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Old 03.01.2011, 12:52
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Re: Can my housemate forbid a friend from visiting me?

This whole shtick sounds weird..So, one shacks up with semi landloard's ex in her place and it's supposed to fly with all envolved parties? No matter how imature the reaction is, if somebody I lived with asked me to avoid bringing somebody in, who used to be envolved with her, I would most understand the sentiments. If I still went against the roomates wishes, why would I expect her to be all happy about this. I mean, there is a solution but it's not too kosher to vent it all here, haha. I think it is not only the obviously still envolved roomate who needs to grow up, me thinks. Why are guys so much more straight forward..
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Old 03.01.2011, 13:16
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This whole shtick sounds weird..So, one shacks up with semi landloard's ex in her place and it's supposed to fly with all envolved parties? No matter how imature the reaction is, if somebody I lived with asked me to avoid bringing somebody in, who used to be envolved with her, I would most understand the sentiments. If I still went against the roomates wishes, why would I expect her to be all happy about this. I mean, there is a solution but it's not too kosher to vent it all here, haha. I think it is not only the obviously still envolved roomate who needs to grow up, me thinks. Why are guys so much more straight forward..
I agree with you. If I had a ex boyfriend who would now go out with my flatmate, I wouldn't be very happy to see him around.

You don't have to have a bad break up to have that feeling. You can have a great break up, stay together in the same appart for a while (like the girl in the story) and when finally they both move on, don't want to be close to each other again. And it is absolutely ok and normal and expected.

I find it pretty insensitive from this girl to rub the other girl's nose in their relationship by bringing the ex over.

We don't have the other side of the story, maybe she is doing it out of other options, results?
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Old 03.01.2011, 13:29
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Re: Can my housemate forbid a friend from visiting me?

Exactly. Who is to say 8yr is long enough? What if they had a really really unique and unreplicable bond...Which OP might not like. I mean this is not a reason for harrassment the original renter showed, it's lame no matter what, posters and all. But if I wanted to be left out of something and had to frequently face it, and rented the place as the original renter (as oposed to only sublet), and OP still keep bringing the partner in...sounds mean. There are discrete ways of doing things, like, hanging out in the other girl's place, for example? Moving out? So what the original renter/shagger introduced them, could have been inet, whoever. That does not allow for some kind of weird menace...A bit of honor or sumfin needed. If the same roles coresponded with former marriage and a new wench, it would be maybe clearer. I smell vindictive people, both sides.
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Because we know we can't read minds and so don't try to express ourselves through interpretive dance routines and coded messages.
This is why the most interesting women usually have mostly male friends and the least interesting (i.e. immature/crazy) have none.
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Old 03.01.2011, 14:12
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Because we know we can't read minds and so don't try to express ourselves through interpretive dance routines and coded messages.
Exactly. It all sounds like one coded message.
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Old 05.01.2011, 12:40
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Re: Can my housemate forbid a friend from visiting me?

Just to update you all on this....

I still went ahead with the Christmas dinner as planned. However the housemate disappeared back to her parents and my friend couldn't make it due to a death in the family.

So sorry to disappoint you as I had hoped to tell you there was lots of action

I did however get a nice Christmas present from my housemate. A registered letter with notice to quit the property by the end of March
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Old 05.01.2011, 13:02
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Just to update you all on this....

I still went ahead with the Christmas dinner as planned. However the housemate disappeared back to her parents and my friend couldn't make it due to a death in the family.

So sorry to disappoint you as I had hoped to tell you there was lots of action

I did however get a nice Christmas present from my housemate. A registered letter with notice to quit the property by the end of March
I am guessing that you knew that will happen?
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Old 05.01.2011, 13:03
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I am guessing that you knew that will happen?
I sure did and to be honest it is the kick up the backside that I needed
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I sure did and to be honest it is the kick up the backside that I needed
Good luck with the move, it will be much better for all of you to start fresh instead to bath in the same old juice!
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Old 05.01.2011, 13:36
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Good luck with the move, it will be much better for all of you to start fresh instead to bath in the same old juice!
Considering the circumstances and relationships under discussion, that is an inspired turn of phrase
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Old 05.01.2011, 13:38
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Considering the circumstances ...........

I was going to ask / comment but thought it too early to break one of my 2011 resolutions.
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Exactly. Who is to say 8yr is long enough? What if they had a really really unique and unreplicable bond...Which OP might not like. I mean this is not a reason for harrassment the original renter showed, it's lame no matter what, posters and all. But if I wanted to be left out of something and had to frequently face it, and rented the place as the original renter (as oposed to only sublet), and OP still keep bringing the partner in...sounds mean. There are discrete ways of doing things, like, hanging out in the other girl's place, for example? Moving out? So what the original renter/shagger introduced them, could have been inet, whoever. That does not allow for some kind of weird menace...A bit of honor or sumfin needed. If the same roles coresponded with former marriage and a new wench, it would be maybe clearer. I smell vindictive people, both sides.
Well, according to Liverbird, there is no new intimate relationship, outside the Landlady's mind, that is.

But I guess that in these cases people can get somewhat fact resistant...
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Fact resistant. I will be adding that to my regular vocabulary. Brilliant!
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So... given that you have been noticed already, can we assume you will now continuously invite your friend over for the coming three months? Slumber party?
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Well, according to Liverbird, there is no new intimate relationship, outside the Landlady's mind, that is.

But I guess that in these cases people can get somewhat fact resistant...
You are absolutely correct. Not only is she fact resistant but appears to want to make other peoples lives as miserable as she is making her own.

She has failed
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I'm glad to see that you got through this with as few scars as possible.

I think your 'departure notice' is actually a "breath of fresh air" and will bring you well into the new year.

Thanks also for a VERY entertaining thread..... and the introduction of my new favourite phrase: "Fact resistant" (love it..... that and 'coffin dodgers' for old people... God I love the EF sometimes)

Good luck
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When I wrote the same old juice, it passed in my mind that someone, maybe, would say something. But Nah! I thought that would be just playing too much with the words... They won't do that!

Yes, again, EF didn't disapointed me!

Thanks for the good laugh, I really needed it today!
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5 pages!!

PS - before you rented the flat, did your flatmate know of the reputation of scousers ?
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She did absolutely nothing wrong apart from me leaving 2 dirty cups in the sink for 5 or 10 minutes.
You call this nothing bad, in Switzerland? How long have you been here?
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5 pages!!

PS - before you rented the flat, did your flatmate know of the reputation of scousers ?
What reputation's that then?
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