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Old 27.02.2011, 19:38
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She's already said she didn't mean it the way it sounded / wasn't aware of how it would come across. Goodness knows I've posted some ridiculous nonsense in my time (not on this forum, of course not, 'twas on another forum, not this one, no need to go looking for it, no no... what? No, STEP AWAY from that search button, DB! This minute!) without 100% realizing how badly my remarks would be taken. Fortunately people were pretty nice to me, especially once it was clear I hadn't meant to offend.
Oh, I am relax, really.... Did I sound agressive? I didn't mean it the way it sounded....

I was certainly not aware of how it would come across either.

I'll tell you something my mom used to tell me: If you have nothing nice to say, shut up. And this other one (Ouchboy would love it): Turn you tongue seven times in your mouth before to speak. (it gives you time to think of how it could sounds to other)

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Old 27.02.2011, 19:38
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Oooh, this is getting spicy. Better go back to my physics forums before I'm burned at the virtual stake.

P.S. True about many Dadaists not being originally Swiss, but the reaction was, in part, against the elite's domination of the art world at the time. I wrote a thesis on it during my undergrad study.

P.S.S. You're lovely and don't really look like Milli Vanilli. Thanks for being cool about my silly comment. (I myself am half Muppet).
@Carrie F - In all seriousness had you left it there and just walked away from this thread I would've had the greatest respect for you but your continuous attempts to show your intellectual superiority and put others down by stooping to "meet them on their level" when they contradict your views is getting extremely tiresome.

You are absolutely entitled to your views, as indeed is every other member on this forum but please do the gracious thing now and just bow out of this thread which is, after all, about dating.
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Old 27.02.2011, 19:40
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Re: Why is it so hard to find a date in Zurich?! (hope my friends wont kill me)

The cure to avoiding certain posters on this forum:

The ignore button
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Old 27.02.2011, 19:44
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I think you should all read up a bit on group psychology and why people bully in groups.
And so if I am the black sheep here, I can only take that as a compliment.
I'm sure you're a great person Ms. F, you are just a bit hard to read. You accept opposing viewpoints, but only if they are presented, as you say, intelligently, which absolves you of guilt when you react negatively toward an opinion. Yeah, I knows my psychioliogy. Do stick around, some of the better regular posters started out with red blobs and lots of groans (no weird doubletalk there- really).
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Old 27.02.2011, 19:44
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Re: Why is it so hard to find a date in Zurich?! (hope my friends wont kill me)

MATHNUT!!!!


you are one of those number people, you know... could you explain them in your language why trying to establish your superior intelligence and moral high ground to a group you just joined is generally a bad idea.

Please note that this idea is as bad as:

- Verbally attacking a guy with a microphone
- Making your waiter angry at you
- Giving alcohol to an airplane pilot.
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Old 27.02.2011, 19:46
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Re: Why is it so hard to find a date in Zurich?! (hope my friends wont kill me)

Mathnut, really, she doesn't help herself much here....

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P.S. Nil, I find it amusing (but predictable) that you were cool to me until a bunch of people decided to bully me and then you joined in. I think you should all read up a bit on group psychology and why people bully in groups.
And so if I am the black sheep here, I can only take that as a compliment.
Don't give yourself more importance than you deserve. I have good exemples of why I am not that nice to you. Believe me, I don't need other people to think for me.... I can do that on my own... As bimbo as I can look on my profil picture.

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Well, I never was very good at playing by the rules. This is probably one of the reasons why I feel I don't belong in Switzerland.

P.S. Nil, thanks for exemplifying my point.
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No, that wasn't my intention whatsoever and I'm sorry if you misinterpreted it that way. My original post was not intended to attack anyone in particular, but then when others started attacking what I had written (either directly or with a more passive-aggressive, cynical approach, I felt I needed to meet them on their level). I realize now that I just should have ignored it.

Ugh... this is why I usually avoid social forums. They're often so infested with inflated egos that they bring parts of myself out that I'd rather subdue and keep in check. To "not play the game," so to speak. And so on that note, I am finally resorting back to the physics forums where at least the line between objective truth and subjective truth is much less easily blurred.
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I can't help but wonder if one of the reasons why so many men and women here seem to have trouble hooking up is because, in my opinion, a lot of the women here seem very un-approachable and vain and seem to think that life is little more than a fashion show (especially in Zurich). I can even see evidence of this here on this forum, where so many women try to look like some kind of fashion-obsessed movie star in their profile pictures (those cheesy "glamor shots" from the 1980s come to mind), rather than just presenting themselves as being down-to-earth, with their priorities straight. And, well, it's been my experience that most mature and intelligent men prefer having serious relationships with women they can carry good conversations with, etc. to those who seem to think that they can get by in life with their looks alone.
Of course, I'm sure there are plenty of intelligent women here. I just wish the majority of them were quicker to exploit their intellect rather than their narcissism.
And here where you failed to understand the meaning of Narcissism.

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But mine's not.

Anyways, I find it difficult to find humor in a woman even jokingly presenting herself that way, knowing how much pop culture and the media have completely warped so many women's identities.
I guess it is about it.... for now!
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Old 27.02.2011, 19:48
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MATHNUT!!!!


you are one of those number people, you know... could you explain them in your language why trying to establish your superior intelligence and moral high ground to a group you just joined is generally a bad idea.
Cause it doesn't work. "Repeated experiments have shown" etc.

She's a physicist so that should be enough for her... unless she's one of those string-theorist types...
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Old 27.02.2011, 19:56
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I'm sure you're a great person Ms. F, you are just a bit hard to read. You accept opposing viewpoints, but only if they are presented, as you say, intelligently, which absolves you of guilt when you react negatively toward an opinion. Yeah, I knows my psychioliogy. Do stick around, some of the better regular posters started out with red blobs and lots of groans (no weird doubletalk there- really).
Sorry, the last thing I want this thread to make me become is irrationally defensive. It's just that I seriously cannot remember anyone offering a substantial argument against my original post. All I can remember are a few defensive and cynical comments. Again, my original post was not aimed at anyone in particular. It was purely based on my *subjective* observations (though I will admit that I later made some lame remarks while in defense mode, and this is precisely why I'm now trying to keep my defensiveness in check!).
Also, I am most certainly not trying to assert my intellectual superiority over anyone. When I wrote "stoop to their level," I meant that in the sense of counter-attacking with cynicism, not stooping to anyone's level of stupidity (or whatever). Hope that makes sense.
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I will admit that I later made some lame remarks while in defense mode, and this is precisely why I'm now trying to keep my defensiveness in check!
Do you understand what is meant by "taking responsibility for your own actions"?
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Old 27.02.2011, 20:02
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Cause it doesn't work. "Repeated experiments have shown" etc.

She's a physicist so that should be enough for her... unless she's one of those string-theorist types...
Lol! No, actually I think that adherence to string theory is one of the reasons no major advancements in physics have been made in quite a long time. But I'll save that for the physics forums before I am accused of straying from the subject of this thread, which is... already off the subject. Ahhh... entropy.
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Old 27.02.2011, 20:11
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Do you understand what is meant by "taking responsibility for your own actions"?
Yes, I do. And I am fully taking responsibility for it. Otherwise, I would have cut out of here long ago.

But sadly, I seem to be one of the very few people on here who is willing to admit that an opinion is nothing more than just that...
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Old 27.02.2011, 20:14
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But sadly, I seem to be one of the very few people on here who is willing to admit that an opinion is nothing more than just that...
No... you are insisting that your opinion is nothing more than just that, but that everybody else's opinions are cynical, defensive, unintelligent and at a lower level than yours.

Why can't you accept the fact that your initial post in this thread was rude and insulting to a large number of members of this forum, and that you are largely responsible for the train wreck that ensued?
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Old 27.02.2011, 20:15
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Yes, I do. And I am fully taking responsibility for it. Otherwise, I would have cut out of here long ago.

But sadly, I seem to be one of the very few people on here who is willing to admit that an opinion is nothing more than just that...
Aye aye aye- don't aim the dang pistol at your foot Ms. F!
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Re: Why is it so hard to find a date in Zurich?! (hope my friends wont kill me)

There are times when I could hit an ignore button for useless pages on otherwise useful threads.
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Old 27.02.2011, 20:18
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There are times when I could hit an ignore button for useless pages on otherwise useful threads.
But you'll miss all the fun!
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Old 27.02.2011, 20:20
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Re: Why is it so hard to find a date in Zurich?! (hope my friends wont kill me)

Not sure about fun.. it is becoming a bit heavy lately.
Perhaps everything to discuss has been discussed.... and will be discussed again by a new generation of EFers who, as we have, will think that it's new and different.
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Old 27.02.2011, 20:27
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Re: Why is it so hard to find a date in Zurich?! (hope my friends wont kill me)

Fun it may or may not be; Off Topic it certainly is. I'm as bad as anyone but let's try to get back on topic now.

Dating in Zurich: why it is so hard and how fervently we hope our friends won't kill us. Or something like that.
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Old 27.02.2011, 20:30
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No... you are insisting that your opinion is nothing more than just that, but that everybody else's opinions are cynical, defensive, unintelligent and at a lower level than yours.

Why can't you accept the fact that your initial post in this thread was rude and insulting to a large number of members of this forum, and that you are largely responsible for the train wreck that ensued?
First, please explain to me why you thought my initial post was insulting to you.
And I certainly don't consider this a train wreck. Again, it's just a matter of perception versus perception. My initial opinion still stands, regardless of how many people may have not liked it. Because, again, no one has been able to convince me otherwise. And in fact, much of what the two females on here who do look like those cheesy glamor shots have written has only compounded by theory.
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Old 27.02.2011, 20:32
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Dating in Zurich: why it is so hard and how fervently we hope our friends won't kill us. Or something like that.
because I rather be alone than with a no fun physicist???

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Old 27.02.2011, 20:38
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Re: Why is it so hard to find a date in Zurich?! (hope my friends wont kill me)

Serious reply to title: Is it easier to date in other cities / countries?
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