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Old 06.05.2007, 14:20
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Hi everyone, just a quick hi from New Zealand.

I fell in love with Switzerland when i was visiting a couple years ago, now i'm in love with one too. My fiance is a Swiss and we've been engaged for just over a year now..=) We are planning for me to move to Switzerland eventually, but right now we're stuck in this horrible long distance relationship which is taking a tole on both of us. Especially me. Well i know it's hard for him too, but he's just trying to be all manly and macho about it

And..long distance relationships aren't pretty for those who have experienced it before or are experiencing it right now like me.
We've been apart for half a year now... it is extremely hard.

So i'm thrilled to have found this forum, where i could talk about Switzerland ... in ENGLISH!! which is a double yay!
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Old 06.05.2007, 14:24
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Re: a hello from the bottom of the world =)

Hi Welcome aboard.

I know how you feel, I married a Swiss 4 years ago and we often have to be apart for extended periods of time. Eventually it becomes easier.

It can make life difficult but it also makes life a whole lot more exciting having the ability to travel continents and experience other cultures long term.

Bye for now.
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Old 06.05.2007, 14:43
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Re: a hello from the bottom of the world =)

Welcome to the forum. I fell in love with a Swiss woman about 5 years ago (at least a wedding and a kid ago). I live here now in one of the most 'rural' areas in the country (easy to read as backward, xenophobic and unwelcoming). But, all is well, and there is nothing like being with your other half.

If you and your honey are at that place...make the leap. I've done long distance and have NEVER enjoyed it...unless I didn't give a crap. Over here it's not so bad (in fact, the 'Swissness' can grow on you in more ways than one), and if you're 'macho' man is there to support you through the culture shock, all the better.

Best of luck to you.

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Old 06.05.2007, 15:16
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Re: a hello from the bottom of the world =)

Literally you are 11,400 miles from Switzerland.


Why don't you opt to come here and do your studies in EFPL or ETH, where they do have international Bachelor's / Master's programs in English ?
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Old 06.05.2007, 15:19
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Re: a hello from the bottom of the world =)

hi kiwigirl

I never had to endure such long periods away from my wife, but we do spend 1-3 months away from each other every year or two, as it is simply not affordable for both of us to travel to europe each time she needs to see her family. It is also hard in that if I want to go over with her I generally have to forego my job and find a new one on return, if I decide to stay for a number of months, which is what we like to do to make the best of it and spend time with her family.

The visa process in Australia was long and painful and put a lot of stress on the relationship but once it is over it is a great feeling to have it under your belt.

Having said that the visa process in Switzerland is wonderful compared to Australia. The treat their citizens with respect when they choose to marry another person from another nation and place trust on the citizen to make the right choice. In Australia you are treated as a potential criminal trying to rort the system until you prove your marriage is genuine.

I cannot really be of great help in your current situation, other than to recommend finishing your studies first before making the move. It is important to have as much education and experience under your belt prior to hitting switzerland. It would also be of great value to undertake as much language courses as you can whilst you are waiting. Gives you an excuse to call him to practice your german/french/italian.

Love is a funny thing it can make you want to be with someone from the rest of your life on the other side of the world, but as I said the hard knocks are worth it as you get to experience so much more when marrying someone from another country. Life was not meant to be easy, and the hard road is the more fulfilling one to follow in my opinion.
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Old 06.05.2007, 15:22
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Re: a hello from the bottom of the world =)

One of the major drawbacks however is that someone has to make the ultimate sacrifice of not being with their friends and family. As family gets older it does get harder to manage, especially when you have children and have to lug them across the globe.

Having said that I still have no regrets and my wife and I manage it all the best way we can as it happens.
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Old 06.05.2007, 16:25
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If you get your batchelor under your belt then you can possibly do post graduate studies in Switzerland, these are often taught in english depending on what your field of study is.

You could also bridge the distance gap by travelling at every possible opportunity, ie semester breaks.
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Re: a hello from the bottom of the world =)

Hi Kiwi, sorry you`re feeling so down about your situation, only advice I want to give is "if you love each other it dosen`t really matter where in the world you live", as long as you are together!!I know the feeling you are expressing of not being able to talk in your mother tongue can`t help you there except to say on this forum or other similar forums you have the chance to meet up with english speaking people and widen your circle of aquaintainces, all the best, regards kap.
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