When my wife and I got married, SHE wanted a separation of assets, but both I and her long term lawyer convinced her that it would be against her own interests!

Tom

Very pragmatic, isn't it. It was never a topic of discussions for us.

I take it that you didn't get married in Switzerland, then?

In Switzerland, you have to decide one of the three options.

Tom

You don't have to decide. If no decision is taken, there is always a default one

@timpeterson
Is that you, Jeff B.?

We had to decide, it was part of the process, same with names.

No decision, no marriage.

Tom

Three? What's the third besides the separate and joint assets?

The default: participation in gain / Accrual System (Errungenschaftbeteiligung).

https://www.ch.ch/en/matrimonial-regime/

The concept itself is fine. In many cases, it’s an intelligent and responsible option. If mutually communicated and well thought out and with input from professionals in the field, it may even be largely beneficial.

That’s does not seem to be the case here. It’s either a citizenship sham, which I want no part in enabling, or a multi-track catastrophe which neither party or their families and friends deserve.

I guess it’s also possible it might not even be a real post. Maybe some dragonwings or dragonlady or whatever it was trolling.

I meant the accrual system above (Errungenschaftsbeteiligung), didn't know you can join them completely.

doesn't that depend on how well the wife gets on with the milkman and the plumber?

Great stuff guys! Thanks! Seems like marriage is not the solution even though there is much outside pressure to do so. Seems like people often marry because of outside pressure. Marriage is not unnecessary pressure to keep a marriage together. In my opinion relationships are like soap. The harder you squeeze the further i flies

Ps. Interesting that there is several "hater" posts

Soap takes work and commitment and respect. Or it gets in your delicate bits and stings like fury.

Yes OP, take the haters' advice and don't get married. Ever!