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Old 25.07.2011, 14:34
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Re: About to propose to a Swiss

Hi Mado,

If I were you I would wait to propose until after your first (successful) visit to her family. Let them get to know you as the boyfriend first... it'll be less stressful for everyone that way. Try to make a good impression but don't go over the top with flashy gestures.

It's also good for you to see where she 'fits' into her own family and culture, what her parents - your potential in-laws! - are like and how they relate to each other.

Remember you are marrying into a whole family, especially if you plan to live in Switzerland after the wedding. Swiss families are very very integrated - parents usually expect to remain very involved in their adult children's lives and marriages. If her parents are impossible to get along with (for whatever reason) it's best to find that out now rather than later.

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Re: About to propose to a Swiss

Thanks alot guys, you have gave me some useful information.

Hope things will work, we will see.
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Old 25.07.2011, 23:20
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Re: About to propose to a Swiss

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I'm not sure what you mean exactly by "the Swiss lovers culture"... but perhaps I should warn you that it's illegal to have an orgasm on a Sunday here.
Only if you're a woman.

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P.S. Women have orgasms here?
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Only if you're a woman.

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Re: About to propose to a Swiss

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Swiss families are very very integrated - parents usually expect to remain very involved in their adult children's lives and marriages.
Speak for yourself, I can't wait for mine to leave the nest permanently (they keep leaving then returning until now! )

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Yes, only with real men
And sometimes, with real women!

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Old 25.07.2011, 23:37
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And sometimes, with real women!

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or with real dogs
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Re: About to propose to a Swiss

The proposal must be scheduled at least 4 weeks in advance, in writing and in triplicate.
You must then take part in traditional wrestling http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Schwingen to vanquish all other potential suitors.
This all on the basis you can neck a case of Feldschlossen in under half an hour after consuming at least 6 bratwurst.

Or...
Ask her, spend too much money on wedding, live happily ever after. I think there is no difference in the Swiss from everyone else. We all need someone to hug at night. Good luck.
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Re: About to propose to a Swiss

My friends (swiss girl and english man) recently got engaged.

She told him he should propose. And it should be a suprise. Although she did tell him when and where to propose lol.

Dont think theres any need to ask the parents here.

Private moment. They can share the celebration after.

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but then you have to watch out for a possible allergic reaction
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Old 26.07.2011, 10:00
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Only if you're a woman.

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You're obviously doing something wrong.
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Re: About to propose to a Swiss

How do you know such intimate details of this family? Or do you just listen to gossip?

Good point about behaviour though. Mado, don't make the mistake of thinking your possible future wife will do all the "changing". You have to meet her half way..... at least. Otherwise it won't work.

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Why do you want to marry a Swiss lady? They are well known to be feisty and independent. They will not make a good Muslim man very happy! You will have enormous problems changing your way of thinking & behaving, or she will leave you!

There is an Egyptian man in Berne who ten years ago married a beautiful rich lady from Russia. With her money he has bought his family in Egypt a house for them to live in. He has convinced her to follow Islamist principles, and now she stays at home and has had 3 children with him. They have now decided that the Bernese social services are more generous to an unskilled family than a Swiss employer, and stay at home watching TV. However most evenings he can be seen in the best bars trying to convince pretty young Swiss ladies of the benefits of Islamism.

Let us hope you can avoid this path of western decadence!
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Old 26.07.2011, 10:34
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Re: About to propose to a Swiss

Can i ask why you married your wife, why you came here, why this why that, dont you think it is a very personal decision

P.S : Every women wants to change his man but then some use the common sense called ignoring

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Why do you want to marry a Swiss lady? They are well known to be feisty and independent. They will not make a good Muslim man very happy! You will have enormous problems changing your way of thinking & behaving, or she will leave you!

There is an Egyptian man ... . there are many egyptian mans how many do you know ?
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Re: About to propose to a Swiss

Give her dad a Rolex watch and she is yours
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Old 26.07.2011, 10:46
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Yes, Please no costumes and don't ask the father. It's a moment between you and her and the whole EF forum , not her parents decision, and not Fasnacht.
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Why do you want to marry a Swiss lady? They are well known to be feisty and independent. They will not make a good Muslim man very happy! You will have enormous problems changing your way of thinking & behaving, or she will leave you!

There is an Egyptian man in Berne who ten years ago married a beautiful rich lady from Russia. With her money he has bought his family in Egypt a house for them to live in. He has convinced her to follow Islamist principles, and now she stays at home and has had 3 children with him. They have now decided that the Bernese social services are more generous to an unskilled family than a Swiss employer, and stay at home watching TV. However most evenings he can be seen in the best bars trying to convince pretty young Swiss ladies of the benefits of Islamism.

Let us hope you can avoid this path of western decadence!
It seems like he's got it all figured out.
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Ask her dad, propose her if he accepts.
? It's really untypical to ask the parents here. Women (of legal age) are considered very much independent here.

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So we're going down the gossip road then.

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A friend of mine knows this family very well.....!
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Of course you're not.

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.....And I am not suggesting ALL Egyptian men behave like this person. I am warning against taking this life style.
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Old 26.07.2011, 10:59
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I am NOT going to argue with you, I have my sources and trust them.
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