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Hello my name is Stephanie I am 26 years old and recently moved to Switzerland from Los Angeles in November 2016. As you know coming from the United States of America let alone Los Angeles is a really big change. I always came to Switzerland on holidays to visit my husband and try to see if I could see myself building a life here. When I was out here vacation I definitely saw that it's a beautiful country it's safe it's a great place to raise a family and everything about it was great. Now that I am actually out here I have been finding it very difficult to slow down my pace of life especially beans as how I came out of the city. I've also been finding it very difficult to make new friends out here I live in Villmergen it is a small village that contains around 8,000 people and I'm currently working in a restaurant in the kitchen. Which turned out to be a complete disaster for me. The first two months working there were great and then after that my boss totally changed and was disrespectful and always aggressive insulting me and belittling me constantly. I realize that because of this job I was starting to fall into a depression and also realized that I was starting to really dislike it here in Switzerland. I spent most of my hours and time working there so I wasn't able to see the beauty of Switzerland anymore . Because of that I decided to turn in my resignation letter and this is now my last week of working there I'm super excited about that but now I know my next challenge awaits me and that is finding a new job . I find it to be a little bit discouraging because I don't have a degree in anything and I am now taking German School. My German has come a long way but it is not to where I would like it to be . As i mentioned i have been finding it hard to socialize out here. I'm looking for ideas or maybe even people who are open to meeting somebody new to hang out with and enjoy life. It is been really difficult for me to adjust to the new lifestyle out here so I am going to try this out and see how it works if anybody knows of any jobs that are available please let me know I will be looking on the job forum as well and I hope to hear from ya'll soon. Have a great day today try and stay dry with the weather
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Hi Stephanie, welcome to EF.
If you put a few paragraphs into your next posts, it would help reading. It looks a bit as if you didn't breath while writing

Good luck job hunting.
Aren't your husbands friends introducing you to your new enviroment?
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Welcome to the forum Stephanie, and sorry to hear you've had such an bad start to your life here. Hopefully it will get better soon.
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Welcome to Switzerland and the EF, and good luck in your job search.

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Yeah, don't know how big Pensier is, but my commune (gemeinde) is only 1,900 spread over separate 4 villages.
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You are 26 and have no education which could be of help (as I understand it), in your situation I would have a talk with my partner about what would be wise to do, keep on struggling and taking on jobs on the lower end of the market which might become harder when aging, or invest time and money into an education which would benefit the both of you for a hopefully long life to come, and university level is absolutely not required for a lot of nice jobs.
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Apparently we got 287 .... of which I only know 20.

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Hello my name is Stephanie I am 26 years old and recently moved to Switzerland from Los Angeles in November 2016. As you know coming from the United States of America let alone Los Angeles is a really big change. I always came to Switzerland on holidays to visit my husband and try to see if I could see myself building a life here. When I was out here vacation I definitely saw that it's a beautiful country it's safe it's a great place to raise a family and everything about it was great. Now that I am actually out here I have been finding it very difficult to slow down my pace of life especially beans as how I came out of the city. I've also been finding it very difficult to make new friends out here I live in Villmergen it is a small village that contains around 8,000 people and I'm currently working in a restaurant in the kitchen. Which turned out to be a complete disaster for me. The first two months working there were great and then after that my boss totally changed and was disrespectful and always aggressive insulting me and belittling me constantly. I realize that because of this job I was starting to fall into a depression and also realized that I was starting to really dislike it here in Switzerland. I spent most of my hours and time working there so I wasn't able to see the beauty of Switzerland anymore . Because of that I decided to turn in my resignation letter and this is now my last week of working there I'm super excited about that but now I know my next challenge awaits me and that is finding a new job . I find it to be a little bit discouraging because I don't have a degree in anything and I am now taking German School. My German has come a long way but it is not to where I would like it to be . As i mentioned i have been finding it hard to socialize out here. I'm looking for ideas or maybe even people who are open to meeting somebody new to hang out with and enjoy life. It is been really difficult for me to adjust to the new lifestyle out here so I am going to try this out and see how it works if anybody knows of any jobs that are available please let me know I will be looking on the job forum as well and I hope to hear from ya'll soon. Have a great day today try and stay dry with the weather
Welcome to the forum. Sorry to hear you are having difficulty adjusting but realistically speaking you moved to Villmergen in Kanton Aargau, a small village in deepest darkest farmer land, and I would say this is one of the worst places that anyone could ever expect to move if they come from a place like LA. Hell, even coming from somewhere much smaller like Zürich it would still be depressing. It is such a dramatic reduction and simplification of everything else you will have enjoyed in life in LA that I have to question what quality (enjoyment) of life you will have there in the long-term.

Can you (for the sake of your marriage and overall happiness) try to persuade your husband to move to a regional town or city? Otherwise you are not going to meet many like-minded people, you will get bored of seeing the local area soon enough, and won't have as much chance for getting a satisfying job. Basically, access to anything fun will be extremely limited. Good luck with it.

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Welcome to the forum. Sorry to hear you are having difficulty adjusting but realistically speaking you moved to Villmergen in Kanton Aargau, a small village in deepest darkest farmer land, and I would say this is one of the worst places that anyone could ever expect to move if they come from a place like LA. Hell, even coming from somewhere much smaller like Zürich it would still be depressing. It is such a dramatic reduction and simplification of everything else you will have enjoyed in life in LA that I have to question what quality (enjoyment) of life you will have there in the long-term.

Can you (for the sake of your marriage and overall happiness) try to persuade your husband to move to a regional town or city? Otherwise you are not going to meet many like-minded people, you will get bored of seeing the local area soon enough, and won't have as much chance for getting a satisfying job. Basically, access to anything fun will be extremely limited.

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You are such a Townie, Richdog!
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If I am a townie (which I am a bit, heh), then the OP coming from LA is a Towniezilla.

Seriously though, moving from LA to some small backwater village in Aargau, which is also known for being one of the most culturally inflexible and xenophobic kantons in Switzerland? And also as a dependant without real financial freedom? It's about as extreme as it gets, the very thought makes me shudder, and for the OP I predict the culture shock will be too great to be tolerable.
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Yeah, don't know how big Pensier is, but my commune (gemeinde) is only 1,900 spread over separate 4 villages.
Pensier itself is about 250, or less. But the commune population is several 1000 since the merger at the beginning of the year.
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Hello my name is Stephanie ... Have a great day today try and stay dry with the weather
First off, for a bit of a social life, there's a pub in Lenzburg in which you are likely to meet other Anglo-Saxon types. You are also less than an hour away from Zurich, which is positively teeming with Americans and Brits and suchlike.

But, as someone who has willingly moved away from the Big City for the pleasures of country living, my advice is to embrace the green! There's no point yearning for the bright lights when all around you is cowshit and grass, so try to see the positives in where you are: you're walking distance from a little lake and a castle, there's a bonsai fanciers' club, and... OK, I take your point.

But still... it could be worse.

Probably.

Good luck!
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Re: Putting myself out there

it's funny you say that because I totally didn't realize that and I feel like I wasn't breathing when I wrote it haha just kidding
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I second the McArthurs, it's a good generic Irish pub and no longer has the most dangerous loo stairs in the country.

Still pretty much BFN tho. I'd suggest city staycations if you can afford them, and getting a place closer to the city otherwise.

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