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Of course you're not.
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I am NOT going to argue with you, I have my sources and trust them.
Kids please, simmer down.
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Old 26.07.2011, 11:13
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Definitely go with the costume. And good luck!!!
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Why do you want to marry a Swiss lady? They are well known to be feisty and independent. They will not make a good Muslim man very happy! You will have enormous problems changing your way of thinking & behaving, or she will leave you!

There is an Egyptian man in Berne who ten years ago married a beautiful rich lady from Russia. With her money he has bought his family in Egypt a house for them to live in. He has convinced her to follow Islamist principles, and now she stays at home and has had 3 children with him. They have now decided that the Bernese social services are more generous to an unskilled family than a Swiss employer, and stay at home watching TV. However most evenings he can be seen in the best bars trying to convince pretty young Swiss ladies of the benefits of Islamism.

Let us hope you can avoid this path of western decadence!

anybody else as confused by this as me?

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Old 26.07.2011, 11:22
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Why do you want to marry a Swiss lady? They are well known to be feisty and independent. They will not make a good Muslim man very happy! You will have enormous problems changing your way of thinking & behaving, or she will leave you!

There is an Egyptian man in Berne who ten years ago married a beautiful rich lady from Russia. With her money he has bought his family in Egypt a house for them to live in. He has convinced her to follow Islamist principles, and now she stays at home and has had 3 children with him. They have now decided that the Bernese social services are more generous to an unskilled family than a Swiss employer, and stay at home watching TV. However most evenings he can be seen in the best bars trying to convince pretty young Swiss ladies of the benefits of Islamism.

Let us hope you can avoid this path of western decadence!
Ittigen, whilst your advice is coming with good intentions and allegedly good sources, not everyone will go down the same path. We dont know what goes on in their relationship and definitely in no position to judge based on their religious differences.

This man is asking for advice on proposals - not whether its a good idea to do it. Its like someone asking how to go about buying a car on here and people jump on him for not making good use of the excellent transportation system.
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Old 26.07.2011, 11:22
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I'm going to propose to my Swiss gf soon but i still want to know more about the Swiss culture, (specially the Swiss lovers culture ) i really want to surprise her and her family when i visit them.
Why not try and answer the original poster's question. It is fairly simple, but as with most people, experience isn't always available to him.

@ Scrambled: if you don't understand what I wrote, then just ignore it, I won't mind too much!

I repeat: Why do you want to marry a Swiss lady? They are well known to be feisty and independent. They will not make a good Muslim man very happy! You will have enormous problems changing your way of thinking & behaving, or she will leave you!

Swiss lovers' culture: Respect each other! Let your lover continue with her freedom. Do not expect to be invited to every meeting she has with a man. Do not in any way try and dominate her. Do not follow her when she goes out of the house. Trust her!

Simple isn't it? But can you really, really, do this?
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Why do you want to marry a Swiss lady? They are well known to be feisty and independent. They will not make a good Muslim man very happy! You will have enormous problems changing your way of thinking & behaving, or she will leave you!

There is an Egyptian man in Berne who ten years ago married a beautiful rich lady from Russia. With her money he has bought his family in Egypt a house for them to live in. He has convinced her to follow Islamist principles, and now she stays at home and has had 3 children with him. They have now decided that the Bernese social services are more generous to an unskilled family than a Swiss employer, and stay at home watching TV. However most evenings he can be seen in the best bars trying to convince pretty young Swiss ladies of the benefits of Islamism.

Let us hope you can avoid this path of western decadence!
I always see the negatives before the positive matters, I'm not going to force her to convert, it's up to her, all i care that she stay a Swiss.

We already spoke about many things, and she's ready to make some changes and me as well. The most important thing to her is the equal rights, and no question about it.


Thanks for the story, we have an saying here "In each house a bathroom"
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Old 26.07.2011, 11:35
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Why does she have to remain Swiss? Maybe she would like to become Egyptian?

It looks to me as though you are already imposing your wishes onto her future life.
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Why does she have to remain Swiss? Maybe she would like to become Egyptian?

It looks to me as though you are already imposing your wishes onto her future life.
If they have decided to live together and marry then what is the problem? let them decide for themselves.

as he said "In each house a bathroom"
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Why does she have to remain Swiss? Maybe she would like to become Egyptian?

It looks to me as though you are already imposing your wishes onto her future life.
All options are open, but i believe our kids will be half Arab and half Swiss, that's why i want her to stay a Swiss.

Some how imposing my wishes as long as i'm the responsible for her and she's happy with that
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Why does she have to remain Swiss? Maybe she would like to become Egyptian?

It looks to me as though you are already imposing your wishes onto her future life.
I respect you, not only because you're an Anthony Quinn look alike..but also because I like your posts....but come on man, those are personal matters. I feel like you're intruding in something which is none of our business.

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If they have decided to live together and marry then what is the problem? let them decide for themselves.
True.
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Old 26.07.2011, 11:48
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Re: About to propose to a Swiss

Its really difficult to take this thread seriously. Are you extolling the virtues of shared values in a happy marriage whilst at the same time telling about 53.000 strangers of your intention to propose, your plans for the future and those of your future children, whilst leaving the most important person in your life totally in the dark? I don`t know everything about Swiss women but I suspect if she knew this thread was running, she might consider that a total insult.
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Old 26.07.2011, 11:49
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Re: About to propose to a Swiss

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There's nothing particular in Swiss Culture about proposing....

Ask her dad, propose her if he accepts.

Could be funny if you wear one of our funny traditional costume (depending from where she is)

Good Luck and have a nice Life with her.
You have to be a bit more specific about the procedure and the costumes! How is he supposed to know?

I explained it once in detail in this thread: Getting engaged!

I am German, so the procedure is similar, but the clothes and weapons are different. We use sword, the Swiss prefer rapiers or sabres.

You can get nice ones on ricardo: http://www.ricardo.ch/kaufen/sammeln...v/an650857952/

I personally would meet them first and if they are open and tolerant, try it with some "fusion" approach - how about an Arabian scimitar?
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I would advise that you ask her father first. Unless you are a proper reprobate with no prospects, he will likely say yes.

You then have the advantage of having the parents onside. If you didn't ask him, and they are traditionalists, then your life could be made quite difficult by them.

I don't think it is a betrayal of your wife-to-be by any stretch of the imagination, just a tradition of politeness, and I would certainly expect any suitors of future girls of mine to show me some respect and ask.
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I respect you, not only because you're a Anthony Quinn look alike..but also because I like your posts....but come on man, those are personal matters. I feel like you're intruding in something which is none of our business.
I think he had an experience with similar matter, that's why his questions are direct. I like it.
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Re: About to propose to a Swiss

How to propose? Well, as per swiss lovers culture Following are the steps

- Take her to a lake with a ring in your pocket.
- Drop the ring in lake and hope a fish gulp it down.
- Invite her for a meal
- Go to Coop and buy a fish and serve it nicely to her.
- Surprise..!!! The ring you bought is there, freshly cooked [Don't ask me how did this happen, this is very swiss]
- !!! You may not have realised but you have just proposed her !!!

Good luck mate.
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? It's really untypical to ask the parents here. Women (of legal age) are considered very much independent here.
Advice, meet the parents before you propose and you should know if you have to "ask" your future father in law in advance. A good friend of mine did "ask" but I highly doubt that my brother in law asked my dad for permission.

For Swiss lovers culture, it is very unusual to propose just after a few months. Most couples I know actually lived together for many years before getting married. A reason to get married is that a child is on its way. So, if you want rush things, move into her place, knock her up, get married. Actually, her dad will then ask you, supported by his good buddy StGW 57.

If you want to dress up in traditional Swiss clothes do it at the right place like a Schwingerfest or Aelplerchilbi. But not at the very first time you are at a such place. Also August 1st could be a good occasion and an easy date to remember.
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How to propose? Well, as per swiss lovers culture Following are the steps

- Take her to a lake with a ring in your pocket.
- Drop the ring in lake and hope a fish gulp it down.
- Invite her for a meal
- Go to Coop and buy a fish and serve it nicely to her.
- Surprise..!!! The ring you bought is there, freshly cooked [Don't ask me how did this happen, this is very swiss]
- !!! You may not have realised but you have just proposed her !!!

Good luck mate.
and the meal of course would be ....... fish fringers
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and the meal of course would be ....... fish fringers
No no no, that ring is for ladyfinger not fishfinger
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Most couples I know actually lived together for many years before getting married. A reason to get married is that a child is on its way.
Yes, my girlfriend's parents lived together for 12 years before getting married! (and her sister was born not long after)

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