There's a thread about this: Getting involve in your friend's life

You have just a certain amount of things you can say before it gets a- nowhere or b- into trouble...

well, perhaps..for me speaking honestly in regards to friends is a given...I want to ensure they get my point of view at least and is good for your own conscience...but.. that's me

Yep.... me too! But nothing change. She still there, she still accepting everything and when we talk, she knows, she agrees, she has enough...

But apparently not enough enough. I can't do more, I can't say more than all the things I said and it is just very frustrating for me to see her like that....

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You made everything you could do. It's up to her to react now.

some people need to go to the farther point, before starting to really react.

you've done your duty...if it drives you crazy I'd reduce the amount of time I spend/talk to her. If she asks what is up with that tell her the reason...perhaps that will get her to take some action...

yep.... and I think this is why I am now glad to be far away.... Because being next to her and seeing her taking abuse is too hard. And the worse is that she is the one who allowed her husband and parents in law to do it.

It must be hard to witness a friend going through some hell, but I often wonder, nobody really has a full insight into what is really happening and why the friend lets the situation be the way it seems to an outsider..Love is a peculiar thing after all, innit.

One thing is sure to me, though, if I was in a deep trouble and found out a friend has been sharing details of my sad and difficult situ on a public online forum, I think I would be reassessing the friendship.

We are so sure of our little, safe and secure looking, free speech flowing mini world here, that we forget this is all accessible to public and what is said stays put. If somebody gossips when friends are over for a chitchat that's one thing, but here..Just imagine you publicly read this in a radio program. I think one would think twice about exposing our dear ones.

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First, that person will have to know this forum and know my nickname.

Even if my friend ccould see this, it is nothing I am saying that she doesn't know from me, that I didn't tell her already. And if, let's say if she sees it, I hope she'll see that other people think the same as I do and maybe she will realised that her situation shouldn't be acceptable for her nor for any other women!!!!

I've got to agree MusicChick - it is a very small world out there.