turned up on this woman's doorstep (courtesy of her son) and how hard it must have been for her. She went out of her way to teach me the language and the no no's in village society.

I'm for ever grateful for the love and energy she invested in me.

Boo Hoo

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Condolences. The bright side is that you had the opportunity to enjoy her. Cherish your memories and think happy when you think of her.

Very sorry to hear this. It is painful for us when the dear ones departs to higher abode leaving behind nice memories for us to live with. May the departed soul rest in peace.

Sorry Oldhand - she must have been a very special woman for her daughter in law to think so much of her

Dear Oldhand, so sorry to hear of your loss. My tears flow for you and the love you so blessedly shared with your ex-mother-in-law. She lives on in the wise and loving legacy she leaves behind.

You are very lucky to have had such a kind hearted mother-in-law. I'm sorry for your loss. She must have been a very generous and thoughtful person.

I sympathize with you and wish you get well soon. It is interesting to hear stories about people playing important roles in one's life and education when making a footsteps on a new land. It seems like it wasn't at vain and she did a great job. May she rest in peace and yourself try to enjoy these gorgeous spring days outside

Sweetie just because you are no longer married to her son doesn`t mean you stopped loving her, she sounds like she was a loving and caring person.

As for the funeral do what you think best is sweetie, and as always EF is here for you.

Sorry to hear this, Oldhand. She sounds like a wonderful woman and a real treasure to have known.

I'm really sorry to hear of your loss. You may not feel welcome at the funeral, but do make the space for yourself to grieve the loss of her - be it at the funeral or on your own.

Condolences.
I am sorry to hear that.
I hope you will be fine, and you should.
Be strong.
Thats is the part of everyone's life.

Be strong, and be well.

Dear Oldhand,
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. It really is sad to have to say goodbye to someone who had such a great influence on your early days in Switzerland.
If you really want to go to the funeral, I suggest you go. It is a very personal feeling you had for this lady. If you have the impression your presence is not wanted by other members of the family, then slip in and slip away afterwards. Your condolences to the family members with whom you had a good relationship can take place at another time, but the funeral may be a special chance for you to say a special goodbye.
Thinking of you.

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It is easy to say to someone be strong, but when they are going through such a sad time losing someone they love it is not so easy to accept, and saying that is apart of everyones life at this point to someone who as just lost a beloved one is not exactly the right response i think, when i have lost loved ones in the past people tried to tell me time heals, be strong e.t.c and all i wanted to do was shout at them in the long run it is true, but at the beginning no one who as lost a loved one wants to hear/read this. I know you meant well with your post just wanted to share my experience with lost ones.

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