As I said there is zero romance in the OP, but the fact is that in the cold light of day divorce within less than 10 years is a harsh reality. While it's fine wanting/expecting all of the notions of romance, the end result in case of a divorce where you plan for the worst case is probably a lot less messy and heartbreaking if you get your affairs (no pun intended) in order first (though perhaps not as brutally as the OP is doing).

The average divorce rate nowadays is over 50% and those are terrible odds for what will be a live-changing event no matter which way you look at it.

It's been answered before but perhaps a bit more beef on the bone is helpful.

The default arrangement in a Swiss marriage is called "Errungenschaftsbeteiligung", that is, everything acquired during the marriage is split, with inheritance being the exception.

The other option is called "Gütertrennung", that is, income and wealth remain separated even though you share bed and dinnertable. As a consequence nothing gets distributed or split between the two of you in case of divorce. In my experience many couples, including most who opted for Errungenschaftsbeteiligung, practice this to some extent (each has their own money, often called as pocket money even though the amounts can be quite substantial).

Why so many on here see the latter as reason to doubt your fitness for marriage isn't really evident, they remind me of missionars who accept only one choice as right. They made theirs just as you two will make yours, best of luck all!

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The decision can be changed during the marriage, back and forth and back, but of course it requires consent by both.

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This seems likely to affect what the surviving spouse inherits, or can inherit, if either dies. With shared wealth, arrangements exist that allow the surviving spouse to use all wealth until their death. With split wealth however that may not be possible, and with Switzerland's mandatory spliting of the inheritance the surviving spouse may get rather little. You may want to ask the notary.

Serious qu: why wouldn't she deserve the extra money? Should she not be compensated for, literally, her labouring? I know you don't need much education and training to have a child and obviously pushing a small human out of your body is unskilled labour and isn't as fun as a super duper job behind a desk, but still. It takes time you see and time doing that is time she can't spend earning her share of the CHFs.

For research purposes, please elaborate about what these dreary high paying jobs are. Plus the fun "normal" ones. My mind is a whirl at the possibilities.

I know of a church in Vegas that dispenses the sort of marriage you might be interested in.

What is the biggest part of this I can't understand:

A divorce is not like this, you can't predict the future. No paper now will ensure a good divorce, 50/50, money etc.

Life changes

So it's all based on trust and hoping for the best, even with legal papers!

From all the reasons given, marriage has only a real impact on #2. 5 instead of 10 years residency. #3 is optional with marriage and if OPs country of citizenship offers a simple name change such as the UK marriage is not needed for a single family name.

But the name change form is only valid in some countries. (ex husband did this and it wasn't globally accepted)

Marriage has nothing to do with the kids getting Swiss citizenship.

If at least on parent is Swiss, they are Swiss.

Tom

And they said romance was dead.

She'd be better off with a dog in my humble opinion!

I think it's called a platonic marriage, i suggest you go and ask a catholic priest for a bit of guidance...........there again, maybe the priest has a few obligations tucked away under his cassock.....

Then there wouldn't be any kids.

With a combined income of 30K they surely can pay to achieve kids without sex.

Robots?

Cute little ones.. and you could switch them off when they get too loud.

Now, why didn't I think of that.

For tax reasons it is finacially better to stay single

The tax authorities have been saying that they will fix this, but no sign of that yet.

There are lots of other reasons to get married (I did) but income taxes is not one of them.

Entering into a marriage with an exit strategy and divorce planning foremost in mind is a fundamentally flawed process. Whatever good you think may come of it is merely an illusion. No matter how you rationalize it, the three, five, or ten years or whatever time you waste with this half-in half-out mentality can never be returned to you.

Do yourself and your potential bride a kindness and just forget the whole thing.

He may never get the years back but if anything at least he can minimize the potential financial (if not the emotional) fallout.

Plenty of people with assets to protect make pre-nups, and show me some statistics that say their marriage is more likely to fail than someone who doesn't.

I know many people for whom the separation of assets has worked out well.

Tom

Wow. I can't figure what sort of marriage arrangements are you having in mind. I would be surprised if your soon to be wife will agree with this!

Imagine how would be like to have such a partner. Cute....