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Bit like me maybe? Having a foreign accent? Was it you in the car?
Just don't see what his being a foreigner, as you said, has anything to do with the issue.
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Sorry, you won't get any pass from me for your ignorance.

You are a coward.


(i've been on the receveing and helping end of such situations in the past, so think i'm able to judge.)
Without involving yourself physically in, as a witness, it is your civil responsability to help someone in danger. The best thing to do is to call the police immediatemente!
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Old 08.02.2011, 11:15
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I'd at least name you in the "angel of the forum" thread
And I would have sent you a thank you from heaven provided they have internet connection up there. If not then I would have made arrangments to bring you up there too
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Old 08.02.2011, 11:17
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Why is it a tough topic? So if it's done in private and not harsh violence it's ok? What is harsh violence then?
tough topic: complex situation with a lot of background things & stories of the couple we as external don't know.

harsh violence: physical violence involved. If it's only shouting at each other I won't interfere.
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Maybe calling the police would have been best (although probably would not have accomplished much), but he already explained that he did not think of this at the time. It doesn't/wouldn't require courage to call the police, so why call him a coward?
I don't know, maybe the woman is dead by now. Who knows?

Calling the police even after seeing it is still better than not calling the poilce at all! At the very least, the guy needs a police record.
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Without involving yourself physically in, as a witness, it is your civil responsability to help someone in danger. The best thing to do is to call the police immediatemente!
Thank you, at least some common sense on this forum.
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Just don't his being what you said was a foreigner has anything to do with the issue.
I mentioned that because it was a cross culture relationships from what I could see. Being in a cross culture relationship myself I know how different cultures look at wife beating and matters of family honour. So please drop it.
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I mentioned that because it was a cross culture relationships from what I could see. Being in a cross culture relationship myself I know how different cultures look at wife beating and matters of family honour. So please drop it.
Yes we know you have a special relationship

As long as he did'nt hit her its ok, for all you know they might have had a steamy make up love making session afterwards. Some women get upset when you dont shout at them when they expect you to.
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Thank you, at least some common sense on this forum.
Hope you don't mind if I see through your back-tracking attempt. Your entire first post was worded in such a way that you were calling him a coward for not intervening in the flght. Now you're saying it was about not calling the police.
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Old 08.02.2011, 11:25
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I mentioned that because it was a cross culture relationships from what I could see. Being in a cross culture relationship myself I know how different cultures look at wife beating and matters of family honour. So please drop it.
Family honor and wife beating? What cultures would tie in family honor to wife beating? This may shed some light on why you reacted the way you did
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Old 08.02.2011, 11:26
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Thank you, at least some common sense on this forum.

I believe it's a law here that you should act - the minimum would be phoning the police.

Ignorance of the law is not a excuse (as seems to be mentioned on every other thread...)

But, on the other hand - we weren't there and hindsight is a wonderful thing and the OP was doing what 95% of people would so in such a situation.
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Yes we know you have a special relationship

As long as he did'nt hit her its ok, for all you know they might have had a steamy make up love making session afterwards. Some women get upset when you dont shout at them when they expect you to.
You remind me of a canadian dude that i used to know...
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I mentioned that because it was a cross culture relationships from what I could see. Being in a cross culture relationship myself I know how different cultures look at wife beating and matters of family honour. So please drop it.
I am in a cross cultural relationship as well. But you know what? While being open and tolerant towards other cultures is important, it is equally important that tolerance needs to have limits. Beating your wife on the street is something not to be tolerated here, no matter where the guy is from. End of story.
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Hope you don't mind if I see through your back-tracking attempt. Your entire first post was worded in such a way that you were calling him a coward for not intervening in the flght. Now you're pretending it was about not calling the police.


Sorry, nope.
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Re: Woman getting manhandled by her husband?

I dont see how domestic violence is anything a case by case situation?

man beats wife on street = violence = call the police. In fact, anyone beats anyone up on street = call the police.

No one is asking you to be a martyr by intervening to break up the fight. Especially not if the abuser is 180 pounds and looking like he could knock all of your teeth out. Even I will be really scared, call the police and cross my fingers that they arrive in a flash before someone gets really hurt.

WhySoSerious?, dont feel bad. Sometimes when these situations happen, most of us are caught unawares, our brains freeze and we are filled with the couldve, wouldve, shouldves after. Hopefully someone else did call the police.
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I think you acted reasonably. Calling the police is the best thing you can do in such situation, especially if you deal with some stranger whom you don't know and guts feeling tells you no to get involved. You dont know circumstances. Either he could be good hardworking dude who has had bad day because his wife forgot the keys, made him waiting very long or faked an orgasm. He might as well be a pimp or criminal trafficking drugs or ex convict. If the latter is true, you don't wanna mess around and wind up dead. Leave playing marvel comics heroes to people who know how to deal with such situations, Mr T or X-men come to mind

I handled myself few (two) minor situations like this before back in time but it was rather youthful folly and desire to impress some folks. The setup was also different; in daylight and civilized place. I wouldn't pull the same heroic act on the Bronx.

In reality you as a family man not only put yourself in a risk but also your beloved ones, if anything happened to you. Let common sense prevail and let domestic violence be solved by the police or somebody capable of dealing with such. It's good you didn't get involved and kept unblemished police record.
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Whysoserious, as you are new here () you have to understand that on EF mentioning that someone looked like a foreigner or that cultural differences can amount to anything more than who gives better group hugs is viewed as Racist Intolerance, and the self appointed Intolerance Deputies will plague you with posts of intolerance about your intolerance forever after.
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Hopefully someone else did call the police.
Yes hopefully someone did it!
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I dont see how domestic violence is anything a case by case situation?

man beats wife on street = violence = call the police. In fact, anyone beats anyone up on street = call the police.

No one is asking you to be a martyr by intervening to break up the fight. Especially not if the abuser is 180 pounds and looking like he could knock all of your teeth out. Even I will be really scared, call the police and cross my fingers that they arrive in a flash before someone gets really hurt.

WhySoSerious?, dont feel bad. Sometimes when these situations happen, most of us are caught unawares, our brains freeze and we are filled with the couldve, wouldve, shouldves after. Hopefully someone else did call the police.
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I think you acted reasonably. Calling the police is the best thing you can do in such situation, especially if you deal with some stranger whom you don't know and guts feeling tells you no to get involved. You dont know circumstances. Either he could be good hardworking dude who has had bad day because his wife forgot the keys, made him waiting very long or faked an orgasm. He might as well be a pimp or criminal trafficking drugs or ex convict. If latter is true, you don't wanna mess around and wind up dead. Leave playing marvel comics heroes to people who know how to deal with such situation Mr T or X-men.

I handled few situation like this myself back in time but it was just youthful folly and desire to impress some folks. The setup was also in daylight and civilized place. I wouldn't pull same heroic act on Bronx.

In reality you as a family man not only put yourself in a risk but also your beloved ones. Let common sense prevail and let domestic violence be solved by the police or somebody capable of dealing with such. It's good you didn't get involved and kept unblemished police record.
So the husband having "a bad day" would justify it. Why does domestic violence always seem to get placed in a "special category"
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It made and still makes me sad though.
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Hopefully someone else did call the police.
Why don't you call the police now, if you can remember the address where the woman lived?

I'm sure you'll feel better after that
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