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I strongly believe in it. 99 68.28%
It did not work out for me. 18 12.41%
I don't believe in marriages. 20 13.79%
we married to ease "visa work" and stay together 14 9.66%
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So how important is Marriage to you?

Marriage can be a beautiful thing when two people are committed to each other. It is an important institution to many religions/ Societies. I always believed in Marriages, I still do. (probably to do with my indian roots,as most of us still believe Marriages are made in heaven.)
It can be one of the most valuable things in life, though it's not neccesarily...neccesary.
I have lot of friends who aren’t married but in committed, loving and successful relationships. Having someone you can always trust and be happy with is very important in life..

So what's your take on that?
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So what's your take on that?
My take on that is, most men think marriage is about making up with one woman, but its actually breaking up with all the rest
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Old 08.07.2010, 17:42
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Re: So how important is Marriage to you?

Being an atheist, I'm under no religious pressure to get married, so I can be free and single without a care in the world if I so chose! However, call me soppy, but I still really want to get married one day to the perfect girl. Is it misguided romanticism? Have I been brainwashed by society's standards? Am I just young and ignorant? Who knows...
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Old 08.07.2010, 17:43
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Re: So how important is Marriage to you?

I think it's G.B Shaw who said: marriage is often compared with lottery, but it's wrong because in lottery you can win.
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Old 08.07.2010, 17:46
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I think it's G.B Shaw who said: marriage is often compared with lottery, but it's wrong because in lottery you can win.
good one. I read these sometime back..

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“A wedding is just like a funeral except that you get to smell your own flowers.”

"There's a way of transferring funds that is even faster than electronic banking. It's called marriage."
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Old 08.07.2010, 17:47
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My take on that is, most men think marriage is about making up with one woman, but its actually breaking up with all the rest
Gold.... I like it. But shit don't tell my wife I said so !!!
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Old 08.07.2010, 17:48
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good one. I read these sometime back..

My favorites

“A wedding is just like a funeral except that you get to smell your own flowers.”

"There's a way of transferring funds that is even faster than electronic banking. It's called marriage."
or marriage is like an accident or crime, you need witnesses
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Re: So how important is Marriage to you?

I'm not anti-marriage or anything, but if/when I do it one day it's going to be for the tax breaks, for my girlfriend to feel like a princess for a day, to throw a big party, and for her grand-parents to not have a mini heart attack whenever the thought of me pounding her crosses their minds.

I think that marriage as an institution has pretentions to a deeper meaning or romantic ideal that it doesn't deliver on in this day and age. Loving the person and having a solid, level-headed approach to the future of the relationship beforehand is very important, and many people forget that, or only realize it when it's too late. Marriage is just a thing people seem to think they're supposed to do, and then they're shocked when it's not working a year later. I wonder how many couples who've really thought about marriage and what it is, and chose not to do it, are still together and happy. It's impossible to measure, but if we could, I'd bet the percentage of successful long term relationships of this type is far greater on a timeline of 10-15 years.

Plus, the elephant in the room, how can anyone look at an institution with a failure rate like marriage has (50%) and still think it means anything. It's like jumping out of a plane knowing that half the parachutes don't open.

And you could say that that means that the other 50% succeed, but we all know that's not true. The 50% only accounts for the marriages that end in divorce. If we were able to account for all the loveless and disfunctional marriages, the arranged marriages between rich families (still happen more than you think), the "stay together for the kids" marriages, the "I need to get sh*tfaced before I go home to bear my spouse" marriages... how much higher do you think the actual failure rate of marriage would be?

As for those people who have been happily together for decades, I'm sure the end result would be the same whether marriage was involved or not. There is no significant difference between two people who make a lifelong commitment to each other and two people who make a lifelong commitment to each other with expensive rings.
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Re: So how important is Marriage to you?

I love a particular line by a comedian from quite a while back on same sex marriage:

"I'm all for it.... I think everybody should have the right to be as miserable as heterosexuals..."
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I voted that it didn't work for me and that I strongly believe in it (my second one).
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Old 08.07.2010, 17:56
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Re: So how important is Marriage to you?

An outdated institution that has no place in modern society.
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Plus, the elephant in the room, how can anyone look at an institution with a failure rate like marriage has (50%) and still think it means anything. It's like jumping out of a plane knowing that half the parachutes don't open.
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I think without marriage we'd have 90-100% of separation (divorce) rate. Every couple goes through tough periods and sometimes being married helps overcoming some problems (barrier to separation involves costs, lengthy processs etc....). If separation/divorce becomes easier, then at any lite storm the couple would decide to separate.
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Gold.... I like it. But shit don't tell my wife I said so !!!
Its good to be appreciated, I wont, if you wont tell my wife

Another: Marriage is like eating in a restaurant. You check the menus, and then have what you chose and pay for it later.

Also: Marriage is a 3 ring circus. Engagement ring, wedding ring and Sufferring.
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Re: So how important is Marriage to you?

By the way, Guys Just to clarify the fourth option :

It only means, I don't believe in marriages but had to marry for the ease of staying together! Sometimes Marriage is the only way to bring your partner to the country and stay together.
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People will forever fall into this
"Oh I love you so much and want to be with you forever" trap and therefore "marriage" will be there forever also.

Fate, destiny, tragedy of mankind. Don't worry, it all ends with death.
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I think without marriage we'd have 90-100% of separation (divorce) rate. Every couple goes through tough periods and sometimes being married helps overcoming some problems (barrier to separation involves costs, lengthy processs etc....). If separation/divorce becomes easier, then at any lite storm the couple would decide to separate.
One can say that but another perspective is, if separation is difficult, it will discourage people to get married. If its easy in and out then people can give it a try, not worrying much about consequences.
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One can say that but another perspective is, if separation is difficult, it will discourage people to get married. If its easy in and out then people can give it a try, not worrying much about consequences.
then marriage isn't a trap anymore
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then marriage isn't a trap anymore
Ofcourse not... its Love and Dedication big guy

Heck... You never say it to your wife that "Im with you coz Im in a trap with you!"
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I think without marriage we'd have 90-100% of separation (divorce) rate. Every couple goes through tough periods and sometimes being married helps overcoming some problems (barrier to separation involves costs, lengthy processs etc....). If separation/divorce becomes easier, then at any lite storm the couple would decide to separate.
I wouldn't say it's 90%, more like 70%. But I can live with that. Tough periods in relationships are a test of character, some make it through, some don't. I'd rather some relationships end prematurely than for most to continue way past their expiry date. We shouldn't imprison people behind bars of bureacracy to teach them what's good for them, I almost see it as giving some flaky fools an unfair advantage.
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So how important is Marriage to you?

It all depends on whether her husband is bigger and stronger than me
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