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? Really? You are going to go there?

Abuse is never acceptable, but defending yourself from baseless accusations is.
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Except we're not talking about gouging peoples' eyes out.

It's an internet forum where people sometimes disagree.
It's a metaphor. Sometimes people disagree too personally and vociferously. The agression can spiral out of control on here, I've had the displeasure of noticing.

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? Really? You are going to go there?

Abuse is never acceptable, but defending yourself from baseless accusations is.
Obviously Mr Dog felt the abuse was unacceptable, so I don't think it is baseless...certainly not in his/her eyes.
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Old 30.06.2020, 13:37
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Another newbie who got abused to the point of leaving. Sad really, but in no way unexpected.
How come they still have their name up but the others who left are listed as ‘guest’?
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Old 30.06.2020, 13:50
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Re: Creepy neighbour upstairs... how to de-escalate with Crazy Karen?

Web browser cache? Maybe you need to: reopen the web browser, restart the computer or even click on the clear cache button on your web browser.
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Old 30.06.2020, 13:54
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It's a metaphor.
Really? I had no idea.

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I The aggression can spiral out of control on here, I've had the displeasure of noticing.
Perhaps you ought to try not to be so confrontational then then?

such as in:

"What's good for the goose is good for the gander."

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How come they still have their name up but the others who left are listed as ‘guest’?
One's a normal delete where you are removed from the forum and cannot join. This is that sort.

The other one's a power-delete which takes us all into another dimension -one in which you appear to have never existed.
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Old 30.06.2020, 14:03
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Re: Creepy neighbour upstairs... how to de-escalate with Crazy Karen?

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It's a metaphor. Sometimes people disagree too personally and vociferously. The agression can spiral out of control on here, I've had the displeasure of noticing.

Obviously Mr Dog felt the abuse was unacceptable, so I don't think it is baseless...certainly not in his/her eyes.
Mr Dog was very guilty of this himself, I found his harsh accusations against me yesterday for doing something as silly as grilling totally dumbfounding and in all honesty, a bit hurtful.

Sounds like he is going through a hard time, perhaps recently lost the elderly family member he spoke of. Mr Dog, I'm sorry for your pain. If you ever want to talk privately, I am here.
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Old 30.06.2020, 14:09
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Sounds like he is going through a hard time, perhaps recently lost the elderly family member he spoke of. Mr Dog, I'm sorry for your pain. If you ever want to talk privately, I am here.
Unfortunately once you've gone, you can't come back - unless you come back with a new account under a new username - isn't that right HartMoss?
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Perhaps you ought to try not to be so confrontational then then?

such as in:

"What's good for the goose is good for the gander."
Very weird, writing a quote that I never made.

Please show me being confrontational (apart from to racist comments, but I'm sure we can all agree racism in all its forms needs to be confronted). I certainly try to educate on certain issues, perhaps you've confused the two.

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Mr Dog was very guilty of this himself, I found his harsh accusations against me yesterday for doing something as silly as grilling totally dumbfounding and in all honesty, a bit hurtful.
This is irrelevant. If you believe he was rude, report him, don't be rude back or condone other doing this.
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Old 30.06.2020, 14:29
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Mr Dog was very guilty of this himself.
HERself.

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Old 30.06.2020, 14:32
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What happened to Mr. Dog on this thread?
She left.

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She left.

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Ah I see, I took her user name too literally then, thought she was a “Mr”

Mr Dog, I lost my grandmother to dementia and my beloved mother very early due to brain cancer, which had the same effect. I am here if you need anything.

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Ah I see, I took her user name too literally then.

Mr Dog, I lost my grandmother to dementia and my beloved mother very early due to brain cancer, which had the same effect. I am here if you need anything.
I'm sorry to hear of your travails, but as mentioned before, she cannot contact you as she has been chased off and apparently cannot return.

This is why we need to treat people better when they are here, as once they are gone, you can't make amends.
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Re: Creepy neighbour upstairs... how to de-escalate with Crazy Karen?

I agree that we should be far kinder on this forum. People do look at the forum even if they are logged off and no longer on it, hoping she can see this.

I am being slightly pedantic as I was never unkind to her, just politely defensive when she confronted me out of the blue for things. My guess is she was just projecting...OK I'll shut up now.
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Old 30.06.2020, 15:05
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How come they still have their name up but the others who left are listed as ‘guest’?
Maybe there is a choice now about being half forgotten.
There were complaints about everybody called guest after leaving, which is a pity as well as makes threads difficult to read (too many very vocal guests which gives impression the guest changes their mind every ten minutes).

After all, it's just a handle, not the real thing. So this - although I doubt the software is capable of this - would be a good solution.
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Old 30.06.2020, 15:37
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Re: Creepy neighbour upstairs... how to de-escalate with Crazy Karen?

I've wondered before how many people give thanks or groans according to who the person is that had posted it, rather than according to the post itself. I know there are a few people here who clearly do not like me, but if they posted something that I agree with or like, I still would not hesitate to "thank" their posts.

Anyways... I've come across articles before that talk about how online forums do tend to easily make people aggressive. I guess it's due to the sense of anonymity as well as the fact that the internet often increases people's cortisol levels (stress hormone) and also just the fact that it's a place where people assert their opinions, which really is just 'breeding ground' for arguments.

It's all too easy to get wrapped up in arguing with strangers on the Internet, and then at some point you just have to ask yourself if all the negative energy and wasted time is really worth it (most people refuse to change their minds, anyways). I hope Mr Dog is feeling more at peace today.
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Re: Creepy neighbour upstairs... how to de-escalate with Crazy Karen?

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Please show me being confrontational (apart from to racist comments, but I'm sure we can all agree racism in all its forms needs to be confronted). I certainly try to educate on certain issues, perhaps you've confused the two.
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Oh, but you see, some people hate being confronted. Would rather go out of their way with aggression and bullying than admitting they wrote something stupid (at best).

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This is irrelevant. If you believe he was rude, report him, don't be rude back or condone other doing this.
In an ideal world maybe. Also, in an ideal world people would apologise when they made a mistake...

Anyways, too many people have left this forum for pretty much similar reasons. I enjoyed reading Mr. Dog's comments. I had no idea it's a "she", though it kind of makes sense now.

@OP,

Report your neighbour's behaviour to the landlord/agency. They'll know what to do. Do not return the aggression, it's the worst thing you can do.
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Old 30.06.2020, 16:50
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I've wondered before how many people give thanks or groans according to who the person is that had posted it,.
There are definitely people who do this on the forum. If anyone posts anything to counter a post I have made, they always thank that person, whatever they have written.

Pretty childish but they know who they are and if that's how they get their kicks then good luck to them.
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There are definitely people who do this on the forum. If anyone posts anything to counter a post I have made, they always thank that person, whatever they have written.
Think I'm still waiting for that dubious pleasure

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Oh, but you see, some people hate being confronted. Would rather go out of their way with aggression and bullying than admitting they wrote something stupid (at best).
Oh well, what can you do except keep trying to explain in simpler and simpler terms until it is understood?
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There are definitely people who do this on the forum. If anyone posts anything to counter a post I have made, they always thank that person, whatever they have written.

Pretty childish but they know who they are and if that's how they get their kicks then good luck to them.

Yep, noticed this one too.

They'd probably prefer to groan every post you make though, but they choose a more passive-aggressive way.
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She left.

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