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Old 01.06.2012, 16:15
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Adoption of a pet misery!

Hi, I need to blow some steam off! My pet peeve (haha) right now is how difficult it is to adopt an animal!

I am looking to adopt a little kitten. They are plenty looking for a good home and a life time family, something I can provide easily. Like Toutoune was, the cat would be a equal member of this family.

Now, associations are making it very very difficult to adopt a cat. They start with this huge questionnaire of 2-3-4 pages and they reject you based on details like not having a balcony or having one, or kids are too youngs or what ever else. What about taking in consideration the experience and past of the person? I have everything needed to give a life time home to a cat.

At the end, I am going to be so sick and tired to run around like crazy, calling, emailing, answering questionnaires, etc, that I will just go and buy one.

I was ready to rent a car and go out of town to pick up the little precious, but the lady said no, I have kids under five. what about the fact that they grow up with a cat already? Grrrr!

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Give up, and get your kids the perfect pet instead.
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Old 01.06.2012, 16:29
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Re: Adoption of a pet misery!

This in CH, Nil?

¡Ay, caramba!

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Re: Adoption of a pet misery!

So sorry to hear you're having problems.

I had issues adopting my cat in the UK - rang up a rescue centre, and they said "We'll have to check on where you live". No-one came round (at least not to the extent of ringing on the doorbell). A week later I rang back and they said "Sorry, you live too close to a busy road. A cat in a panic could run out of your front door, and get hit by a car." I pointed out that this would involve the cat running out of my front door, choosing to take a sharp turn to the left, scaling a very high gate, running down a path, turning a sharp right and then running down an alleyway... but no good. (I think they just googled my address it came up as 'close to xx road' so they didn't bother to check out the property.)

I actually got Tabitha from a vets. My dad spent a Saturday afternoon driving around going to all the vets in town and saying 'Do you know of any cats that need a good home?'. And one of them said 'Yes, we have a stray in right now who will need a new home in a few weeks time.'

Just wondering if that might be an option for you? My impression is that vets are a lot more 'realistic' than some of these rescue places about what an unwanted cat needs (i.e. a good home with an owner who will care for them).
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My impression is that vets are a lot more 'realistic' than some of these rescue places about what an unwanted cat needs (i.e. a good home with an owner who will care for them).
I agree with this. One of our rescues came to us through a veterinarian who knew us, knew how we cared for our dog (at the time we had just one) and thought we would give another dog a good home.

That was in Japan, 9 years ago, perhaps things are different there as at the time there was only 1 no kill shelter, so veterinarians took a very pragmatic approach to finding a home because they knew there were no other options for unwanted animals.
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Re: Adoption of a pet misery!

Yeah, getting pussy can sometimes be a problem, a dog is always easier to get!
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Re: Adoption of a pet misery!

I am surprised that this is happening in Spain - I was just reading how a shelter in the south of Spain was complaining because they had quite a few people kindly rescuing dogs from the streets but unfortunately none was thinking of adopting themselves. They said it was nice to bring the animals to them, but they didn't have much space any longer.

Traditionally Spain is not a country with massive cats adoption (there are more dogs) but i am still surprised at the amount of questions and reservation.

If you have someone local, it may increase the success rate. Send me a private msg if you need any help emailing or calling them.

Good luck!

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I am surprised that this is happening in Spain - I was just reading how a shelter in the south of Spain was complaining because they had quite a few people kindly rescuing dogs from the streets but unfortunately none was thinking of adopting themselves. They said it was nice to bring the animals to them, but they didn't have much space any longer.

Traditionally Spain is not a country with massive cats adoption (there are more dogs) but i am still surprised at the amount of questions and reservation.

If you have someone local, it may increase the success rate. Send me a private msg if you need any help emailing or calling them.

Good luck!
It's crazy! I got the help of few friends form here. It is frustrating! And so many announce they are in town and when you show that you are indeed interested and ask to visit, it is a train trip outside the city!

Oh, and the last one is an email saying that apparently the little girl is not a girl but a boy, they just found it out at the vet. it is not that difficult to find out for Juan's sake! And what about what they said in the ads about already have been checked by the vet??
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Re: Adoption of a pet misery!

Nil, I understand your frustration - but the procedures in place are there to avoid exactly the things that landed the poor animal in the first place, namely: acquiring a pet too easily, when the family is not ready for the responsibility nor able to make the commitment required. The process requires a prospective adopter to prove that the family is ready for that commitment, and that the fit between the animal and the family is a good one.

Rescues the world over have seen over and over again: it is because it's so easy to get a pet from an irresponsible source that animals get dumped. People buy on a whim, and abandon the animal at the first sign of inconvenience. The rehoming criteria, the rehoming process aims to weed out such 'whimisical' poorly thought out adoptions, so that the poor animal is not let down yet again.

Yes, the questionnaire is detailed - the rescue has to get to know you in order to determine what is best for the animal.

One thing I see frequently when assessing families looking to adopt is how unprepared people are, they are so often unable to explain WHY they are the right family for this pet. I cannot stress enough how important it is to do this - afterall, the rescue don't know you - yet.

I know you are a fantastic cat owner - I certainly can see this having had a chance to get to 'know' you through your posts over the years. But the rescue has not had that luxury, so you need to 'sell' yourself to them, demonstrate just how good a cat owner you are. Be proactive on this!

Each rescue sets it's own criteria, some are very flexible, some not. Try to determine what those 'non negotiables' are before you get too far into the process. And while it may seem odd to you that a rescue might decide that the animals must be indoor or outdoor, that you must have a balcony, that the animal cannot live with children, or that the animal must have a child companion when perhaps your experience with other pets has not born this out, nonetheless these criteria are set based on the rescue's experience or philosophy, and the specific needs of the individual in question.

Another thing I can't stress enough - write the rescue first, outlining how great a pet owner you are, how committed to animal welfare you are, what you are looking for in your next pet and why. Lay the groundwork so that when you speak to the rescue they already have a favorable impression. With a favorable impression already established, a rescue just might be willing to be more flexible in your case if needed.

Use your past experience, show how you provided a wonderful home for Toutoune in 4 different countries. Talk about how you introduced her to your children, how you taught your children to be respectful of animals.

I would get your vet to write a letter of reference, send that in with your first contact. References are key.

So that I don't repeat myself - well, not much - I'll link my comments from this thread:

Why is adopting a cat in CH so difficult?

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Have you spoken to Tiere In Spanien? They are based in the Barcelona area, and work with several German rescues. They are primarily a dog rescue, but do have some cats looking for homes:

http://www.tierhilfe-in-spanien.de/p....php?menuid=19

(Read their Vermittlungsinfos - they detail their adoption process, discuss what they are looking for. Many rescues follow similar procedures.)

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Wishing you, and all the family, and hopefully a soon new feline friend, all the very best.
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Old 02.06.2012, 01:36
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Re: Adoption of a pet misery!

Not quite sure if this will help you, but I hope in future you will look back and smile.

I went through a similar situation back in Nov, I lost my beloved long time cat and I wanted and had to look for another cat. I had to do it asap because my youngest cat was alone and missing like hell the one that passed away.

I tried several options closed by and a bit further. None of them worked out for various reasons and I was desperate as I hardly could sleep as my youngest was all night asking for strokes and attention. (Btw, I was also rejected several times in rescue centers in CH, mainly because the lack of available cats that would fit my family situation - no outside, another cat in the household, etc.)

Finally I found a suitable cat, who's owner thought I was a good new owner and decided to go to pick her up, 500km away from Zurich in a trip that lasted a painful entire day.

I was annoyed that it took that much suffering to get Her at my place, for all of us. My youngest many hours again alone, me exhausted without almost a day of rest, and the new cat travelling so many hours.

End of the story, it was well worth it! I do not want any other cat that the one I took from 500km away, she has settled perfectly and the 3 of us are made for each other.

Hopefully you will have a new cat-friend soon, and all the effort and disappointment will be justified, as this one was the one and only!
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Another thing I can't stress enough - write the rescue first, outlining how great a pet owner you are, how committed to animal welfare you are, what you are looking for in your next pet and why. Lay the groundwork so that when you speak to the rescue they already have a favorable impression. With a favorable impression already established, a rescue just might be willing to be more flexible in your case if needed.

Use your past experience, show how you provided a wonderful home for Toutoune in 4 different countries. Talk about how you introduced her to your children, how you taught your children to be respectful of animals.

I would get your vet to write a letter of reference, send that in with your first contact. References are key.
Thanks for the great infos. I actually did sell myself and the family. I even send her a picture of the kids with Toutoune, I told her everything you mentioned and more. She didn't even bother to answer me back.

It is already difficult to adopt an animal, difficult for an animal to get a good home and on top of that you get a rude rescuer.

I'll check to link and will look again today. I am looking since weeks way before Toutoune got bad. I wanted to add a new family member but I stepped back when Toutoune got bad. And mostly, my experience has been very frustrating.
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And mostly, my experience has been very frustrating.

It sounds like it, but don't give up. Sometimes you find what you are looking for when you least expected.
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Handling a well socialised adult cat is very different to a kitten. We chose not to have a kitten until our girls were old enough to understand how to handle such a small and delicate animal.

Perhaps it would be a good idea to state that you will put a child gate on one of the bedrooms, so that kitten always has a 'bolt hole' to escape from over attention and fuss from the kids. This is essential if the cat lives indoor - ours could always go and hide in the garden under a hedge or behind the shed if they had 'enough'. Bonne chance. Perhaps always state categorically that although you may have to move in the next few years, kitty will definitely be coming with you. (sadly Spain and France is full of cats, dogs, and any kind of animal quickly adopted by ex-pats and then abandoned when times get tough).
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Perhaps it would be a good idea to state that you will put a child gate on one of the bedrooms, so that kitten always has a 'bolt hole' to escape from over attention and fuss from the kids. This is essential if the cat lives indoor - ours could always go and hide in the garden under a hedge or behind the shed if they had 'enough'. Bonne chance. Perhaps always state categorically that although you may have to move in the next few years, kitty will definitely be coming with you. (sadly Spain and France is full of cats, dogs, and any kind of animal quickly adopted by ex-pats and then abandoned when times get tough).
I always mention that Toutoune was with me for 12 years, I got her when she was 5 and she lived in 4 different countries with me.
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Re: Adoption of a pet misery!

Chance came up with a Catalan association of rescued cats looking for a life time home. The lady was so so sweet and she understood that I was going to give a good home to a little gatito.

Yesterday, I brang home our new family member Xavi (is it obvious I am a Barca fan?)

He is 2 months old and totally adorable. He is scared so I keep him now in a room which I visit any times per day. But it looks very good, he purrs at the moment he sees me and he already started to give me kisses and hugs.

Un Amor de gato!
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Re: Adoption of a pet misery!

Congrats, Nil!

Xavi is absolutely adorable. Looks like a match made in heaven.

Here's to many years of fun, friendship, and good times shared - for the whole family.



(And good on ya for sticking to the rescue search, despite the bumps in the road. You've done a very good thing.)
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*engineer mode on* Is that a sink? Where are the taps located? Which room is it in? *engineer mode off*

So cute! Congratulations! Maybe you can get him a friend to play with now that you have found a reasonable shelter?
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Aww he is so cute. I'm so pleased you found a kitty who needed a good home.
He looks just like our cat who goes by the very imaginative name of Ginger (except maybe with less white).
We got him at 5 weeks old when his mum was killed by a car and his 2 siblings died too. He's seven months now and still gorgeous. He still loves to cuddle the toy we gave him when he arrived and sleeps with it all the time.
I think your little bundle will grow up to be gorgeous too.

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Congrats, Nil!

Xavi is absolutely adorable. Looks like a match made in heaven.

Here's to many years of fun, friendship, and good times shared - for the whole family.



(And good on ya for sticking to the rescue search, despite the bumps in the road. You've done a very good thing.)
I am very happy that I stick to it! All my pets were rescued and they do amazing pet. This association is also wonderful for follow up and they make you sign a contract that specify the obligation of castration. I had to pay a few for the cat, which I thought would be for paperwork and time but no, it comes out that it includes shots, vet visit and castration for a ridiculous price of 90 euros!!! I didn't know and I didn't care but when I found out about it I was very proud.

It is very difficult and I still grinding my teeth over the memory of it but when you find a good association with great common sense, it is wonderful!

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