Hi all, I am looking for a reputable dating website (not an app). The websites that have been recommended to me are in German, Italian or French however I need one that is in English. I have tried hinge, bumble and tinder and they're not suitable as the guys aren't looking for anything serious. Can anyone help please? Thank you in advance

Well, considering the situation with respect to social contact, it may all be a bit on a hold now, apps and webs. Otherwise I'd focus on real life meetings through hobbies/interests/faith/friends network, etc. Good luck! Maybe we should have a "romantic corner" of sorts, here..

You could try here.
It looks serious enough. You'll have to use Google translate.

Thank you for your information. I appreciate your time.

I had the opposite impression of Hinge, I felt everyone to be way too serious for what I was looking for at the time. Perhaps make it more clear in your profile what you're after, to sort out the people only looking for ons/etc?

It makes no difference when you say what you are after, they either don't read it or will just lie about it.

I once did a lot of research into dating websites around the world, on behalf of a client (a multi-national dating website).


One of the key findings was:

Men always complained that women lied about their age and/or weight (using a profile picture taken 10+ years ago).


Women always complained that men lied about their marital status... (saying they were single when they were not even separated yet).



'twas ever thus...




Regards




Ian

I liked the old days of the personal columns and guys saying things like OHAT (own hair and teeth )

Today, it would be OBAL (own boobs and lips).

Or OBAA

I received a call from one of tenants who’s American single and he asked “I’ve met a person thru tinder and she saying that’s 99% woman” what that means ?

Well... I’m not that creative to explain what’s means 99% something....

Step 1: woman downloads dating app. Step 2: woman only swipes right on guys who are tall (over 6 foot), dark and handsome. Step 3: woman complains that tall, dark and handsome only wants sex. Step 4: woman moans that all guys are dogs :-)

How about getting off dating apps and meeting people in real life? The problem with dating apps is that they create a feeling of abundance (which makes people too choosy) and focus 100% on looks. The reason guys from dating sites are "not serious" is that the same group of guys get all the swipes and can afford to be time wasters as they have lots of options. This is why the 2 common complaints from dating apps are (i) men complain that they get no matches, and (ii) women complain that the guys they match with are not serious.

I'm more curious why someone from Lissabon would create a first post with the above question.

It’s xmas and he’s feeling lonely... give the guy a break!

Where, how?

Dating apps worked fine for my wife and myself, as well as a bunch of other people I know.

Tom

I have the feeling that Izaboo is a little bit confused -- maybe mixing 'dating' with 'marriage' ...

There are very reputable marriage agencies -- who charge a fee to BOTH sides, and are usually high-end. People there are background checked, and REALLY are desperate to find stability and avoid golddiggers or toyboys. The 'entrance fee' cuts out any of them. (been there, done that, got the T-shirt)

The Tinder, Grinder, Bumblebee, Match, Parship, etc etc are friendship, sexing & dating sites, ALL TOGETHER --meaning, trial&error... the quality of the stock () that you get, is as good as the profile that you set up - photos, description & interests. Also been there, done that, and got the T-shirt. Well, various T-shirts. And, finally, got the tailored suit

Regarding languages, well, if the site is in GE, probably it caters for locals, who speak the language - so better learn the language of the country that you intend to live on, or find a target at... :-)

Or, you can try the old style.... Curfew permitting. Supermarkets are great pickup places. And gyms. And of course, you always have the old style church goers. MeetUps, Cooking classes, Seminars, Exhibitions....if you need a couple of glasses of red (or white) before to shake off the shyness, make sure you go to a nice 4* hotel...or to a Irish Pub- but make sure that you target your audience!

Although, on a second read of your message, and with the information that you are based in Lisbon... are you maybe looking for a different type of arrangement....?

I used to add a comment to the end to the effect 'did you actually read what I wrote?' and would only respond to those who did!

Tom

Are you tall dark and handsome?

I met my wife on match.com and although definitely tall and dark wouldn't describe myself as particularly handsome.

Websites? I don't see OKC (OK Cupid) mentioned. You can specify languages (if English is preferred) and dating is what the site proposes.

Plenty of Fish is also out there, and these sites do provide localization capabilities too, so who knows, might work out.

It's not just guys who are looking for sex, and it very sexist to think otherwise.

Tom