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I'm not so naive, of course, to think that this is it, that all the misery is over and that the rest of our lives are to consist of skipping through the fields of Glarus, chasing cow patties and drinking rivella.
fixed that for you.

Is that naive? My Swiss-half promised me that there is no misery in Glarnerland.
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Sorry, no soccer fans here.

Hockey is another matter!

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Shame on you! I am happy to say that I am moving in the city of my favorite team!
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My Swiss-half promised me that there is no misery in Glarnerland.
I can assure you that there is.

It comes in a small green conical container...

EDIT: I've just noticed your username!

I'm guessing you don't feel the same antipathy towards Glarnerland's biggest export, then?
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Old 27.02.2011, 23:06
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Shame on you! I am happy to say that I am moving in the city of my favorite team!
Alas, I have lived there for 21 years!

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Old 27.02.2011, 23:08
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Shame on you! I am happy to say that I am moving in the city of my favorite team!
And that would be?

Berne?

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Alas, I have lived there for 21 years!

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My hope for Hockey have been on ice (no pun intended.... well, yes! a bit ) since they took my Nordiques away.... but we can now hope again to see them back!
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I can assure you that there is.

It comes in a small green conical container...
Hence my name. I thought about getting a picture of it and making it my avatar but ...

Just noticed your edit: I have never been so glad that I am lactose intolerant!
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And that would be?

Berne?

Tom
Ok, I know you are not a fan, but football in Switzerland is not what we can call "serious'' business!

I am going to hide now, in case of some fans around....

PS: And stop groaning! I am sensitive!
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Old 27.02.2011, 23:37
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Very true.

Here's my story: I moved to Switzerland nearly six years ago, having given up a wonderful job, sold my house, put my furniture in a shipping container and bought my flight tickets to come and join my lovely Swiss fiancee to begin a life of Alpine delight with a bright future of babies and cheese and jass ahead of me. Unfortunately, while I was busy giving up my job, selling my house, putting my furniture in a shipping container and buying flight tickets, she was busy making sweet love with some other chap. She dumped me seven days before I was due to arrive, but I came anyway, not having anything left in England to stay for.

The first couple of years were not entirely pleasant. I was persuaded to stay beyond my trial period at work by the promise of promotion, a poisoned chalice which led, two years later, to burnout and a determination not to be such a sad git any more. I was living in Switzerland, and was going to have to learn to like it.

I pinned a manifesto to my kitchen cupboard, where I listed the things I wanted to achieve in the coming months: learn German... get a new job... get a social life outside work... there were several items on the list, but none of them said "get a girlfriend". That was quite deliberate, even though, obviously, I rather wanted one.

My quest for a social life led me to Swissfriends which, despite being a dating website (its name is very misleading), rewarded me with some very good platonic friends and, later, friends of friends. Then I joined an online forum for English-speaking expats, and things really took off... I went to events, met some really sound people, arranged a trip to the Luzern fasnacht, was disappointed to see only one person turn up, was delighted over the subsequent months to discover that that one person was destined to be my wife, and the rest is history.

I wish to stress again: I wasn't actively looking for a girlfriend, although I may possibly have leapt at a couple of opportunities that might have passed my way . I was desperately lonely, starved of love and I pined for someone to hold and spend my evenings with. But my biggest priority was, to put it bluntly, to get a life.

Once you get one of those, everything else is sure to fall into place sooner or later, even if you do take a couple of tumbles on the way.

I'm not so naive, of course, to think that this is it, that all the misery is over and that the rest of our lives are to consist of skipping through the fields of Glarus, chasing butterflies and drinking lemonade. But what we have now is more than I could ever have hoped for when I pinned that manifesto to my kitchen cupboard all those years ago.

If it all ends tomorrow, then I shall be grateful, at least, for that.
@DB - Thanks so much for sharing your awesome and inspirational story. I can relate to it on so many levels...

Moving here lock, stock and barrel to be with a then-Swiss partner and being dumped in a short space of time thereafter has happened to several people I've met in the time I've been here, including me.

Like you, I resolved to stay having just gotten my first job the day he ended it. To say I was very unhappy for a long time afterwards would be an understatement but it toughened me up in many ways and, looking back, I am glad it happened as I am sure I would've been divorced again by now had we married before I came over as he had initially wanted.

Since then I've met many wonderful people - of both sexes - from all over the world through going out, through work, introductions, hanging on forums (sometimes a little too much ) and okay, yes, guys through Internet dating (if any of you are reading this, I love you all. Okay?! Hehe! ).
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Old 28.02.2011, 00:04
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So a guy may find it easier to go out with a more traditional ideal of a woman (lets say not as ''successful'' as him).

What about woman? As a woman, would you go out and live your life with someone less educated, less successful, low income? Is the traditional picture we grow up with will also matter for women?
I would, but I don't see things this black and white.
I'm an independent woman, I trust myself to make myself happy. I have my job and my income and I cannot imagine to be without it. I will never understand women who marry rich men just so they don't have to work, because by doing that they risk to become puppets of their husbands will.

However I have my things (call it picky if you like), I'm attracted to certain types of men and these types don't cross my way every day (but when they do my heart melts in 0,1 sec ).
But in any case, he MUST be intelligent. I can honestly not think of more turn off than dumb men.
Ambition/Passion for what he does, is another thing that is a turn on. Can be for his work (but not that much that he doesn't have time for me obviously) - but it can also be passion for a certain hobby that drives him and makes him more interesting (and uhm, just for the records, playing playstation does not qualify here. Creative things are more sort of my things regarding this topic).
Sense of humor! Obviously! Make me smile every day and I'll be a happy woman. Even if he doesn't know a lot of jokes, at least that he laughs when something is really funny.
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Old 28.02.2011, 00:08
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stop groaning! I am sensitive!
OK, so say something about poutine, Montreal smoked meat, or RUSH, then I can give positive feedback!

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Old 28.02.2011, 00:16
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OK, so say something about poutine, Montreal smoked meat, or RUSH, then I can give positive feedback!

Tom
@st2lemans - Are you talking about Rush the Canadian rock band? If so, I can remember being tortured night and day by my ex-husband playing their music all the time. Hehe!

The positive side was that there was a cross-over in our musical tastes that lives on till this day on both sides by the time we parted!
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Old 28.02.2011, 00:51
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Ambition/Passion for what he does, is another thing that is a turn on. Can be for his work (but not that much that he doesn't have time for me obviously) - but it can also be passion for a certain hobby that drives him and makes him more interesting (and uhm, just for the records, playing playstation does not qualify here. Creative things are more sort of my things regarding this topic).

You obviously have never played PS3.....

but whateva
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OK, so say something about poutine, Montreal smoked meat, or RUSH, then I can give positive feedback!

Tom
Do you need some Montreal Steak House spices? I have huge amount that I am ready to share!

Nothing better to put on steaks and burgers! Oh, and I have some St-Hubert sauce too.... (Poutine included)
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Old 28.02.2011, 09:48
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@st2lemans - Are you talking about Rush the Canadian rock band? If so, I can remember being tortured night and day by my ex-husband playing their music all the time. Hehe!
Yes.

I like them, saw them in Milano back in 2004.

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A sharp mind is a big turn-on. I suppose it would only be intimidating to a man if he did not have one of his own.
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Re: Why is it so hard to find a date in Zurich?! (hope my friends wont kill me)

The last 'date' I went on, I was told that I wasn't boring enough, and it was weird that we didn't talk about boring stuff, like the the weather-like normal couple do?!?
I think it was a polite way of saying that I'm not attractive.
In my experience there are not a lot here interested in wit, intrigue, intellect or a sharp mind---at least not without big bucks in the pocket and model-esque appearance.
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like the the weather-like normal couple do?!?

If this is what she actually said, you just saved yourself a LOT of drama...

whatever girl thinks "couple" on a date, cannot be mentally stable..

Run chemmie, run!
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Old 28.02.2011, 11:23
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If this is what she actually said, you just saved yourself a LOT of drama...

whatever girl thinks "couple" on a date, cannot be mentally stable..

Run chemmie, run!

Well it definitely wasn't the first date, but yeah I think I dodged a bullet there. Ended up being a last date.
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