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Old 03.01.2010, 11:32
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Why is it so hard to find a date in Zurich?! (hope my friends wont kill me)

I hope my friends wont kill me for posting this....

While I am happily married for quite a few years, I have not one but THREE female friends who have been single ever since I have met them.

The three are in their late 30's early 40's, and what they have in common is: they are expat, they are senior professionals in large multinationals (i.e., independent and good earners), and attractive. From where I see it, there is nothing wrong with any of the three. Oh! And they love sports and outdoors!

One of these friends tried actively the whole expat dating scene... unsuccessfully.
Another friend tried PARSHIP for a year now, unsuccessfully...
The other one is just way too picky and I doesnt look like she has tried beyond being set up from a limited circle of friends.

Any clues why is this? Any ideas how to get them out of their single-sein? None of them wants to stay single (otherwise I wouldnt be asking for help).

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Old 03.01.2010, 11:49
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I hope my friends wont kill me for posting this....

While I am happily married for quite a few years, I have not one but THREE female friends who have been single ever since I have met them.

The three are in their late 30's early 40's, and what they have in common is: they are expat, they are senior professionals in large multinationals (i.e., independent and good earners), and attractive. From where I see it, there is nothing wrong with any of the three. Oh! And they love sports and outdoors!

One of these friends tried actively the whole expat dating scene... unsuccessfully.
Another friend tried PARSHIP for a year now, unsuccessfully...
The other one is just way too picky and I doesnt look like she has tried beyond being set up from a limited circle of friends.

Any clues why is this? Any ideas how to get them out of their single-sein? None of them wants to stay single (otherwise I wouldnt be asking for help).
Yes about #3 ; she is to picky
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Old 03.01.2010, 11:51
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Re: Why is it so hard to find a date in Zurich?! (hope my friends wont kill me)

This is not just a Zurich thing or a Swiss thing or a European thing. It's global. And it's a mystery.

I have just as many male friends who are also looking for soul mates / partners / someone to spend time with. And they seem to go through relationships unsuccessfully as well (based in London before you suggest some sort of arrangement!)

The only theory I have is that one is set in one's ways from about 30-35 years old and it's hard not to have a 'check list' against which to set ones expectations. It's also hard for successful men to decide on a more experienced, more mature, more confident woman, when they are just as attractive to the younger ones who they can impress (in every sense) more easily.

I think (can't prove it though) that the situation is getting better these days as age becomes less important externally (although it may be an internal factor in terms of self-positioning...)
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This is not just a Zurich thing or a Swiss thing or a European thing. It's global. And it's a mystery.
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no its not a global thing its a swiss thing.
i think the men are shyy and keep to themself.

im a good looking young women and i get paid no attention by swiss men when i go out, i only get hit on by foregners. if i was at a bar no guy would approach you, but if i was back in my native country guys would be oodling for single women. (not tooting my own horn)

but it drives me insane, girls need attetion sometime!!
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but it drives me insane, girls need attetion sometime!!
You've just come to the right place. EF I mean
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Old 12.02.2010, 17:39
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Re: Why is it so hard to find a date in Zurich?! (hope my friends wont kill me)

Are there any guys out there who actually enjoy being chased ?
Not in a silly girly way but you know, in a nice, I want you and I'll get you way which will make your knees go weak and make you want to surrender and all that ...

Just wonderin' ... (anybody understands what I'm sayin'?)
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Old 12.02.2010, 17:50
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Re: Why is it so hard to find a date in Zurich?! (hope my friends wont kill me)

I don't see why not? Everyone likes the idea of being coveted... I think...

But it can lead to things being a little creepy too, if it's not so much in girly sense, as it is in a "I'll tie you down and take you with me and you can't say a thing to stop me" kind of way...
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Old 12.02.2010, 17:52
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Are there any guys out there who actually enjoy being chased ?
Not in a silly girly way but you know, in a nice, I want you and I'll get you way which will make your knees go weak and make you want to surrender and all that ...

Just wonderin' ... (anybody understands what I'm sayin'?)
i don't think men need much chasing.
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Old 12.02.2010, 18:51
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Are there any guys out there who actually enjoy being chased ?...
Yes there are. I used to be one of them.
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Old 13.02.2010, 06:58
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Are there any guys out there who actually enjoy being chased ?
Not in a silly girly way but you know, in a nice, I want you and I'll get you way which will make your knees go weak and make you want to surrender and all that ...

Just wonderin' ... (anybody understands what I'm sayin'?)
Yeah, definitely. At least I do, even if I'm not really attracted to the girl, it's nice to get a little attention sometimes i think, and flirting is most fun if there's no pressure.
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Old 13.05.2010, 15:05
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Are there any guys out there who actually enjoy being chased ?
Not in a silly girly way but you know, in a nice, I want you and I'll get you way which will make your knees go weak and make you want to surrender and all that ...
I'd like to be chased.....

please, someone.....

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Old 12.02.2010, 17:53
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girls need attetion sometime!!
Like Derv said, based on the audience we have here, you'll get plenty of that.
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Old 13.02.2010, 23:06
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no its not a global thing its a swiss thing.
i think the men are shyy and keep to themself.

im a good looking young women and i get paid no attention by swiss men when i go out, i only get hit on by foregners. if i was at a bar no guy would approach you, but if i was back in my native country guys would be oodling for single women. (not tooting my own horn)

but it drives me insane, girls need attetion sometime!!
Maybe you are going to wrong bars, it really depends whether you are in Zurich or outside of town....
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Old 14.05.2010, 01:35
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Re: Why is it so hard to find a date in Zurich?! (hope my friends wont kill me)

I agree with bruce, I am also seeking a in swiss but haven't found yet...every morning I woke up I rush to my work and on weekend celebrate my day off in some clubs. Till now, I haven't found any one even I am not bad at look. I don't know why
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I agree with bruce, I am also seeking a in swiss but haven't found yet...every morning I woke up I rush to my work and on weekend celebrate my day off in some clubs. Till now, I haven't found any one even I am not bad at look. I don't know why
Do you speak german? If not then generally a very high level of english is required (bordering on native) in order to have a real chance keeping interest. No german or bad german in combination with poor or not so good english will not allow communication to flow, sadly.
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Old 14.05.2010, 08:05
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Re: Why is it so hard to find a date in Zurich?! (hope my friends wont kill me)

Many Swiss speak other languages, so you could be lucky enough to find the swiss that are interested in your origin culture.
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Many Swiss speak other languages, so you could be lucky enough to find the swiss that are interested in your origin culture.
"lucky enough" is hardly the point when we are talking about best chances of success. I could be "lucky enough" to meet an amazingly stunning girl who speaks fluent English and who interested in all my hobbies tommorrow, but being the realist that I am, I know the chances are incredibly slim... as are the chances of the poster above finding a girl who's "really really interested in his origin" on an average night out in a club". Which probably explans why he's not had any luck yet. I'm not saying he won't meet that person, but when you weigh up the chances then you have to be realistic.

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I agree with bruce, I am also seeking a in swiss ...
Don't do it!
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Re: Why is it so hard to find a date in Zurich?! (hope my friends wont kill me)

I am glad that this thread is back again... very entertaining, espeically when you are bored at work

btw, seems too many guys in ZH? Hey, girls in Romand speak better English LOL and can be very interested in your origin
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I agree with bruce, I am also seeking a in swiss
Don't do it!

Rule 1 is there for your protection.

The gutters of Switzerland are chock-a-block with the discarded husks of people that contravened Rule 1.

Some random few survivived to tell the tale - ignore Rule 1 at your extreme peril.
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